electronic thank you's

Simply Fated · December 2010

Yeah, to clarify, the picture itself doesn't bother me, so long as there is a note with it. My friends sent out literally a picture of them on their wedding day with a computer printed thank you note attached. Everyone got the exact same thing.

Beachy730 · December 2010

Oh yeah Stage, we kept the insides of the cards blank so we could write the TY note. It was actually really frustrating because it took me a few minutes to finally delete the original text in the cards that said "Thank You" and took up half the page. I just wanted blank cards with my AW picture on the front, damnit!

crfische · December 2010

Poor comic sans has had a rough day today.

Beachy730 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_electronic-thank-yous?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:52a6c400-8568-409b-aeab-fe6bbd71342bPost:595ce643-1f02-4829-8a4b-d97ee3e0d7b1">Re: electronic thank you's</a>:
[QUOTE]Yeah, to clarify, the picture itself doesn't bother me, so long as there is a note with it. My friends sent out literally a picture of them on their wedding day with a computer printed thank you note attached. Everyone got the exact same thing.
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]

Yeah that would be bad. I would almost expect something like that from this friend because she's lazy when it comes to stuff like that. Her wedding was a month after ours, and she asked me for a copy of our OOT bag welcome letter to use as a guideline. She literally crossed out all of my information and wrote hers over it, and then photocopied it. It was pretty hilarious knowing her, and since it was just all friends staying in the hotel anyways who got the bags. I thought she just did it to the letter for H and I, but we shared a room with other friends and they had the same letter.

Beachy730 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_electronic-thank-yous?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:52a6c400-8568-409b-aeab-fe6bbd71342bPost:cb6c5a16-98f5-4ea0-b7f7-3e63121ee807">Re: electronic thank you's</a>:
[QUOTE]Will the email be written in comic sans? Take your time. This is important.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

Comic sans, with the font color matching the wedding colors. And they will take the time to alternate every word with the different color. Kinda like this.

mica178 · December 2010

I never considered hand writing the thank you notes a struggle or burden. When I think of the effort my friends and family put into attending my wedding and buying my gift, the very least I could do was send them a note that I put some time into.

Don't you like receiving "real" mail? I hate that all I get are brochures and bills and junk mail. I love the rare cards that remind me that I'm more than a data point on a mailing list.

Beachy730 · December 2010

I get so freaking excited to get something in the mail that isn't a bill, flyer, or spam. Seriously it makes my week.

crfische · December 2010

Oh YES. COMIC SANS in WEDDING COLORS?! We have a winner.

sister2groom · December 2010

One of the reason TY physical notes are I think the only acceptable means of giving TYs (unless you are physically unable to write them) for gifts is that the person knows you must have spent at least a minute or two in being grateful for the gift because it took that long to write it. If you can't be bothered to spend at most 5 minutes, and maybe a little hand cramping, thanking someone for a gift they spent much more time and maybe $25, $50, $100 or maybe more on, you don't really deserve the gift.

Also, your thank you to your guests should not change because there were 500 other guests. More hand cramps is part of the cost of a larger wedding. Your guests probably spent just as much time and money on your gift as they would have had you had only 10 people at your wedding.

Finally, I personally would hate them because if you gave me a stock TY I (and a lot of people I know from my engineering-focused school) could easily write a simple computer program to churn out electronic thank yous.

crfische · December 2010

No one will even pay attention to your effortless, tacky, rude, lazy, stupid ass e-note with comic sans and wedding colors staring at you in the face.

BAM! Comic sans hypnosis.

crfische · December 2010

I'm already two steps ahead of you...

Kristin789 · December 2010

No.
Your wedding is not a birthday party, not a family reunion, not a holiday party, etc. It's a spiritual ceremony, probably religious and probably formal, and it's a legal ceremony too - followed by a reception.
So the more casual forms of communication about this event would not be appropriate.

Now, if your point is that the large number of TYs is a lot for one person to do, here's what we did - maybe future brides would want to consider this:

I wrote the TY cards.
DH looked up every address, addressed all envelopes, and stamped them all.
There is no way I would have done the whole process alone...

banana468 · December 2010

Kristin, you had 14 wedding guests. You really couldn't have handled the TY note process by yourself?

sjgamble · December 2010

I am asking on behalf of a friend who is merely considering this - she wanted some other opinions so i figured this would be the best way.

I wouldn't be offended in the slightest. Maybe I'm just the odd person out lol

Rosie109 · December 2010

Right. Well then don't let her do it.

emilyinchile · December 2010

I think you are the odd one out.

If you brought me a bottle of wine for my casual birthday BBQ, I'd shoot you a thank you e-mail and wouldn't expect a handwritten note if I did the same for you. A wedding, however, is a more serious, formal, important event - even if the attire isn't formal, the occasion is in my mind - and it should be treated as such. And yeah, I did my 100+ thank you notes and know it's a pain, so if you just typed something you could copy and paste, I'd judge you for not having made much of an effort at all after I'd made an effort to get you a present I thought you'd like.

sjgamble · December 2010

It's clear from this we both had the wrong idea. personal hand-written notes it is.

squirrly · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_electronic-thank-yous?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:52a6c400-8568-409b-aeab-fe6bbd71342bPost:1c758d29-a225-448d-9782-1bd43149f000">Re: electronic thank you's</a>:
[QUOTE]Kristin, you had 14 wedding guests. You really couldn't have handled the TY note process by yourself?
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]

I love you.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_electronic-thank-yous?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:52a6c400-8568-409b-aeab-fe6bbd71342bPost:543459b8-a098-4ed2-a8f2-0397fabba4bd">Re: electronic thank you's</a>:
[QUOTE]Also to further clarify. not EVERYONE would receive them. those of older age (and perhaps tradition) would still get a handwritten note. but seriously ladies - i'm sure we've all sat there struggling to write another note. tell me you haven't considered this?
Posted by sjgamble[/QUOTE]

No. I mean, that's sort of the point - sitting and thinking and handwriting a thank you.

Plus, that doesn't jive with your original post. Everything would be "personalized" meaning written just for that individual. So how would typing vs. hand writing be any easier unless you're taking short cuts?

Example:

Dear ______

Thank you so much for your gracious gift of _____ ! Jim and I really appreciate it. It was wonderful to see you at the wedding and we feel so blessed to have you as part of our lives!

Love,
Jessica

Find/replace, fill in the blanks. That's why it's NOT personal. Now, if you WROTE out the same basic TY to everyone, at least you took the time to do it in your own writing and physically wrote out the note you are sending them, so it IS personal.

Manwaithiel · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_electronic-thank-yous?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:52a6c400-8568-409b-aeab-fe6bbd71342bPost:1c758d29-a225-448d-9782-1bd43149f000">Re: electronic thank you's</a>:
[QUOTE]Kristin, you had 14 wedding guests. You really couldn't have handled the TY note process by yourself?
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]

LOL =)

Pesapenny · December 2010

I can't think of any corrospondence that's tackier and tasteless as your idea.

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