Should I just cancel my Bachelorette Party

happydaisygirl · April 2010

I have 2 girls in my wedding - my MOH is my fiance's sister who i am pretty close to and my best girl friend - So, I really didn't care about having a bachelorette party but my fiance said I should have one. I don't have many friends so its just going to be me and the 2 girls and my FMIL (she is cool) (my mom can't make it) - anywho.....my MOH booked a hotel room at the casino/spa - we will all stay in one suite and then have a spa day then go to the casino that night. At first my MOH booked something way too expensive and I found out about it and so she agreed to change it. (She doesn't want me paying for anything so them 3 will be paying for it and I didn't want them spending so much money and I wanted everyone to be able to participate in everything) - So, now the price has gone down which is great but now my other bridesmaid told my MOH she doesn't want to participate in the spa stuff - This is supposed to be something that we all can do together and if one person doesn't participate in something then whats the point of even going?

I am just over the drama of this and don't even want to go now - what do i do?
What are you doing for your bachelorette party if you are having a small one?

banana468 · April 2010

My bachelorette was just dinner and drinks with friends. Some bachelorettes involve spas and hotels but why not make yours more low key?

mbcdefg · April 2010

I would talk to the girls and ask what everyone can afford and wants to do, and work it out from there.

I would also be careful not to take too much of the lead on this one. Ideally, they should be throwing it for you, and you shouldn't be organizing it. And if they are nice enough to do something for you, I would graciously accept it under most circumstances ... I get why you are unhappy, but I also think you could really offend them if you cancel it. They're going to a lot of trouble for you and it wouldn't be right to cancel it after they've made plans.

Mine was actually last night. I went out with 7 other girls and we had a low-key dinner and then went to a comedy club. That was the only planned activity for the night, and two went home, but the other 5 and I went to a local bar for a couple drinks after that. It was a lot of fun!

blackfire5th · April 2010

We went to Red Robin so those under and over 21 would have something fun to drink. Then we went to a place called Fort Fun that had bumper boats, mini golf, laser tag, go karts, etc.

It was low key and a lot of fun to hang out with my friends!

happydaisygirl · April 2010

Thanks for the advice - I like the idea of dinner and maybe going to Jillians for bowling and games and just hanging out - Also think I will have her invite a few more people that I'm not great friends with but they are friends and it would make the night more fun.

I know I shouldn't be planning any of this and I didn't want to but when I found out how much my MOH was making my other bridesmaid spend, I had to step in and now my MOH has contacted me because she doesnt know what to do now that the bridesmaid doesnt want to participate. Once I found out about the spa stuff, I wasn't excited cause i'm not a spa kind of girl - oh well, It will all work out, this is the only thing that has been stressing me out about the wedding

emilyinchile · April 2010

I would just tell your MOH that you want whatever she and the other BMs plan to be something everyone can afford and everyone will enjoy. Let her and the other girls take it from there.

Inviting more friends is great, just make sure you only invite people who are also invited to the wedding (ditto for any showers).

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