FI and I got engaged last Summer and the wedding is in August. I am an immigrant and my whole familty lives overseas, but I have gone to school here, made great friends, met the one and generally like it in my new country.
My parents though hate the fact that one of their children lives in a far away country and they have only been here once, namely for my graduation. Visas and money are a non-issue, they just don't like to acknowledge that, after eight years, I ma not moving back.
Now we are getting married and from the moment we gor engaged, we could only imagine the wedding here, where we live and where we are happy. My parents are incredibly mad about this. they think that I am disrespectful of their traditions, their wishes and their feelings. Apparently it is "traditional" to have the wedding organized by the bride's parents at her birthplace. I really never though of that and it a rather unattractive idea to me.
On the other hand, may parents have successfully been guilt-tripping me an by now I am not looking forward to the wedding anymore. I have the best fiance in the world, a great venue and officiant, band, photographer, dress, evyerthing, and I just wish my parents could stop referring to the wedding as their "loss" andfinally be happy for us.