My fiance and I are having a traditional Catholic ceremony. We were both raised catholic, but don't particularly practice. He is an atheist, I am not. Having the catholic service was incredibly important to my mother, who may not have recognized our marriage otherwise, and it didn't bother me. I was raised catholic, i like the ceremony and the solemnity it lends to the whole thing.
The issue is we are also both pretty strong willed/unique people. I'm going to school for poetry and he's a funny guy. We had really hoped to write our own vows, but that's not allowed in a catholic ceremony. We are also not allowed to have a unity candle in my church (some catholic churches you can, i know, but not ours).
So here's the idea we came up with: When we get to the ceremony, right after we walk in, but before the toasts/food, we were going to do our own little unity candle lighting, and say the vows we'd like to write for each other. I'm thinking we'll light our own candles, say our vows, and then light the middle one. This way, we can still experss our love and our committment OUR way, and still have the catholic ceremony as well.
My question is, will our guests totally hate us? It won't take long, maybe an extra five minutes before dinner is served. . .but will it come across as just completley attention grabby and annoying? I'd really like a chance to say the vows I'd like to say, and my FH is excited about it, but now I"m worried about pissing off my guests lol.
Thanks
