Hi everyone! My bf and I have decided that we will be getting married in KC for sure. But he (I really don't mind either way) hasn't decided if he is okay with getting married someplace besides a church. We are both very strong Christians - but he grew up a little 'more strict' that I did, i.e. going EVERY sunday, etc. Problem is, I'm from Nebraska and we've both been in St. Louis the last 5 years (school - where we met). The church he grew up in lost a lot of members after losing a pastor and has recently shut its doors - the church was tiny - seating for about 20 anyways - so I feel like I should start looking for churches. Problem is - we don't have a regular church, his mom doesn't either (it was his) and if he decides he's not comfortable with just any place I want to have ideas in my head. My question - do you know of any churches out there that will let you have your own officiant for the ceremony? BFs uncle is a pastor, and his lifelong pastor may be in the states at the time, so we'd of course rather have one of them officiate - mostly because they KNOW us. We have thought about christian pre-marital counseling with one of them, and want the ceremony to be personal not just some random pastor to marry us. I know some places will let your own officiant say a couple words but not perform the ceremony - and I do not like that idea. So, any ideas? Anyone else doing this/done this?? I went to both baptist and non-denom churches when I was in NE and he is pentacostal - I don't either of us would mind what denom the church was - except Lutheran or Catholic of course, they're usually strict anyways.
Thanks in advance - sorry for it being so long!!
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