Who should walk me down the aisle? Father or Stepfather or both?

Lauspie · May 2011

Both my father and stepfather have been very active in my life. Does anyone have any ideas to incorporate both of them to walk me down the aisle? I don't want anyone to get hurt.

kristeno90 · May 2011

It is your wedding. If you are close to both of them then have them both walk you down the aisle.

ajroark · May 2011

I agree with PP. This decision is completely up to you. I would have one on each side of you to honor them both.

GeauxTigers17 · May 2011

Is the aisle wide enough for all 3 of you including your dress?

Kris092988 · May 2011

You could maybe have one walk you half way and the other walk you the other half.

Lauspie · May 2011

I can make the aisle as wide as I want. I just know my father isn't too keen on having both him and my stepfather walk me down the aisle so just looking for some different ideas

NOLAbridealmost · May 2011

I probably would let your biological dad have this entire job. He's probably thought about it since the day you were born and you seemed to indicate that he's been active in your life. I'd do two father daughter dances, one with each, but let your dad walk you down the aisle.

MandiandFrank · May 2011

I have the same problem. I am having them both do it. Just trying to figure out how I will be able to hold my flowers. I called my bio father before hand and explained that i wanted them both to do it. As not to have any awkward moments at the rehearsal. Also- My step dad and mom are no longer married either, however he has always been in my life and still is since i was 2. So for introductions, Im having my mom and step dad announced together- which is amazing they both agreed, and then my real dad introduced with his wife. For the dance, Im having my bio dad dance first and faded out and then into the dance with my step dad.
I feel for anyone who has this issue- it's hard and you dont want feelings hurt and you want to make everyone happy and honor those in some way who mean the most. Like having the dad whose been there all along, walking me down the aisle on my left..closest to my heart (:

Jen6862 · May 2011

I agree you could have your bio dad walk you halfway and then you stepdad could join you both for the rest of the way. Or if you decide to have just one, then have the other one do a reading or something special during the ceremony. Good luck!

MAMA41206 · May 2011

If your Dad has been active in your life, I would have him walk you down the aisle alone.

I have heard of people in your situation doing something interesting:
The father walks the daughter down the aisle and kisses her and sits down... then when the minister/preist/ etc asks "who gives this girl/bride/woman/etc away to be married?" your Mother and Stepfather could stand up and say "we do."

That way your dad gets to walk you down the aisle, but your mom and step dad have the honor of giving you away.

MissRutig · May 2011

I was faced with the same problem. My Step dad was much more active in my life before my biological father stepped up later in life. So i am having my biological father walk me in half way down the aisle, and than he will hand me off to my Step dad (who is the only one who around my entire childhood). That way both of them are included and neither feels left out.

Ive seen this done at a wedding previously and it worked out great.

Sarah0517 · May 2011

Same problem as well. However neither party likes each other very much . They don't really play nice unfortunately no mater the situation. Everything is a competition and its a tense situation for me right now. I am leaning towards having my biological mom & biological dad walk me down so nobody is favored over the other when it comes to both step parents and being "more active" or "noted" than the other???

Who should walk me down the aisle? Father or Stepfather or both?

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