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[Deleted User] · October 2010

i farted.

not living a lie now.

laladypoet · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : No, no. Someone commented to her on facebook that "she's looking great, how do you do it" them my FSSIL responded with the lie. Yes, she's my FSSIL.
Posted by MacFreitas7[/QUOTE]
again, why do you care so much? does it affect you?
let me put it this way, some people choose not to mention they're undergoing fertility treatments, because they would get bombarded with "playing god" and "they should adopt." are they living a lie for keeping something personal a secret from most people?

Anysunrise · October 2010

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[QUOTE]So, who's playing WoW tonight?
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

I actually might not be on tonight. Just got my Kindle in the mail =D Probably a good thing, lol.

mica178 · October 2010

I want to go to that Voodoo Donut place in Portland, Ore. where they have maple donuts covered in bacon.

smokeybailey · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-46?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3253665f-507b-4538-ac70-63916598df54Post:beff8fa1-28fe-49c3-beb8-2453171664a5">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]i farted. not living a lie now.
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]

Smells like teen spirit.

missy68 · October 2010

Agreed, TR, but it applies one of her friends specifically - shouldn't be a blanket statement. And I do see that she said that. It just brought my hackles up, and I said as much in the thread. I'm not flaming anyone here. I

I had no intention - nor am I now - of flaming her, since I said my piece in the thread (and I don't have the brain power thanks to a migraine to argue a point today.

And, there ARE some folks who like to keep that part of their weight loss private; not so much to lie, but because they may feel like failures in not being able to do it on their own. I met people like that. Cause, you know, the gym part and diet plan are accurate, it just isn't the FULL story. I chose to telll most people, but I never said it on here until last week, because I didn't want the backlash I figured I might get, KWIM? And, I'm proud of mine and what I did, and what it's allowed me to accomplish/do I couldn't before. Does that make sense?

/word vomit.

akhensley81 · October 2010

Hmmm. Farts, bacon and gastric bypass surgery. Nice!

emilyinchile · October 2010

MacFreitas, my issue with your comment wasn't whether or not someone you know is lying about having surgery because I don't care. But the way you wrote that she is a lazy liar made it sound like you think surgery is the lazy way out (in the context of the entire thread). Plus I will admit that I just remember you as someone whose posts annoy me, so I took that comment at face value and didn't sit there thinking "well maybe she just meant that this person in particular happens to be really lazy...maybe it's not a comment on everyone who takes this option."

kikibaby · October 2010

*biting my tongue since I'm bitchy today* Ouch.

MacFreitas7 · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-46?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:3253665f-507b-4538-ac70-63916598df54Post:71a5470d-7e5a-45a9-9991-d11b8f45f75c">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : again, why do you care so much? does it affect you? let me put it this way, some people choose not to mention they're undergoing fertility treatments, because they would get bombarded with "playing god" and "they should adopt." are they living a lie for keeping something personal a secret from most people?
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

Fertility treatments and gastric bypass are completely different things in many different ways. It's an extremely sensitive subject to talk about and compare to weight loss surgery. you just can't.

FutureMrsTR · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-46?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:3253665f-507b-4538-ac70-63916598df54Post:5d0ccf70-e7e3-4c4c-add0-324b721699aa">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]Agreed, TR, but it applies one of her friends specifically - shouldn't be a blanket statement. And I do see that she said that. It just brought my hackles up, and I said as much in the thread. I'm not flaming anyone here. I I had no intention - nor am I now - of flaming her, since I said my piece in the thread (and I don't have the brain power thanks to a migraine to argue a point today. And, there ARE some folks who like to keep that part of their weight loss private; not so much to lie, but because they may feel like failures in not being able to do it on their own. I met people like that. Cause, you know, the gym part and diet plan are accurate, it just isn't the FULL story. I chose to telll most people, but I never said it on here until last week, because I didn't want the backlash I figured I might get, KWIM? And, I'm proud of mine and what I did, and what it's allowed me to accomplish/do I couldn't before. Does that make sense? /word vomit.
Posted by missy68[/QUOTE]

Yep, makes total sense. I can see how people might want to keep it quiet and I apologize for saying that they were kind of assholes. They're not assholes. But I do think they're not helping the cause of destigmatizing weight loss surgeries.

missy68 · October 2010

Money, I think you'd have to add the bacon after the ice cream was made, because of the salt. We've made homemade (meaning my mom/dad) and got salt in the mixture accidentally, and it never set up correctly. So - I don't know if it would set up. But - it sounds intriguing as a topping for maple syrup ice cream!

laladypoet · October 2010

maybe it's not a comment on everyone who takes this option."

I still think that's exactly what she meant.

salt78 · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-46?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3253665f-507b-4538-ac70-63916598df54Post:6a6c87ed-4645-428b-83e7-15575aa9e18c">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm super late, but I really dislike AATB. Nothing she says is particularly helpful, insightful or in any way, shape or form useful.
Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

<div>I strongly dislike her also. Every time she posts, I wish she would go back to SB.</div>

salt78 · October 2010

PS. Bacon is gross. There. I said it.

laladypoet · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-46?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3253665f-507b-4538-ac70-63916598df54Post:bf071ac9-f711-490f-b3c5-e95d601620a2">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Fertility treatments and gastric bypass are completely different things in many different ways. It's an extremely sensitive subject to talk about and compare to weight loss surgery. you just can't.
Posted by MacFreitas7[/QUOTE]
why not? they're both elective surgeries, they both carry stigmas. you have no idea how sensitive weight loss surgery patients are until you've been one of them. how do you know that the feelings of despair and last resort aren't the same?

MacFreitas7 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]MacFreitas, my issue with your comment wasn't whether or not someone you know is lying about having surgery because I don't care. But the way you wrote that she is a lazy liar made it sound like you think surgery is the lazy way out (in the context of the entire thread). Plus I will admit that I just remember you as someone whose posts annoy me, so I took that comment at face value and didn't sit there thinking "well maybe she just meant that this person in particular happens to be really lazy...maybe it's not a comment on everyone who takes this option."
Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

Her being a lazy liar is towards the fact that she is currently still not going to the gym and she's just letting the "surgery do the work for her" That's what I mean by "lazy liar"
I think she's giving others the false hope and that bothers me.

Yes, when I first started posting on this board I got completely overwhelmed and definitely defensive, I've hoped that I've changed - but first impressions will always stick I guess!

mandapanda78 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]I want to go to that Voodoo Donut place in Portland, Ore. where they have maple donuts covered in bacon.
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]

<div>I went across the motherfucking COUNTRY to Voodoo Donut and the lady in front of me bought the LAST maple bacon donut. I flame her. I flame that biitch straight to hell. That was MY DONUT!</div>

andy71781 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]Hmmm. Farts, bacon and gastric bypass surgery. Nice!
Posted by akhensley81[/QUOTE]

I know! We like folks at the Biggest Loser auditions.

Snippylynn · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I strongly dislike her also. Every time she posts, I wish she would go back to SB.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]
I love you. :)

Stackeye210 · October 2010

Gastric bypass isn't the easy way out (and to be honest, when i was younger I thought it was).......as a matter of fact you have to work just as hard for the rest of your life to keep the weight off. I've known more then one person to gain MORE weight back then what they lost after gastric. It isn't a cure all weight loss program. It is an extreme option for some people that isn't a miracle fix. You still have to work your a$$ off to keep the weight off, work out and measure your meals and food intake every day. I wouldn't wish that lifestyle on anyone. However, the extreme weight loss risks from it are still better then keeping the weight on.

:::disclaimer::: I dont remember the original thread, that's just my 2cents when it comes to bypass surgery.

emilyinchile · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Her being a lazy liar is towards the fact that she is currently still not going to the gym and she's just letting the "surgery do the work for her" That's what I mean by "lazy liar" I think she's giving others the false hope and that bothers me. Yes, when I first started posting on this board I got completely overwhelmed and definitely defensive, I've hoped that I've changed - <strong>but first impressions will always stick I guess!</strong>
Posted by MacFreitas7[/QUOTE]

If by first impressions you mean the post about "OMG, people are TOTALLY overreacting to OP about MOG wearing white!!!!! oh wait actually they're reacting to my bad suggestion" that was like a week ago, then yes.

And ditto Lala...I don't think you can know whether someone's fertility struggles are more or less personal than someone else's weight loss struggles.

FutureMrsTR · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-46?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:3253665f-507b-4538-ac70-63916598df54Post:b285e1b4-ef89-4c3d-ac86-8f76ebc18d00">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I went across the motherfucking COUNTRY to Voodoo Donut and the lady in front of me bought the LAST maple bacon donut. I flame her. I flame that biitch straight to hell. That was MY DONUT!
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]

Manda, you make me LOL. Also, what's going on in your sig pic? Are you in a jewelry store drinking champagne?

JenGin74 · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-46?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3253665f-507b-4538-ac70-63916598df54Post:5197bc8c-1d07-4974-b1f4-8af99ae3b3f5">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : why not? they're both elective surgeries, <u><strong>they both carry stigmas.</strong></u> you have no idea how sensitive weight loss surgery patients are until you've been one of them. how do you know that the feelings of despair and last resort aren't the same?
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

There's a stigma with fertility treatments? I must live under a rock. Tell me what you've heard.

starla827 · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-46?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:3253665f-507b-4538-ac70-63916598df54Post:24ccb50a-089c-4a9b-b5bf-099095ec8ade">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]-From a previous thread. "Also, might I add to those (1 person in particular that I know who got it done..,) Please stop LYING OBNOXIOUSLY about it and say that the "doctor just put me ona nutrition program and I've been going to the gym 6x a week" NO, NO, he didn't and NO, NO you aren't. YOU LAZY LIAR." MsMery- does this ring a bell...? (this was my response to another girl who was brutally against gastric bypass) Now, here's me thinking: If someone has gastric bypass surgery- <strong>why lie about it and say that you worked your "butt" off by going to the gym and following a nutrition plan</strong>? Yes, I understand that this person tried many things unsuccessfully to lose weight and the only option due to her health and life was to get gastric bypass- <strong>but embrace it, don't lie about it and give others out there false hope.</strong> I apologize for taking up space on this board and post- but :)
Posted by MacFreitas7[/QUOTE]

I think it really depends on the context. I didn't read that thread so IDK.

If the person is just going around unsolicited telling people how they lost all this weight from just diet and excercise, then yea, that's dumb. And they are a liar.

However, if someone lost a lot of weight, people often notice it and start asking how they did it. But, really it's not your business and I can understand someone lying because they feel uncomfortable discussing it with you. And frankly, I think it's rude to ask.

It's like when a woman is pregnant and all the sudden people think it's ok to talk about her body and even touch her stomach. It's just not cool.

[Deleted User] · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Fertility treatments and gastric bypass are completely different things in many different ways. It's an extremely sensitive subject to talk about and compare to weight loss surgery. you just can't.
Posted by MacFreitas7[/QUOTE]
oh god shut up.

JenGin74 · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-46?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3253665f-507b-4538-ac70-63916598df54Post:dafcdcba-795a-4060-b428-383133091a29">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : depending on who you ask, there's stigmas. I've heard people say that if you can't have kids without treatments, you aren't "meant" to have children, or that you should adopt, or that you're selfish, or that you're trying to play god. people respond differently, but I've definitely heard negative opinions on the subject. and it seems more and more so recently.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

Well fuuck me. I can't imagine anyone actually saying that to my face, but now I'm wondering if I'm being silently judged.

laladypoet · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-46?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3253665f-507b-4538-ac70-63916598df54Post:d6829539-2f20-48ea-b25b-0c853878d9da">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I guess it's just the person in the subject matter that we are discussing. I know that you don't know her from a hole in the wall and that's okay. I kind of see where you are coming from with the whole "elective surgery" aspect. But, fertility treatment are for those who cannot have kids on their own - it's not like they can go to the gym for an extra hour and magically get pregnant" That's a serious life decision there, and while having gastric bypass is still a serious life decision, it is NOT one in where the actual person should lie about it.
Posted by MacFreitas7[/QUOTE]
you are still assuming that going to the gym would fix a morbidly obese person's problem. there's way more to it than that.
a person doesn't HAVE to get the surgery. they could just keep trying, or die. a person doesn't HAVE to have fertility treatments. they could just adopt, or not have kids.
what people should or should not lie about is NOT up to you.

mandapanda78 · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-46?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3253665f-507b-4538-ac70-63916598df54Post:dafcdcba-795a-4060-b428-383133091a29">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : depending on who you ask, there's stigmas. I've heard people say that if you can't have kids without treatments, you aren't "meant" to have children, or that you should adopt, or that you're selfish, or that you're trying to play god. people respond differently, but I've definitely heard negative opinions on the subject. and it seems more and more so recently.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

<div>I'll second this. My sister did IVF twice and heard all of the reasons lala listed here more than once. Particularly the part about playing god.</div>

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-46?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3253665f-507b-4538-ac70-63916598df54Post:516890e5-f63c-46b0-88d6-650fb9981bb4">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Yep, makes total sense. I can see how people might want to keep it quiet and I apologize for saying that they were kind of assholes. They're not assholes. <strong>But I do think they're not helping the cause of destigmatizing weight loss surgeries.</strong>
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

Exactly.

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