There's a time and place for everything

AbbeyS2011 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_theres-a-time-and-place-for-everything?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:972fbe30-b9c6-4212-85bd-60a426858096Post:2a503676-18d9-4d06-b293-1327aad8067c">Re:There's a time and place for everything</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:There's a time and place for everything: Stage, didn't you get the memo? Children will SUFFER if they are cared for primarily by anyone other than their biological mother. For realz.
Posted by StephBeanWed61502[/QUOTE]

Wow - I really effed up my kids. I put them in (horrors) DAY CARE!!!!!

I would also,from time to time, not instantly run and pick them up when they woke up crying in their crib. I am such an awful Mom.

BTW, Salt - your baby is absolutely precious!

salt78 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_theres-a-time-and-place-for-everything?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:972fbe30-b9c6-4212-85bd-60a426858096Post:57272816-c28a-431b-91dd-8e1c31273f80">Re:There's a time and place for everything</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:There's a time and place for everything : Wow - I really effed up my kids. I put them in (horrors) DAY CARE!!!!! I would also,from time to time, not instantly run and pick them up when they woke up crying in their crib. I am such an awful Mom. BTW, Salt - your baby is absolutely precious!
Posted by AbbeyS2011[/QUOTE]

Thanks! I can't believe she can still look so happy after I send her to daycare. Obviously I'm ruining her life.

AbbeyS2011 · July 2012

Wow, I just realized I was an enabler at one time - I was a part-time nanny for two girls, 2 yrs. and 6 weeks old when I started watching them. I took care of them for years. Now they are both grown, married and mommies - one has a girl, and one has a boy.

They were always happy to see Mommy or Daddy when they came home from work.

StephBeanWed61502 · July 2012

In Response to Re:There's a time and place for everything:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:There's a time and place for everything:In Response to Re:There's a time and place for everything : Wow I really effed up my kids.nbsp; I put them in horrors DAY CARE!!!!!nbsp; I would also,from time to time, not instantly run and pick them up when they woke up crying in their crib.nbsp; I am such an awful Mom. BTW, Salt your baby is absolutely precious!Posted by AbbeyS2011Thanks! I can't believe she can still look so happy after I send her to daycare. Obviously I'm ruining her life. Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

YOU CAN'T DO IT ALL, SALT. You can't just expect your baby to be cared for by other people while you go swanning around having a darn career.

Oh wait, you can. Because that is the entire purpose of hiring professional caregivers to look after your child while you continue to pursue your career.

I think the only way you do your child a disservice is by not being true to yourself while raising him or her. If your desire is to be a SAHM, good for you. Enjoy. But that's not right for every woman, or every family, and to suggest that any woman who tries to work while having a baby is clearly doomed to fail in at least one area of her life is narrow minded and false.

QueerFemme · July 2012

I work all the time. My blackberry (now droid) has spent the last 10+ years under my pillow or on the nightstand and I easily wake up to the little red blinking light, respond to an email, and go back to sleep. There is no such thing as "time off". My email still comes in every few minutes. I triage what is important and go back to sleep/doing what I was doing.

I even worked full time when I was raising my rottweiler puppy ! but, you know... I just put him in a crate and called the dog walker. Nanny/dog walker. Same thing, right?

lyndausvi · July 2012

I'm fairly certain that if you are a person about to take a job as a CEO of a multi-billion dollar a year company you pretty much have to say you will work through something like maternity leave in order to get the job. CEOs are not really the type of jobs one can just not do for 12 weeks. Especially when you just took the job a few months earlier. Yahoo needs help NOW, not a few months from now. Doesn't really work that way at that level. Ya know?

A woman who owns her own small business is more than likely going to work through her maternity leave also. If she doesn't work, who will take care of the business?

My sister-in-law was a college student who gave birth on a Saturday and returned to a full credit school schedule on Monday. Ideal? Nope, Is it what she had to do to get a degree sooner to be able to make money to support her child? Yep.

Sometimes you have to do what you have to do. If I was about to become the CEO of Yahoo I would also work through my leave a few months from now. I should be getting enough money to help pay for help, setup a nursery at the office, etc. to make it easier.

GoodLuckBear14 · July 2012

Really late to this one but Lucy reminded me of the hours following knee surgery. One of my paralegals was calling several times to ask questions about my cases. At one point, the pain meds finally took hold of my brain and I told her, "Jackie, I understand that you are speaking English and I understand that those English words are forming sentences but I have no clue what you just asked. Go ask Carol. Whatever she says goes." Two days later I was begging the partner Carol to hire a courier service to bring me boxes of files to work on from home because I did not want to other attorneys at my level (all men) to get any kind of advantage over me even though the firm was giving me two weeks of paid time off that I didn't have to take out of my vacation or personal time.

joe&cassie · July 2012

Since I'm still a student I can't really comment on jobs... however, I can say that I am the president of the special education student organization and even I was answering texts and emails and phone calls on vacation. I think it is just expected now days with the advanced level of communication we have. I respect the CEO's right to do that. I'm going to be a teacher and I'm sure that at some point i'll be writing lesson plans or answering a subs phone call.

Legu · July 2012

I'm pregnant [preggly?] with my first [due mid January]. I work 50 hours a week running around managing a pub. A girl at work recently left on maternity, she's due her third in two weeks. Her original plan was to leave a week before due, and come back two or three weeks after [remembering she is certainly not new at this]. She ended up leaving five weeks before, even after cutting her shifts down to three sevenhour shifts a week, because it's just too much. I was a little nervous... "she's gonna make me look bad cause I'm gonna need so much longer off work blah blah blah". At the end of the day, I'm entitled to a full year off [will not be taking] and I'll take what I need to ensure the safety and comfort of my baby. If other people can have the baby at work, nip to the hospital to get baby checked out, then go back to finish their shift, good on them. I saw some concerns about companies shortening maternity leave... I strongly doubt that would happen... Maternity leave is a guideline, ie, you don't have to take it all, but it's a medically recommended amount of time for safety and family reasons. Even if 90percent of people took one week, and the other 10percent took a full year, I doubt they'd legally shorten it. If it's available and no one's using it, they [companies] are not losing out anyways, and if every pregnant woman took the full year, it's because that's how long they need to take, and it wouldn't be allowed to be shortened anyways. Hope that makes sense... Apologies for poor layout... Phone again. ETA Also, just read the rest of the thread... I work five days a week [circumstance, sometimes six or all seven]. Every day I call the pub to see how they're getting on, how much money we've taken etc. Including when I went to Spain for ten days last year. Also, frequently call in on days off just to see what's goin on, catch up with staff I may not have seen for a while, and whatever. I've already had two calls this morning askin questions, I'm in work in two hours anyway. That's just how it is. The staff appreciate that I call in an say hi, and that they can contact me any time for anything. It's just part of business management. That and pub work is kinda like having a big extended family... If you want it to be, and you treat your staff right.

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