a backstabbing friend and her wedding!

nikkinicoleh · May 2010

ok so i just need to hear from others if i am crazy- i have been engaged for five months and am planning my wedding for next may 2011. my suppose to be friend got engaged two days ago and planned her wedding two weeks before mine!! i am so angry that she would have the nerve- would you approach her and tell her how you feel? or let it go?

pumpkinpumpkin · May 2010

You get one day. ONE day.
You should be happy for her.

jajph1974 · May 2010

I think you're making a big deal out of nothing. It's not like she picked the SAME day.

ricksang · May 2010

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[QUOTE]ok so i just need to hear from others if i am crazy- i have been engaged for five months and am planning my wedding for next may 2011. my suppose to be friend got engaged two days ago and planned her wedding two weeks before mine!! i am so angry that she would have the nerve- would you approach her and tell her how you feel?<strong> or let it go</strong>?
Posted by nikkinicoleh[/QUOTE]

Let it go or take the risk of losing a friendship.

saxy414 · May 2010

Backstabbing may be taking it a bit too far. Now, if she had picked the same groom, that might be a different story.

temerityjane · May 2010

It's a kind of butt pipe thing to do, but in the end, it just really isn't going to be a big deal. It's ok if your feelings are hurt, but there are only so many viable wedding days per year, you know?

However, if, by chance, she isn't just choosing a day that works for her (you know, like we all do), and she actually IS a TOTAL WIENER, don't share too many specifics or details of your wedding, so you don't have to make yourself crazy with worrying about if she's going to steal your wedding along with your thunder!!!!!!

eastunder1 · May 2010

THAT HOAR! THE NERVE.

sucrets4 · May 2010

OMG you totally need to email that bitch and let her know that it's bullshit that she won't be able to properly tend to your every need if she's focusing on her own damn wedding.

And then post her reply here.

pnthrgrl343 · May 2010

She didn't call you and tell you that she needs you to change your date after you've put deposits down on everything because that's when she really wants to get married and then throw a hissy-fit when you say no. One of my BMs got married 3 weeks after us, no biggie. Seriously. You get one day. And it be fun - you have someone to talk about stuff with since you'll be going through the same kinds of things at the same time. And if she starts stealing your ideas - lie and tell her you're doing something hideous and ridiculous.

kd.joseph · May 2010

I dont understand why your bio reads April, but your post says May?

And it's not ok to say something. Let it go.

Mrs.B6302007 · May 2010

What difference does 2 weeks make? It's not like it's the same day.
Do you really feel that you deserve to get married before she does just because you got a ring first?

Mrs.B6302007 · May 2010

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[QUOTE]<strong>ok so i just need to hear from others if i am crazy</strong>- i have been engaged for five months and am planning my wedding for next may 2011. my suppose to be friend got engaged two days ago and planned her wedding two weeks before mine!! i am so angry that she would have the nerve- would you approach her and tell her how you feel? or let it go?
Posted by nikkinicoleh[/QUOTE]

And because you asked, yes.

LesPaul · May 2010

You're acting ridiculous. Let it go.

kimheartsscott · May 2010

You should move YOUR wedding up a month and then GET THE SAME DRESS AS HER. That'll show her.

jeanna85 · May 2010

How is that backstabbing? I would be upset if it was the same day, but half a month away is more than enough time.

jeanna85 · May 2010

How is that backstabbing? I would be upset if it was the same day, but half a month away is more than enough time.

stinkerbell6879 · May 2010

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[QUOTE]OMG you totally need to email that bitch and let her know that it's bullshit that she won't be able to properly tend to your every need if she's focusing on her own damn wedding. And then post her reply here.
Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]
:::giggles:::: That would be entertaining....

Nebb · May 2010

How DARE she plan her wedding during your wedding month. Im shocked and appalled.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · May 2010

Just FYI, she probably didn't want to be engaged for over a year, picked a date that would give her a good amount of time to work with, and asked key family members and VIPs what date worked well for them.

But way to make this all about you.

tiffersnc · May 2010

Seriously? I thought people only joked about being this upset about their friend "leapfrogging" their wedding date. It's not the most awesome thing in the world, but roll with it. Don't say anything to her - she gets to choose her day just like you get to choose yours.

ohwhynot · May 2010

I don't even understand the responses that said "I can see being mad, but let it go." Really? What's there to be mad about? It's not even as if there are family members that would be cash/time strapped if they were invited to both weddings, so I honestly don't understand any anger at all.

ElizaRachael · May 2010

May and June are the most popular months for weddings.... it shouldn't really be a surprise that she wants to do it when the weather is perfect too. Trust me, as time goes on, you'll WANT some of the attention off you...

apaadzzzz · May 2010

I don't understand why your mad? She didn't pick the same day. What if they really wanted to get married that month/time of year. They have the right to get married any day they want just like you do. Neither you or her should pick a date and plan your wedding around someone else. That's a year away so is perfect timing for her to plan a wedding, I doubt she did it to make you mad. I really don't see how this will effect you. You should be happy for her, and even be glad you have someone to go through this process with, you can help each other.

kimheartsscott · May 2010

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[QUOTE]I don't even understand the responses that said "I can see being mad, but let it go." Really? What's there to be mad about? It's not even as if there are family members that would be cash/time strapped if they were invited to both weddings, so I honestly don't understand any anger at all.
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]

This!!

TwinsRib · May 2010

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[QUOTE]ok so i just need to hear from others if i am crazy- i have been engaged for five months and am planning my wedding for next may 2011. my suppose to be friend got engaged two days ago and planned her wedding two weeks before mine!! i am so angry that she would have the nerve- would you approach her and tell her how you feel? or let it go?
Posted by nikkinicoleh[/QUOTE]

Seriously? So she isn't your friend because she got engaged after you but will be getting married before you.. is that right? I don't understand how she is a backstabber...

This post has me all kinds of confused.... Maybe you should re-evaluate what type of friend YOU are for being so pissed and self centered...

jasmineh7777 · May 2010

If she gets married first then that definitely makes you less married. The only solution here is to move your wedding up.

Krugen · May 2010

Answer: Yeah. If she does everything the same, then yes. Otherwise, you're crazy.

sarah0725 · May 2010

If one of my friends was going to get married in the same month as me, I'd prefer two weeks before to two weeks after. Then I wouldn't have to worry about scheduling my honeymoon to make sure that I'd be back in time for her wedding.

Be happy for your friend, and get over yourself.

mocha beans · May 2010

You'll be fine. She's not backstabbing you. Good grief.

polichik · May 2010

"Backstabbing"? Oh, honey. Backstabbing would be calling all of your vendors and cancelling, or trying to sleep with your groom-to-be.

lyndausvi · May 2010

I fail to see the problem. When I was in my late 20's I was averaging 8+ weddings a year. Friends/family all getting married around the same time. It happens when you are that age. Move on and just be happy for her.

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