Re: 2012 not off to a great start

Irishcurls · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_re-2012-not-off-great-start?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:25088458-98e5-4a7e-940f-c392971d037fPost:6ba9a91f-869b-4963-bd5d-8d42beda9fee">Re: 2012 not off to a great start</a>:
[QUOTE]Calindi - If you saw the bitchy response I posted before I deleted it, I apologize. I didn't read your following post. But thank you. Again, I wasn't trying to piss anyone off I just am not one to back down when it comes to a debate or discussion. Hike- Thank you. I mean it sincerely. ggirl- You don't even know me so go take your judgements somewhere else.
Posted by hansonam446[/QUOTE]
Gg, take 'em to my house!! I've got wine!

calindi · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_re-2012-not-off-great-start?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:25088458-98e5-4a7e-940f-c392971d037fPost:6ba9a91f-869b-4963-bd5d-8d42beda9fee">Re: 2012 not off to a great start</a>:
[QUOTE]Calindi - If you saw the bitchy response I posted before I deleted it, I apologize. I didn't read your following post. But thank you. Again, I wasn't trying to piss anyone off I just am not one to back down when it comes to a debate or discussion. Hike- Thank you. I mean it sincerely. ggirl- You don't even know me so go take your judgements somewhere else.
Posted by hansonam446[/QUOTE]

I may have deleted mine after I saw your bitchy response <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-embarassed.gif" border="0" alt="Embarassed" title="Embarassed" />

Basically what I said (in case someone else is curious later) was that I understood you weren't trying to hurt anyone, that you 1) hadn't lied to anyone about being married (which we see a LOT) and 2) were declining showers & bachelorette party. Even though you aren't saying things the way I would or seeing things the way I would, I don't think that's as important as your intentions.

And your previous post (the one you didn't delete) made me feel bad, because you really seemed frustrated that we don't see your side and that you weren't trying to hurt anyone. I do get your side and understand your intentions are good. I don't think you quite see ours, but that's okay.

Best wishes to you and your husband, both for his legal issues and your vow renewal.

ggirl2001 · January 2012

Because I'm the only bad guy in this thread? Seriously. Isaid the same thing everyone else did. I just said don't make excuses. I even said multiple times I don't care if you have the big party and wear a dress and have attendants. Just don't make excuses on why you need it or why it's a right. There is a difference. But yeah, I'm the biitch I guess.

melbelle24 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_re-2012-not-off-great-start?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:25088458-98e5-4a7e-940f-c392971d037fPost:5d4dff5b-49c9-4193-86c8-afdf8bca283a">Re: 2012 not off to a great start</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: 2012 not off to a great start : <strong>I'm trying to be neutral and peaceful </strong>but you all are acting superior and catty. I apologize for not consulting the marriage gods before planning.
Posted by hansonam446[/QUOTE]

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_re-2012-not-off-great-start?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:25088458-98e5-4a7e-940f-c392971d037fPost:6ba9a91f-869b-4963-bd5d-8d42beda9fee">Re: 2012 not off to a great start</a>:
[QUOTE]ggirl- You don't even know me so go take your judgements somewhere else.
Posted by hansonam446[/QUOTE]

Yep that's TOTALLY neutral and peaceful. Good job.
PS- just because you don't agree with her doesn't mean she isn't right. You're the one coming up with pathetic excuses for why you "deserve" a PPD. You want it? Fine, go right on ahead. But don't expect support for how you deserve a PPD because the military life is so hard and it's impossible to plan around them omg what else could I do.

Anyway, good luck to your H on his legal stuff. Btw, if you don't care what we think, just stop arguing. You aren't changing anybody's minds.

BinxRose · January 2012

Well, you are going to do what you're going to do.
But I will say, for your's and your husband's sake, please ditch this account and get a new one. Because I now know, from your sn and your bio, your's and your husband's full names.

ggirl2001 · January 2012

Irish I can't wait for our wine and judging party.

hansonam446 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_re-2012-not-off-great-start?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:25088458-98e5-4a7e-940f-c392971d037fPost:fde26462-36f4-427b-b716-e3f575124fc0">Re: 2012 not off to a great start</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: 2012 not off to a great start : In Response to Re: 2012 not off to a great start : Yep that's TOTALLY neutral and peaceful. Good job. PS- just because you don't agree with her doesn't mean she isn't right. You're the one coming up with pathetic excuses for why you "deserve" a PPD. You want it? Fine, go right on ahead. But don't expect support for how you deserve a PPD because the military life is so hard and it's impossible to plan around them omg what else could I do. Anyway, good luck to your H on his legal stuff. Btw, if you don't care what we think, just stop arguing. You aren't changing anybody's minds.
Posted by melbelle24[/QUOTE]

<div>Well what do you expect? I can't defend myself with a bit of snarkiness as well? Look, I'm just telling my side of the story if you and ggirl disagree then fine. I just don't see the need to question my character. I never claimed it was impossible to plan around I simply stated it made the most sense for us. Thanks for the well wishes but as all of us being military wives or signifcant others I think we could use a little more comraderie and less cattiness. I'll drop it but I'm not one to sit and be pushed around so I was defending myself as any other person on this board would feel compelled to do.</div>

Irishcurls · January 2012

Having significant others in the Armed Forces does not 1) make us automatically the same and 2) does not mean we have to blindly agree with other people's decisions that appear unethical to us. Don't lump me in with whatever club you've got going on in your head, please.

ggirl2001 · January 2012

I never once questioned you character. Not once. I never said to not use bah for the wedding, or to not have the party. I said that the party is not a right or a need, and that is just something you want to have and to not give lame excuses for your reasoning.

melbelle24 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_re-2012-not-off-great-start?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:25088458-98e5-4a7e-940f-c392971d037fPost:bd29ce5c-bfed-4549-a7ad-404fb4b53f42">Re: 2012 not off to a great start</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: 2012 not off to a great start : Well what do you expect? I can't defend myself with a bit of snarkiness as well? Look, I'm just telling my side of the story if you and ggirl disagree then fine. I just don't see the need to question my character. I never claimed it was impossible to plan around I simply stated it made the most sense for us. Thanks for the well wishes but as all of us being military wives or signifcant others I think we could use a little more comraderie and less cattiness. I'll drop it but I'm not one to sit and be pushed around so I was defending myself as any other person on this board would feel compelled to do.
Posted by hansonam446[/QUOTE]
First of all, I never questioned your character. I also never said that you can't have any snarky responses. But I am saying that you can't complain about people being catty towards you if you're dishing it out. Personally, it doesn't bother me. I've got waaaaay too much sarcasm in my blood to not use it or to be offended when other people do.

hansonam446 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_re-2012-not-off-great-start?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:25088458-98e5-4a7e-940f-c392971d037fPost:de2a67c8-c3a2-403e-8dec-01e0c7245199">Re: 2012 not off to a great start</a>:
[QUOTE]Having significant others in the Armed Forces does not 1) make us automatically the same and 2) <strong>does not mean we have to blindly agree with other people's decisions that appear unethical to us. Don't lump me in with whatever club you've got going on in your head, please.</strong>
Posted by Irishcurls[/QUOTE]

<div>Ok, never said you did. I just mean that we can be polite about a discussion and not start name calling and bringing in sarcasm. We can be adults about the subject. I'm old enough to know we won't all agree or be bffs. That's all I meant by that.</div><div>
</div><div>ggirl- you assumed in a previous post that I was spoiled and always got my way. That's not the case, at all. But I digress, I don't want to fight or argue with any of you I just think I'm entitled to defend myself as much as anyone else when others are picking apart my decisions.</div>

melbelle24 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_re-2012-not-off-great-start?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:25088458-98e5-4a7e-940f-c392971d037fPost:947fcfd6-a73c-4dec-945f-7989e4283501">Re: 2012 not off to a great start</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: 2012 not off to a great start : Ok, never said you did. I just mean that <strong>we can be polite about a discussion and not start name calling and bringing in sarcasm</strong>. We can be adults about the subject. I'm old enough to know we won't all agree or be bffs. That's all I meant by that. ggirl- you assumed in a previous post that I was spoiled and always got my way. That's not the case, at all. But I digress, I don't want to fight or argue with any of you I just think I'm entitled to defend myself as much as anyone else when others are picking apart my decisions.
Posted by hansonam446[/QUOTE]
Wait, it's possible to have a conversation without sarcasm? Hotdamn, I never knew that!!!

Oops... guess it's not possible for me. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

ETA: threadjack... is my new siggy finally actuallly showing up???

ggirl2001 · January 2012

I didn't say you specifically, it's just the image that comes in my head. Go read through some of the ppd posts we have gotten, you'll agree with me. And honestly, this is an International message board and we all have personalities. I'm not going to curb back on my sarcasm and be all sunshine and rainbows to someone. I get my point across and I did not call you names while doing.

BinxRose · January 2012

Mel- yes, the wine one is showing up!

melbelle24 · January 2012

Sweet!!! That makes me happy. Yay for TK fixing itself on something at least! :-)

kara811 · January 2012

This entire thread makes my head hurt. Good luck to you and your husband OP.

SamiJoeB · January 2012

Ditto Kara..

kyrgyzstan · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_re-2012-not-off-great-start?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:25088458-98e5-4a7e-940f-c392971d037fPost:62e531d2-0aba-4090-988c-8e843d88c29e">Re: 2012 not off to a great start</a>:
[QUOTE]and OP- For what it's worth, I hope everything does work out with your husband and the legal stuff going on right now. I'm sure it is scary and I can't imagine having to deal with that.
Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]

<div>The only thing I want to say in this whole thread is that I hope it works out in the best interest of justice. If he is guilty of whatever he is being accused of, I hope the military deals with him appropriately, kicks him out/gives him prison time. If he is innocent, then I hope he is found as such.</div>

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