I know this had been talked about before, but . . .
I recently got engaged and I talk frequently with my carpoolers about wedding stuff, which is fine b/c they are all invited since I've gotten to know them pretty well (we spend 1 1/2 hrs a day in the car together, so we know a little more about each other than we'd like to! lol). Anyway, I've tried to keep wedding talk to a minimum with other co-workers b/c we haven't finalized the guest list. We've made a rough draft and several of them are on it, but of course there are many who are not (I'm a teacher so of course I can't invite ALL the teachers!).
Today, a lady who works in the room next to mine came by and started asking wedding questions totally out of the blue. I've never brought up wedding talk with her (or anything personal actually). I tried to be vague, but she kept asking specifics - i.e. she said "when are you getting married?" and I said "next summer" and so she asked the specific date. I didn't know what to say, so I gave in and told her the exact day, but she is definitely NOT invited (never even made the "maybe" list). She even asked about whether or not we had met with the priest. I was like "what!!?"" Then I remembered this is a very Catholic area (I'm Protestant) so it caught me off guard. I corrected her and said we had met with our pastor, etc.
So . . . I guess I need to be more prepared! What do I say when they ask specific questions? Do I answer or change the subject? I feel that changing the subject would be rude b/c I'm ignoring them, but at the same time, if they bring it up (not me), then I guess I should just answer politely and don't say anything more? . . . didn't realize how hard this could be. Any advice would be appreciated (especially from other teachers!). Thanks!
(Note: Others have asked questions too, but they will most likely be invited. I still try to keep wedding talk to a minimum and I don't bring it up myself. This particular lady was the first to ask who is definitely NOT invited so it made me think there could be more who bring it up in the future and I want to be more prepared).