2 registry questions.

Re: 2 registry questions.

• s-aries8990 member

  

  January 2013

  1) You can register as soon as you would like. I think most give a 6-9 month mark because items may get discontinued, so it's kind of chance-y to register farther out than that.
  
  2) You should totally register, especially for items you don't have but truly want, like that kitchen aid mixer or that awesome cast iron skillet. If you families know you, they know your situation is kind of a modge-podge of things. AND, if people don't want to buy things from the registry, they won't anyway.

   

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• amymaysa

  

  January 2013

  You are fine to register for things, even though you live together.
  
  Upgrade things or finally get those sets of pans you always wanted, etc.

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• Jager1219 member

  

  January 2013

  Definately register!  And put on there anything you need - sheets, towels, dishes, pots & pans, bathroom accessories, living room accessories, I've even seen furniture (just keep in mind that most people won't buy you a couch even if you register, but you may get a discount later).  Secondly, I'd do it soon.  We had an engagement party and even though we told friends & family not to bring gifts, I still got stuff and I had to return most of it.  If I registered, it would have avoided that.

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• Fancypantsamy member

  

  January 2013

  I lived with my husband before we got married and I still registered! We had never really had the extra money to buy a decent set of flatware or everyday plates that matched and weren't chipped etc. Also, people will still want to give you physical gifts. Furthermore, if people want to get you something that isn't on the registry, it's still a good guideline. My mom's best friend quilted a beautiful table runner for me as a shower gift, and she knew it would match my kitchen because she looked at the registry and saw the color of the dishes I was registering for. Another person made us an afghan to coordinate with the duvet cover we requested. Registries are helpful!

  

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  January 2013

  You can register whenever you like.
  
  Also, it doesn't matter that you have lived together 2 years or 30 years.  You can still register because there are always things that you need or want to upgrade like sheets and towels, etc.

  
  

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• SJM7538 member

  

  January 2013 edited January 2013

  Thanks Everyone!
  
  FI wanted to start registering now but we almost had to postpone the wedding for financial reasons so I wasn't sure when exaclty we should start. Thankfully my wonderful FMIL came forward and helped us out so we can stay on track with the wedding plans. I think I will wait another month or two.
  
  I'm so excited for new blankets and towels!

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• cwaggoner07 member

  

  January 2013

  We never received a gift until our first shower, which was 2 months beforehand, and we were registered well before then. It's an easy thing to check off the list, but it's not a crucial timeline (at least it wasn't for us).

  It was a fairytale.

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• bridalmarch member

  

  January 2013

  We registered abut 5 months before our March wedding. My shower is at the end of this month. I did end up having to redo our Crate and Barrel registry because a lot of it was discontinued, but I think that was because of end of year turnover. Also, it's nice to register early because if people get coupons or see a great sale or something, it's nice to have your registry to refer to. My aunt got my Christmas gift off of our registry. 

  
  

  FI and I have lived together for almost three years and have a daughter together, but we still registered for some upgrades. I'm just getting into cooking and baking so I'm pretty excited for some nicer kitchen stuff.

  

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• MrsJoshuaParker4

  

  January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_2-registry-questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:9c00609e-db12-4ae2-a3df-68d2c82ac742Post:032e8e09-0acc-400f-9716-3da93de325cb">2 registry questions.</a>:
  [QUOTE]Hi Ladies. I have two registry questions. I am posting them here because I know this board is pretty active. 1.) When should we start registering? My wedding is in October and I've read a few different articles that give different time frames. One said 6-9 months in advance because "people will want to buy you gifts right away."  My mom isn't planning on having my shower until the beginning of September so this just seems a bit absurb to me to register that early on. 2.) My fiance and I already live together, we have for a little over 2 years now, we have a house but we were still planning on registering. FI bought the house and lived with a previous girlfriend and she pretty much took everything when she moved out. I had an apartment with a my ex-boyfriend prior to getting together with my fiance and when I moved out of that apartment I took nothing but my clothes, my bed and my cat. So even though we have lived together for awhile there is a lot of stuff that we don't have. We've bought some things and have some hand me down stuff but thats about it. So my question is this - does it seem gift grabby to register even though we live together? I appreciate any advice! Thanks!
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  1) you can register whenever! i registered this summer before we actually had a date nailed down (which we ended up picking Oct. 11) and it works out fine. when i registered the lady was really nice and said it was a good time to register because of the sales /deals that were happening (like with my China, Crystal and Flatware). Plus, my mom & other family members shopped off of it for me for xmas & my birthday is coming up and i already told my family i want stuff from my registry or giftcards to Macy's so i could pick it up :)
  
  2) i was in a similar situation. register for upgrades of things (like a nice blender, good cookware and nice towels & sheets). also think about the things that you don't have now, but it would be really nice to have (maybe you're a baker and it would be awesome for you to have a standmixer!)
  
  ***the other thing the lady at Macy's told me was don't worry about the price on the larger items (cookware, appliances) because usually groups will go in a get you something nice (my bridesmaids chipped in & bought my cookware for xmas--love them!!!) i would register almost anywhere but target. when my FI and his daughter's mother registered there for their babyshower, they got some duplicates, and apparently some people didn't take the stuff off of the registry and trying to return it was a mess. my sister registered there for simple things and tried to exchange things and it was a mess. when i worked in the registry business (for Macy's) i heard nothing, but terrible things about Target.
  
  good luck.

  

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• OwningAHome1981 member

  

  January 2013

  I have about 4 months and a 3 weeks til my wedding and we just registered last week. My shower isn't until April, so there's no rush for me to register. It depends when your shower is I guess. Some people like to give right away, yes, but we mostly just got cash and will get the gifts at my shower. Although if you are having an engagegment party then some people register and the guests can give those gifts as well at the party.
  
  Doesn't matter if you live together- you can and should still register. A lot of couples (probably most) live together before marriage anyway and most couples register- so it's fine.
  
  Anyone registered at Pottery Barn? We have 3 registries and one is there and I am having such problems updating my registry on their website.

  

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