Snarky Brides

Momster

I went with my bestie, "Ivy" for her most recent dress fitting and during the fitting we were talking about different hairstyles that she could do for the ceremony and reception. Her mother pooh-poohs updos and down with curls and is adamant that the bride just wear her hair natural. Ivy has fantastic hair, don't get me wrong, but on your wedding day you want something a little fancier than towel dried hair (she even said so herself). Out of the blue her mother says "why don't you do a french braid?" Both Ivy and I give her the wtf look and now mom is pissed and insulted that neither Ivy nor I are down with the polygamist wife french braid hairdo for the wedding.

Normally this wouldn't even be something that I remember, but now her mother has gone all vindictive bitch on me and has completely cut me out of the bridal shower planning. I can't make or send the invites, plan the menu or in any way have any say in the planning. Via facebook she tells me, "Thanks for your suggestions, but I don't need any help. I've waited many years for this day for my daughter and have had my plans already in mind."

Obviously I'm not going to start a fight with her because this is about Ivy, not about me or her mother, but damn am I PISSED. Ivy is my friend and I love her too. Its just really hurting my feelings that her mom can't look past my hairstyle opinions so we can both work on the shower together.

I'm going to feel the way I feel no matter what, but am I justified? Overreacting?

Re: Momster

  • Well. This is just weird. Does Ivy want you or her mom to plan the bridal shower?
  • It was assumed that her mother, myself and the rest of the bridesmaids would be equally involved in the planning. At this point I'm not going to bring it up to her because I think that would create undue stress.

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_momster?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:940780a7-a484-454d-83ec-59e35f3dae22Post:fad507b1-2445-4928-a6f2-684c0ad64ce2">Re: Momster</a>:
    [QUOTE]Let Momzilla have the bridal shower planning all to herself.  That way she has to pay for all of it.
    Posted by LucyHC[/QUOTE]

    I like the way you think. She's being a little immature but just let it go and let her know you're available to help. If she does wind up needing you, she'll let you know. Otherwise, just show up and have a good time at the shower.
  • Is the mom expecting you and the BM's to help pay for the shower?
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_momster?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:940780a7-a484-454d-83ec-59e35f3dae22Post:6fdd3ccb-4df0-40d4-83da-73b38cf86642">Re: Momster</a>:
    [QUOTE]Is the mom expecting you and the BM's to help pay for the shower?
    Posted by JenGin74[/QUOTE]

    She hasn't said so yet, but I wouldn't be surprised. She has cash flow issues.

    She did send me another note on facebook last night. Told me if I didn't like her plans then I could just plan my own shower.

    I'm just going to sit this one out (planning-wise. I will be there though). I'll save my money and plan a kick ass bachelorette party for her. And if her mom tries to butt in on that, then its just gonna be war.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_momster?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:940780a7-a484-454d-83ec-59e35f3dae22Post:cc03ee45-8cf5-4bba-b899-fa688ce036cd">Re: Momster</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Momster : She hasn't said so yet, but I wouldn't be surprised. She has cash flow issues. She did send me another note on facebook last night. Told me if I didn't like her plans then I could just plan my own shower. I'm just going to sit this one out (planning-wise. I will be there though). I'll save my money and plan a kick ass bachelorette party for her. And if her mom tries to butt in on that, then its just gonna be war.
    Posted by threepinkroses[/QUOTE]


    She's sounds like an ass.  I seriously hope she doesn't try to get any money out of you fer "her" party. That would take some huge balls.
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  • And if she asks, and I refuse, don't I look like the petty one?


  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_momster?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:940780a7-a484-454d-83ec-59e35f3dae22Post:bd38d4e9-0bd4-4b03-8654-8bd101dd8ddb">Re: Momster</a>:
    [QUOTE]And if she asks, and I refuse, don't I look like the petty one?
    Posted by threepinkroses[/QUOTE]


    It could come off that way, unless you're legitimately saving for an awesome bachelorette.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_momster?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:940780a7-a484-454d-83ec-59e35f3dae22Post:1eecc75a-c6f7-4a67-93ce-0867aecc6589">Re: Momster</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Momster : It could come off that way, unless you're legitimately saving for an awesome bachelorette.
    Posted by JenGin74[/QUOTE]

    I like the way you think. I would like to take her to Vegas.
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