help! catholic & baptist?!

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• aggiebug member

  

  April 2010 edited December 2011

  what are your plans after you are married? are you going to practice only one faith?  I think this makes a difference.

  Love is like infinity: You can't have more or less infinity, and you can't compare two things to see if they're "equally infinite." Infinity just is, and that's the way I think love is, too.
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• Calypso1977 member

  

  April 2010 edited December 2011

  you will have to have a Catholic wedding, performed by a priest, in order for the Catholic Church to recognize the marraige, which i assume you want.  you can get a dispensation to also have a baptist clergy person there. 
  
  are there any common readings you could use/incorporate?

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• sweetpea0911 member

  

  April 2010 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_christian-weddings_catholic-baptist?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:464687ae-7bc1-4360-9aea-999e11f1e1adDiscussion:26d94f2c-d634-46b0-8d42-c96d1ddcecdePost:ef97f42a-e375-437f-afe3-2206b0210f41">Re: help! catholic & baptist?!</a>:
  [QUOTE]what are your plans after you are married? are you going to practice only one faith?  I think this makes a difference.
  Posted by aggiebug[/QUOTE]
  
  This.  It's very important to discuss this.  J and I are having the same type of issues (well, we've worked them out) but it should be something you consider.  If you are practicing only one faith and it's Catholic, you must marry in the Catholic Church.  If you will only practice one faith and it's Baptist, than you can marry is accordance with their guidelines only.  If you will practice both, I would marry in the Catholic Church as well, and then refer you to the Catholic weddings board to get more informtion on how to make it relevant to your FI and his faith as well.
  
  Good luck!

  
  
  
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• amberoselizebeth member

  

  April 2010 edited December 2011

  that sounds like a good idea!
  and we are planning on attending both churches together,
  because we feel that it is very important, but we willl
  decide on one once we start our family

  

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• sweetpea0911 member

  

  April 2010 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_christian-weddings_catholic-baptist?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:464687ae-7bc1-4360-9aea-999e11f1e1adDiscussion:26d94f2c-d634-46b0-8d42-c96d1ddcecdePost:6793013f-7fc2-4d28-8089-556b1470b77d">Re: help! catholic & baptist?!</a>:
  [QUOTE]that sounds like a good idea! and we are planning on attending both churches together, because we feel that it is very important, but we willl decide on one once we start our family
  Posted by amberoselizebeth[/QUOTE]
  
  Then I stand by my last thing and say marry in the Catholic church and head over to the Catholic board, as well as talk to your priest (or the priest at the church you would marry in) about how to go about including parts of your FI's beliefs into the ceremony.
  
  Good luck with the wedding and practicing both denominations - it will be tough.  J and I are going through the same thing, though, and we believe it can be done as long as we keep our focus on God =]

  
  
  
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• aggiebug member

  

  April 2010 edited December 2011

  I agree with sweetpea, the catholic church will be very strict on recognizing the marriage, it is easiest to marry in that church now instead of validating it later.

  
  

  I would also recommend going to other denominations/ churches to find a church home together.  Maybe a medium between the 2? Good luck it is possible!

  Love is like infinity: You can't have more or less infinity, and you can't compare two things to see if they're "equally infinite." Infinity just is, and that's the way I think love is, too.
  Fred Rogers

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• SaraAndrew2010 member

  

  April 2010 edited December 2011

  Actually, the Catholic church is pretty accomodating when it comes to inter-denominational marriages.  As long as you do some paperwork and get a dispensation, the church will recognize a marriage officated by a Christian minister if one of the couple is non-Catholic.
  
  This website has a good explanation of all your options.
  http://catholicweddinghelp.com/questions/wedding-form-options.htm

  My wedding bio: http://saraandrewbio.weebly.com/

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• Calypso1977 member

  

  April 2010 edited December 2011

  and we are planning on attending both churches together,
  because we feel that it is very important, but we willl
  decide on one once we start our family
  
  i really, really, really stress you to decide this NOW, and not wait until you have kids.  major problems can arise when you dont agree on waht faith you wish to raise your children in, and its alot easier to decide now, tehn when a baby is in your arms and there is fighting between you over where to baptize him/her.
  

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• amberoselizebeth member

  

  April 2010 edited December 2011

  thank you sara! that was very helpful
  and yes, it is going to be very tough and i'll talk to him
  about deciding sooner rather than later

  

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• Calypso1977 member

  

  April 2010 edited December 2011

  i think you will glad you did, Amber.  good luck to you!!

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