Anyone else feel this way yet??

FLGatorGal88 · March 2012

I WANT TO ELOPE!!!! I am having second thoughts on our venue it's to the point where I just don't want deal with any of this anymore. I now know why i put this off for 2 years. We were talking about looking at other venues in our area but then I feel like we are back at square one. It just gets frustrating because what we really want to do it impossible without going way out of budget. Have crunched numbers multiple times and it won't budge. I have taken a break from looking at everything and in the end I still feel the same way. Am I crazy or has anyone else felt this way.

LB&SF · March 2012

nope... i feel this way all the time... my parents offered us a substaintial amount of money to pretty much do that and have a small reception. The money would be to put towards a house. I want to take the money and run. My fiance wants the big wedding. We are going with the big wedding. The cost for everything is mindboggling to me though

mymissingpuzzlepiece · March 2012

I've totally felt this before. Like multiple times. We actually strongly considered that option after what happened with his parents and the whole female officiant situation and also how much all of this costs. It's crazy! But I love our venue and so does my FI, so we are sticking to it.

FutureMrsG2013 · March 2012

I feel like I'm the odd bride, but I have never had thoughts of wanting to elope. I'm only getting married once, and I want to have my big perfect dream wedding. I'm sorry you're feeling overwhelmed though =(.

Danny&Mel2003 · March 2012

I would rather elope an use money for house but Fi wants the wedding an so do our families im out numbered but I can say I love our venue it's gorgeous!!!

Swazzle · March 2012

There have been times where I'd rather have a small destination wedding on an island in the Caribbean rather than what we're actually having but then I realize FI's brother wouldn't be there (he won't fly) & so that's not feasible. Womp, womp.

melb2013 · March 2012

LB&SF: I feel the exact same way. I think it's weird that all these grooms want the big weddings! Although for my FI and his family, our wedding (inviting 150 people) is very small... ughhhhh

I think about eloping all the time. Several times when FI's family has really pissed me off, I've actually taken out my venue's contract and started dialing the phone number to cancel... my mom always goes with me about canceling, but my dad always convinced me not to. FI at this point would be dissapointed without the wedding, but he'd deal with it.

FL: What exactly makes you want to cancel? Is it just the money? Has the venue turned out to be more than expected?

FLGatorGal88 · March 2012

When I go look at the venue it great. It when I start planning things to go with our theme if I feel it doesn't work or it won't fit the venue theme. Then I feel as if we are limited to certain things. The money/cost for the venue is not a problem. Another thing is its a pavilion with glass doors that roll up which are really nice if the weather permits. So I have to try to find a canopy type tent that can cover the patio of the pavilion that's not covered if it rains. Which right now IT'S IMPOSSIBLE!!! They don't have the measurements for the patio where I need the tent which I have been waiting for a few days to get those measurements. Then if that doesn't work our only option is to move it all inside where the reception will be held which is not what we wanted to do.

SSaltzman87 · March 2012

I know my FI has felt this way, and I probably should be after all the curveballs we've been thrown. I've always been one to never back down from what I want to accomplish and not let anything 'dull my sparkle' so to speak.

I've never had a dream of a 'perfect' wedding, so we've pretty much compromised by having a smaller guest list and cutting corners on everything.

If it's something you seriously want to do, go for it. At the end of the day, gotta do what's right for you guys.

rswans · March 2012

I've never really thought about eloping other than thinking it'd be nice to be married sooner than next May. I love weddings and I love everything we've picked out so far. It can be a little stressful, but I really want to share everything with my friends and family, plus it's a good reason to get everyone together.

RebCappon · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_anyone-else-feel-this-way-yet?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:394d37c4-e0a7-4e28-80fd-86fe57e92134Post:a956cb49-3191-4719-a9c9-182628b4b5ee">Re: Anyone else feel this way yet??</a>:
[QUOTE]nope... i feel this way all the time... my parents offered us a substaintial amount of money to pretty much do that and have a small reception. The money would be to put towards a house. I want to take the money and run. My fiance wants the big wedding. We are going with the big wedding. The cost for everything is mindboggling to me though
Posted by LB&SF[/QUOTE]

<div>This is me minus the offering of money. I have loads of student loans and he does not so when he is talking about spending the $ I am seeing student loan money. LOL</div>

SRRL18 · March 2012

I haven`t felt like that. Yet.

FI`s wants are the real reason we are planning the wedding. I`d rather use the money as a down payment for a house and have a destination wedding. He really want the whole package and I want him to be happy so here we are!

hisbabygirl76 · March 2012

I have begged to elope. For the money, for the stress, for the insanity. FI wants the big wedding and all oru friends and family there. I finally stopped arguing. Well mostly, I still have my days where I just sit and cry at how overwhelmign it all is and if its really all going to fall into place.

SSaltzman87 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_anyone-else-feel-this-way-yet?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:394d37c4-e0a7-4e28-80fd-86fe57e92134Post:41b54114-6554-4893-8209-65368967e386">Re: Anyone else feel this way yet??</a>:
[QUOTE]Well mostly, I still have my days where I just sit and cry at how overwhelmign it all is and if its really all going to fall into place.
Posted by hisbabygirl76[/QUOTE]
Oh man, I really would have a serious talk with your FI about this.<div>
</div><div>There has to be a middle ground somewhere.</div>

hisbabygirl76 · March 2012

Saltz- We have talked the middle ground part to death. He firmly believes that because I was married before thats my reasoning and that bothers him. I have made lots of "we are not doing this then" compromises with him. So far its working out. It is his first time (which I hear from everyone) so Im gonig along with the big to do but a lot of things are on my terms

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