my FSIL, God love her, has decided that she is going to make a "hula hoop chandelier" (paint a hula hoop, tie icecycle lights around it) for the rehearsal dinner, which we've rented the main pavilion at the local park for.  I really don't like the idea, doesn't sound at all like what I've envisioned for the dinner, but she feels that it's the groom's family's responsibility to host, and I have no real say so.  I am getting so frustrated.  Has anyone seen or done this (she got the idea from pintrest)????