Non-traditional e-ring - should I get a wedding band?

MarcyLT · May 2011

My engagement ring is non-traditional in that it doesn't have a solitaire and it's quite wide - 11mm. We had always intended that this ring would be my all-encompassing e-ring and wedding band. However, over the last few months, I've had quite a few people comment on my ring saying something like, "Oh, are you planning a wedding?", etc. And I'm realizing without a second band, it may look like I'm always engaged and not married.

So we're thinking about getting a wedding band. But I'm lost as to what might look good. I was thinking a very thin platinum band, but FI is thinking something like an eternity band with diamonds would be good.

Thoughts?

Below is a photo and here's a link to the ring online for more detailed shots (mine is all platinum, the one shown is two-toned): http://www.tiffany.com/Shopping/Item.aspx?sku=GRP00206

MelissaAnne88 · May 2011

That is beautiful! I think that a traditional band would look a little strange with it though. You could possibly get a custom made ring that goes with it? Take it to a custom design jeweler and see what suggestions s/he has?

HBaker82407 · May 2011

I agree, its a gorgeous ring, but I dont think a wedding band would be good with it!

AnniePanic · May 2011

I think maybe a very thin plain band would look ok, but it's hard to say. I think if you want a wedding band, get one! My sister's wedding band is very non tradional and she wears it on her left hand and her e ring on the right. Maybe that would work well for you?

mary9449 · May 2011

It's gorgeous! A traditional wedding band wouldn't really go with it. Like MelissaAnne said, take it to a custom jeweler for suggestions, I bet they could come up with something very pretty.

bltata · May 2011

I think it's an amazing ring. It is pretty big, but I think it would look ok if you got a very thin wedding band custom made to sit flush with it. Maybe not with any more diamonds in it, but perhaps some sort of pretty etching or design in the gold so it doesn't stand out like a sore thumb against your ring. Something very thin but complimentary.

jessicabessica · May 2011

It's a beautiful ring! I would focus on whether or not you want a wedding band--plenty of people don't wear both a wedding band and an engagement ring (or either of them), so don't worry about other people being confused. If they ask, you can just tell them that you're married.

If you want a wedding band, I think a thin band curved to sit flush with the engagement ring could be very pretty, or you could wear your rings on different fingers.

breaness · May 2011

Honestly, it looks like a wedding band on its own! It's beautiful and I love it. My friend has a similar ring that she wears when she doesn't want to wear her solitaire, 5 stone wedding band and 5 stone anniversary band.

I think that you don't need a wedding band with this, it's beautiful and can work as a wedding ring on its own. Or you could buy a diamond wedding band and wear them on separate hands.

MarcyLT · May 2011

Thanks, ladies! I'm so happy the consensus both here and on Attire & Accessories is no wedding band. One less thing I have to do in the next few weeks - ha! Thanks again!

khornbach · May 2011

your ring rocks! leave it as is. Seriously though that ring is INCREDIBLE

arwo · May 2011

It sounds like you've already decided, but I wanted to add that if I saw that ring on your finger I would assume it was a wedding band, and think you were already married. I generally only wear one ring (I alternate between my e-ring and my wedding band, depending on what I feel like since they can't be worn together) and I've never had people comment on or question my marital status.

meep2 · May 2011

Yup! I think you're right. A curved gold ring could work, but you don't need one. I would assume it's a wedding band. In fact, if you want to do something special to show that it's also a "wedding band," Tiffany's might add a diamond to it (like a drop of dew on the leaves?).

gymbugmj2k · May 2011

if you want a wedding band, you can have an 'enhancer' band custom made to fit into the design of the first ring. kind of like this:

http://0.tqn.com/w/experts/Jewelry-Gems-Minerals-689/2009/07/wedding-set.jpg

you could do a simple thin gold band with 1 or 2 tiny diamonds in between the leaves so that the rings stay flush/connected.

mebaker87 · May 2011

Who cares what ppl think. If your happy with your ring then thats all that matters.

breaness · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_non-traditional-e-ring-should-wedding-band?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:380e11ec-c7ea-4e82-94c0-b970a741c7a2Post:0d881ead-5036-4b46-a83c-c0174e2ec172">Re: Non-traditional e-ring - should I get a wedding band?</a>:
[QUOTE]Yup! I think you're right. A curved gold ring could work, but you don't need one. I would assume it's a wedding band. In fact, if you want to do something special to show that it's also a "wedding band," Tiffany's might add a diamond to it (like a drop of dew on the leaves?).
Posted by meep2[/QUOTE]

<div>I believe it has multiple diamonds on it.</div>

jemmini6 · May 2011

I don't think another band is necessary. Because your ring is just a band, it doesn't look like a typical e-ring...so if I ran into you on the street, I would probably assume you were already married and just don't wear your e-ring anymore before I'd assume you are still engaged and not yet married.

_Dagney_ · May 2011

I wouldn't do a band in addition. it essentially IS a band already.
It is stunning.

cdavislynn · May 2011

Wow, your e-ring is breath-taking! I love it. I agree with some of the PPs, a wedding band might not work at all. I would go consult with a custom jewelry maker about options. Maybe your local board would have some good references? Perhaps a good jeweler can custom fit a band to it, and make them go together well. If not, then I'd just leave it as is. I think the most memorable wedding rings I have ever seen were all custom made, extremely unique and could have been mistaken as not being e-rings. But, the fact that it is on your left finger is what makes it your e-ring!

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