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Terminally Ill Bride to be needs vow help

jennerbug8396jennerbug8396
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I am getting married Oct. 1st.  We are writing our own vows.  It was easier to even think about, or use samples before I became terminally ill.  Does anyone have any suggestions?  I do not wish it to sound morbid but I also do not want to give the false illusion that we will be together another 40 years.  This is my second marriage and his first.  Thank you!
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  • Tanq&TonicTanq&Tonic
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    edited December 2011
    Oh wow.  I can see why that would be difficult to do.  I am assuming he and your closest family know this, right?

    I don't think it has to be morbid at all.  I would focus on the great things you share today, what you love about him, what he brings to your life, your promise to live every day to the fullest, and that you will spend every day thankful for the gift of him in your life.  I think you can still promise to love, support, encourage, and laugh without adding any element of time.

    If you'd like to share a draft here, we can certainly give you our thoughts...
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  • Muffin'sMomMuffin'sMom
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    edited December 2011
    I think you can turn it to something everyone can relate to.  My husband has a condition that he lives with that can end his life without warning...so not terminal but in that neighborhood.  We have chosen to live our lives for today.  All anyone is promised is this moment.  We live for this moment.  There is joy in this moment.  We don't get to decide what happens next, but we will love each other, laugh, have fun, share and have our joy NOW!
    My baby girl is a married woman...and now my baby girl HAS a baby girl. Time unfolds in such an amazing way. I've been blessed!
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  • prettyfacegalprettyfacegal
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    edited December 2011
    WOW. Cherish each day with each other. Focus on the best of each day and at the end of the day that you  know that someone loves, honors, and cherish each moment with you.
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  • TamdudeTamdude
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    edited December 2011
    Maybe add something about how you will be with him even when you aren't phsically there.  Best wishes.
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  • chasity1991chasity1991 member
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    edited December 2011
    You could focus your vows on how much you love him and special moments you've spent together. I don't think you have to talk about "as long as we both shall live", ect. Just focus on the present.
    My friend who is terminally ill is getting married in October! She was only give two more years, tops. Her vows are going like "Today I marry my best friend. I truly feel like you are my other half. I knew I loved you the night we talked about our secrets on that October night and you accepted every part of me. I will give you all my love as long as I can." ect...
    Hope that helped
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  • AllyG303AllyG303 member
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    edited December 2011
    Agree with PPs about giving your best self/honoring, loving and cherishing each moment.  You could also promise that you will love him the rest of YOUR life.  That's not morbid, nor insinuating any length of time, and since you're marrying him, I'm guessing it's an easy promise to make. 
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