Traditionally, who gives speeches/toasts and when?

hz80408 · August 2010

RH:
FI and I?
FOG?

Reception:
FOB
MOH
BM

?
Thanks!

marisah83 · August 2010

I think what you listed above sounds good. I've been to several weddings though where the fathers didn't give speeches, so I would say ask them if they really want to do so.

danieliza1127 · August 2010

I think it varies honestly.

I'd say typically the FOG gives a toast at the RD because usually the FOG and MOG host the RD - if you're doing it that way. That's not always the case.

Typically at the wedding, the Best Man, MOH, and FOB give a toast. Again though, it's all up for what you want to do. My step-dad (who was FOB at my wedding), didn't give a toast because he doesn't like speaking in public like that so no biggie.

hz80408 · August 2010

Great, the OP is my lineup. My dad (FOB) is a huge talker (and a great speaker) so we've discussed him doing a welcoming/blessing/toast once everyone is seating.

Only problem is that at RHD FI and I are terrified to talk and both awful speakers!

Thanks!

danieliza1127 · August 2010

Sorry, I meant to say FOG and MOG host the RD.

tenofcups4me · August 2010

At weddings, I typically see the MOH and BM, usually the bride and groom, rarely the parents. I'm not accustomed to rehearsal dinners so don't know what the norms are there.

And I've gotta say it seems incredibly weird to me to have both fathers speak but not the mothers unless there are no mothers in the picture.

[Deleted User] · August 2010

Yes, I think it varies as well. For us, my H and I gave a speech at the RD, but no one else. Then the BM and MOH gave a speech/toast after dinner at the reception. H and I also made another short speech thanking everyone again that shared our special day with us.

chigirl2010 · August 2010

I just went to a wedding this weekend. The entire bridal party spoke - the BMs together as one unit and the GM together as one unit (each set was the bride's/groom's best friends growing up so it made sense for them to speak as a unit since they'd all known each other for 20+ years) - and then the fathers spoke on behalf of the families. It wasn't weird that only the father's spoke; I think they just picked who'd be best at public speaking/who wanted to do it.

Kristin789 · August 2010

Traditionally:

The RD begins by a short welcome by FI's parents, because FI's parents are hosting the RD.

The wedding reception begins with the announcing of the bride&groom - or in some regions of the country it begins with the announcing of the whole BP. Then the band swings into the couple's first dance, then the father/daughter dance, then the mother/son dance if you are doing that. Then the FOB takes the microphone from the band leader / DJ, and welcomes everyone to the event, because the FOB and MOB are the hosts of the event. After that, traditionally, the Best Man gives a toast to the couple and then dinner is served.

balasj · August 2010

I think you have it down as what's rather traditional but if you guys have an additional special person in your lives you could certainly ask that person to say a few words if they would like. And of course if anyone is too shy its not necessary to speak, you can def break the 'rules' a little and substitute with a friend that doesn't mind a crowd.

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