Facebook & Engagement Annoucements

beckster5551 · February 2010

In Response to Facebook & Engagement Annoucements:
1. What do you think of switching your relationship status immediately? Do you/Did you/would you love or hate the flurry of public response received? I waited about two weeks before I changed my status on FB. My FI wanted to change his right away because he told his family and friends way faster then I was able too. I waited until I was able to get a hold of the people I wanted to tell in person. I did have a lot of comments on my engagement right away and one person even asked if I was pregnant!

Posting pics of your ring on Facebook; classy or not? And why do you think girls do it? I did post pictures on FB of my right, for two reasons. First of all we were engaged for 4 months before I got my ring and there were a lot of people who wanted to see it asap. Also, most of my friends do not live in the same state as me so it was going to be one of the only ways for them to see it. I guess it really depends on how you use FB. I post pictures of everything, so posting a picture of my ring is nothing new.

Justin's Love · February 2010

I got engaged on vacation. I called my closest family and friends while we were on vacation and updated my status on facebook right when we got back. I could have updated it while we were on vacation, but wanted to just enjoy my time with my fiance before having everyone bombard me with questions and congrats. I thought facebook was a perfectly fine way to tell most of my friends.

As far as the ring picture goes, I posted a picture of it in an album of pictures from that vacation. I also had it as my profile pic for a few days. I didn't see it as braggy. It's just part of announcing my engagement, imo. I have a lot of friends on facebook who I don't see very often, so it was just a way to let them see the ring. My ring isn't especially huge or anything, though. Maybe if it was I would have seen it as bragging a little.

nkt928 · February 2010

i told the important people, and then about 3 days later, i changed it on fb.

i also posted a photo of the ring b/c people kept asking for it!

However, i do not post anything about the wedding, b/c too many people from FB aren't invited (120 people at the wedding). I wish i could update my status about the wedding, but i think it would hurt too many people's feelings b/c they won't be invited.

I hope this helps!

mrscheetah · February 2010

1) We got engaged on a cruise to Alaska, and agreed that we would wait until we got home to tell anyone except our families. From the airport we called some of our best friends, and yes, as soon as we got home we changed our status. And yes, I loved the flurry of responses we got.
2) I think it's really in poor taste to post pics of your ring. I mean, everyone is going to see it anyway, and to me it's just a really vulgar way of bragging.

I will say, also, that I try to keep the status updates about the wedding to a minimum. Not only because the majority of my facebook friends will not be invited to the wedding, but also because I don't think people need it shoved in their faces every day. Just my opinion.

cellarius · February 2010

i think that's a fine way to announce it to everyone [besides your immediate fam or whoever you'd tell first] & yes i think posting pics of the ring are cute. no reason not to everyone always wants you to anyway! lol i think it's cute when people have an engagement/proposal album. my friend had such an adorable proposal & his parents captured it all on film. they hid in the trees kinda & took pics since they knew about it & her dh asked them to. it came out really well & it was fun to have/see pics of the moment.

Knelson5 · February 2010

Hey!

WHen I got engaged we were away. So I called all the family that I had numbers for... then was told that some of my closest friends already knew. SO THEN... I updated the facebook status. Well I didn't ... but the friends we were with did with my permission.

I LOVED the comments back... We were going to be gone for a few more days and I could not call everyone while vacationing. I thought it was a great way to get the word out.

Some people take an ad out in the paper... The modern way is a facebook update.

Knelson5 · February 2010

I forgot the second question about the ring... There was a picture of the ring on my hand from the vacation pictures... people asked me for a better picture so I did crop and enlarge. I don't feel it was bragging because I was asked for a better look, so I gave it to them.

What is really in poor taste is being of the mind that someone who is happy is bragging! It is an exciting time and I do not care what anyone thinks about my happieness! I AM HAPPY and GREATFUL for the life I have. The style of the ring is not the most important thing, what it symbolizes is what matters.

kee80 · February 2010

We told our parents first, but since at the time we lived very far from most of our friends, I switched my status pretty quickly. If that's not your situation, I'd tell your really close friends in person.

I didn't even think of posting pics of the ring until friends asked to see them! People want to see the ring; give 'em what they want

JMU_Bride09 · February 2010

I did change my status to engaged that night actually. I didn't want to "hide" my engagement in any way, and I was very excited to share the news with everyone that I knew!!

I haven't put up ring pictures, only bc I haven't been able to successfully take a picture of my ring that I feel does my ring justice. Otherwise, I would definitely put them up! I do have pictures of the actual engagement on facebook.

kdmoelle · February 2010

I waited until our closest friends and family knew before posting it on fb. As far as posting the ring on fb, I think it's super TACKY. If people wanted to see the ring, I think they can make it a point to come and see me. lol. As for friends/ family far away, I'd simply email pictures if they ask.

SteveandKris · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_facebook-engagement-annoucements?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:683Discussion:da02e4c1-dda9-4c48-82c7-5d41069553d7Post:ab96eea2-621b-41f5-99b4-df6b4cb57a87">Re: Facebook & Engagement Annoucements</a>:
[QUOTE]But about the posting of engagement ring pictures, I do think this is tacky. Now, I think it's adorable when there is one or two ring pictures included in an album of engagement pictures or something along those line, but I know of a few girls who went home the second after they got their ring and posted a whole album from their webcam of just their ring, both on them and in the box. Honestly, they just looked ridiculous and braggy. We all talked about them later.
Posted by Katyas90[/QUOTE]

This exactly

kkwestfall · February 2010

We got engaged on the night of Christmas Eve so it was kind of an awkward time. We called my parents that night and saw them Christmas morning and then saw his family that afternoon, but we didn't put it up on facebook right away (actually, his sister posted "congratulations to my brother!" on her page before I'd even told any of my friends). Later in the day on Christmas we called and texted our close friends, and I think the day after Christmas we changed it, or maybe late that night.

We didn't post it before telling people because my Fiance found out his brother was engaged when I saw it on my facebook feed.. and he was like "why can't my brother even call and tell me"... so that's why we did it that way.

I posted two pictures of the ring on facebook, along with pictures from when it happened, but it wasn't my profile pic. I put the picture of us right after he asked as my profile pic. I put pictures of the ring up because I was super-excited and also, all my friends who I'd just moved 6 hours from wanted to see the ring.

kkwestfall · February 2010

Another thing about facebook for me, is that some of our good friends got engaged shortly after we did, and instead of posting "congratulations on the engagement!" on her wall before she'd changed her status, I private messaged her, because I hate it when you know someone wasn't ready for the whole facebook world to know and one person says "congratulations" and 20 other people say "what am I missing!" and, a lot of her friends live in other countries all around the world, so I figured I'd let her tell them and not my obnoxious facebook post.

1coco676 · February 2010

I really wanted to change my Facebook status right away but I wanted to call all our friends and family members before that happened. That took an entire day. Omg so many phone calls... I know why I've found out about engagements through Facebook now! I put up one photo of my engagement ring because my fiance and I couldn't agree on which photo of us to put up.

kaynix21 · February 2010

1. What do you think of switching your relationship status immediately? Do you/Did you/would you love or hate the flurry of public response received?
I told my family and the important people. But we were also OOT and not really using computers so it wasn't a big deal. We waited a few days I think but we were distracted. I thought it was cute when people responded. We'd been together for about six years so it was about a time and I thought the friends I didn't have a chance to call yet would be excited to hear the news.

2. Posting pics of your ring on Facebook; classy or not? And why do you think girls do it? I love it b/c I want to see it! I want to see my friends rings. A few of mine (since we're all living in different cities right now) wanted to see it so I made lame attempt at posting it. My picture sucked though.

mgard012 · February 2010

I agree that you should tell everyone that is close to you before you change your status to engaged on Facebook. I know that my fiance showed my ring to his brother and sister-in-law and told them he was going to propose, so I guess they knew first. My family lives on the West Coast (we live in NC) so we called them right after he proposed. We waited about a week before we changed our status.

I posted a picture of my ring on Facebook for my family to see, because as I stated none of them live near us, left it up for two weeks and then deleted the image album. I figured after two weeks anyone who wanted to see it would have. Also I didn't use it a my personal picture, that does seem tacky.

Calypso1977 · February 2010

we told everyone close to us first, then i changed it.

i learned of my SIL's engagement via facebook. she had never called her brother to tell him. i did not telll my husband, but when i got home i told him to call his sister so he wouldnt hear the news somewhere else. when he hung up he asked me if i knew and i said i did. not the best way to tell family.

carolinaila10 · February 2010

we changed our facebook status the night we got engaged, but only after calling important family and friends. a lot of my friends from hs and college are now scattered across the country and wouldnt see the ring for quite some time, so i did put up an engagement album with pictures from the night and of my ring. i dont think its tacky, almost everyone i know puts up pictures. i dont think my ring is anything really to brag about...its not HUGE but its not small. its simple and perfect for me and my hand, i was just super excited.

by putting up pictures, it also stops the questions about what size and what it looks like coming from everyone youve ever met...i like talking about the actual wedding plans but my ring is hard to describe!!

phut_action · February 2010

1. Status:
I waited until my closest friends knew, then I changed it. I didnt want my aunts and uncles and best friends finding out that way, I wanted it to be more personal. 2. Posting pics of your ring:Um... HECK YEA! What is up with people saying its tacky/bragging? You're excited about your engagement, just about everybody is going to want to see it anyways, so why not? There IS a difference between bragging and being excited, so I wouldn't go posting "Oooh look at my ring and he spent a FORTUNE on it and its blah blah designer etc..." You can post a picture without bragging. Forgive me for not reserving my excitement so that some jealous b* doesnt get upset. Your true friends will be thrilled for you, not jealous. You post pictures of everything else fun and exciting in your life, why not this?

AMYDAWN12354 · February 2010

I did change my Facebook status immediately to Engaged, because I felt like it was only right to do! But I removed it from my Wall so people wouldn't go crazy commenting me. I kind of waited for people to slowly find out on their own so it was a lot slower to start getting comments and I got them here and there.

I did post pictures of my engagement ring, two pictures, but I didn't post them up until about two months after I announced engagement so it didn't seem braggy like I wanted to show it off right away. A lot of other girls I know also posted a picture or 2 of their ring. I think it's harmless and you can ooh and ah over each other's rings if you have a few engaged friends.

Also, I just wanted to let you know - I made an Event page on my Facebook that explained basic info on the wedding and when/where. I then invited everyone to the event page who was friends with me on facebook and made the Event private so only they could see it. It has helped out sooo much because they were able to give me a basic "Will attend/will not attend" rather than sending out Save the Dates. When you make an event it also lets you send out a bulk message to everyone who is attending the event, so I sent everyone I invited a message asking if they could please message me their address. It has helped me soo much and new technology for things like this is AWESOME... and I think the people who were invited find its easier too. Good Luck!

spaje · February 2010

We told friends and family, and then immediately after those phone calls... changed the statuses. We've got friends and family on the other side of the state, and his family is out of state... so announcing it through family and facebook was good way to go. Just had to let the folks know first. as for putting pictures of the rings out... OF COURSE I DID! Those same friends and family that were out of state wanted to see the rings, so I made a little f/b alblum. But it is not my profile pic. I've got my privacy settings that only friends and fam can see and that's it. since my mother is not a f/b fanatic... doesn't even use it... I emailed pics to her. May or may not have been considered tacky by some, but it was a way to show those that wanted to see, who aren't w/in immediate driving distance....

goheels05 · February 2010

1. What do you think of switching your relationship status immediately? Do you/Did you/would you love or hate the flurry of public response received? I think it's best to let people close to you know first. I do not like finding out via FB that a close friend of mine got engaged. Personally, I don't have a relationship status on FB, but people who knew congratulated me on my wall anyway, and that was fine.

2. Posting pics of your ring on Facebook; classy or not? And why do you think girls do it? I don't really like this. If a close friend of mine does it, I'm not going to judge them, but in general, I think it's kind of AW and pretentious.

EStar73 · February 2010

Most of my friends found out about my engagement through facebook. And it wasn't until I posted pictures of my ring that people realized it wasn't a FB joke. I made sure to tell my family and really close friends in person or by phone but I think for everyone else it is fine.

MyNameIsNot · February 2010

We didn't tell anyone until we had the opportunity to annouce it to our families. I was going to wait a few days to tell my close friends before I posted on FB, but my sister commented about it the day we told my family, so I just made a post.

She got engaged last weekend and she annouced it to our immediate family at dinner on Saturday. After dinner, she called grandma, and then I posted about it on FB. Then I found out that my mom had called our aunts and uncles on the way back from the restaurant before my sis could even call grandma.

spaje · February 2010

Haha! I've got family like that... If you want the news spread, w/ just barely any phone calls... tell them! LOL

brookelynpaisley · February 2010

1. What do you think of switching your relationship status immediately? Do you/Did you/would you love or hate the flurry of public response received? All immediate family should be told first. It was crushing to my husband when he found out about his brother's engagement via email and facebook. Call family first, then go wild. Yes, I admit the attention and outpouring of "congrats" was fun and exciting.

2. Posting pics of your ring on Facebook; classy or not? And why do you think girls do it? Girls do it to show off their rings, plain and simple. I don't think it's necessarily unclassy unless she's trying blurting out the specs. Just have a lovely simple picture of your ring and leave it at that. No need to tell me how much it cost or how big it is. The value of an engagement ring should be sentimental, not monitary.

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