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golden1215
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holy crap
I read this online:
If your parents were divorced, you’re at least 40 percent more likely to get divorced than if they weren’t. If your parents married others after divorcing, you're 91 percent more likely to get divorced.
So FI & I are screwed since both sets of our parents divorced and then remarried. Damn.
http://www.thedailybeast.com/blogs-and-stories/2010-05-19/15-ways-to-predict-divorce/
If your parents were divorced, you’re at least 40 percent more likely to get divorced than if they weren’t. If your parents married others after divorcing, you're 91 percent more likely to get divorced.
So FI & I are screwed since both sets of our parents divorced and then remarried. Damn.
http://www.thedailybeast.com/blogs-and-stories/2010-05-19/15-ways-to-predict-divorce/
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Re: holy crap
I plan on being one of the 9%... but I guess everyone says that. ha
I know for me, personally, because I have divorced parents, I want to try that much harder to make my marriage last, and I think that lots of people with divorced parents feel the same way.
But I'm in the same boat as CS. H's parents are happily married.
[QUOTE]I think that stat is pretty bogus, TBH.. <strong>I know for me, personally, because I have divorced parents, I want to try that much harder to make my marriage last</strong>, and I think that lots of people with divorced parents feel the same way. But I'm in the same boat as CS. H's parents are happily married.
Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]
thats exactly what I think. but I guess the article was saying you view marriages as more disposable or whatever... idk
[QUOTE]if she didnt breastfeed you ur totally screwed. my condolences in advance.
Posted by golden1215[/QUOTE]
Yeah that's probably right. :) I think coming from a divorced parental situation kinda put a damper on my wedding day because I know that its not really forever if you can get a divorce. However I think I've seen what DOESN'T work in a marriage and can maybe learn from that?
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Yeah, not buying into it at all. Of course I wouldn't be getting married if I did.
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[QUOTE]I think that stat is pretty bogus, TBH.. <strong>I know for me, personally, because I have divorced parents, I want to try that much harder to make my marriage last, and I think that lots of people with divorced parents feel the same way. </strong>But I'm in the same boat as CS. H's parents are happily married.
Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]
My grandmother was divorced 3 times. My mom was adamantly against divorce. I mean, my mom IS divorced and remarried, but I think her mother's relationship issues made her stay in her marriage and work on it a lot longer than she would have otherwise (26 years).
Stats like this (also like the "50% of married couples get divorced" thing) are really skewed/flawed.
Actual fact - couples with college degrees are only 25% likely to get a divorce, overall, and only 15% will divorce after making it through 10 years of marriage.
<a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2005/04/19/health/19divo.html?_r=2" rel="nofollow">http://www.nytimes.com/2005/04/19/health/19divo.html?_r=2</a>
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I can kind of get it though, if your parents divorced when you were young you don't really have any idea of what a happy succesfull marriage looks like. Although for FI it just makes him want to work that much harder at ours.
[QUOTE]My parents have been together since they were 15, FI's mom has been married 3 times...do we cancel each other out??? <strong> I can kind of get it though, if your parents divorced when you were young you don't really have any idea of what a happy succesfull marriage looks like.</strong> Although for FI it just makes him want to work that much harder at ours.
Posted by jnic0319[/QUOTE]
This has always been a big fear of mine. My parents separated when I was 3 and while I'm kind of glad because I wasn't old enough to realize what was happening, I also have no memory of being in a household with two adults who are working together, compromising, making joint decisions, etc.
So I've long been afraid that I won't know <em>how</em> to be married. Or how to have a child with someone as it was always my mom's way or the highway in our house. If she wanted to make a rule, she made it. She didn't have to consult another adult or make sure they stayed on the same page.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: holy crap : T<strong>his has always been a big fear of mine. My parents separated when I was 3 and while I'm kind of glad because I wasn't old enough to realize what was happening, I also have no memory of being in a household with two adults who are working together, compromising, making joint decisions, etc. So I've long been afraid that I won't know how to be married. </strong> Or how to have a child with someone as it was always my mom's way or the highway in our house. If she wanted to make a rule, she made it. She didn't have to consult another adult or make sure they stayed on the same page.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]
I can see that, but at the same time, my parents divorced when I was 23. I only have their marriage as a model for success and trust me, you wouldn't want that modeled for you, either.
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My Mom was married prior to my dad for 2 yrs then got divorced. My Mom and Dad were married for 16 yrs before he passed away. She has yet to remarry, but is w/ someone great and will most likely marry next year. My parents loved each other that I'm sure of, but there was never any love in the air between them...his health problems were a huge strain on their relationship.
So where does that put my FI and me?
Disfunctionally off the charts b/c we don't fall into a specific category?
I know FI and I try hard to change behaviors that we saw growing up...or lack of actions rather. So hopefully w/ us wanting to break away from what we saw as kids we can beat the odds!