Date Dilemma

Testerman1 · October 2010

Hello Ladies,

Upon looking at vendors and talking with friends and family I am stuck on two different dates as to when I will get married. I am asking you fellow knotties for your UN biased opinion for wedding dates since I am personally having a hard time picking.

The dates we are debating:

April 10^th 2011 ( 4-10-11) VS November 11, 2011 ( 11,11,11)

So here is a couple of things that weigh into this factor of choosing a date:

11/11/2011

I have a beautiful little girl who is not my Fiance biological daughter. However he wants to adopt my little girl and give her his last name. She is now 4 years old and will be starting Kindergarten in August 2011 ( WHICH IS BEFORE OUR 11.11.11. DATE ) So she would still have my last name.

Another deal with 11.11.11 is that his brother is getting married October 1^st and although they said they don't mind if we get married right after them in November it still feels slightly awkward. Someone also said that the 11.11.11 is going to be used widely and takes away from the specialness of having your own unique day. They are stating that it would be CLIQUE.

04/10/2011

Upon discussing the dates and trying to decide a date my friend told me of a fun and exciting way that you can create a special wedding date by adding your birthdays together.

My birthday is 05/29 =34 His Birthday is 02/04 = 6 Together that is 40. then Split the numbers in half meaning ( 4month 0 for day )

That makes the date could be 4/1/2011, 4/10/2011, 4/30/11 ( which 4/30 is out )

I thought this was super cute and creative. We really like 4/10/11

Getting married in April would eliminate the problem with the name change and all that fun stuff. I just am afraid of rain or it being hot. I am not a fan of hot weather. We both like the cooler seasons.

May isn't an option because that’s mine and my daughters birthday month and I am not a huge fan of summer so May – September is out.

I just really wanted my fellow knotties opinion on dates to get married. I know no one can choose my date but me but its always nice to have others advice

Thanks in advance

Merissa

btweety04 · October 2010

I have no opinion on this topic, but just curious why this is posted 3 times?

FebDallasBride · October 2010

I was thinking the same thing about the multiplke postings...

Only you can pick the date that feels right to you. If it's a matter of getting your daughter to start school with your fiance's last name (which it seems like is a big factor, yes?) then go with the earlier date. Keep in mind, planning this 7 months earlier means you will need to get on the ball with planning unless you have a lot planned already.

My head really hurts from trying to understand the equation of adding your birthdays to get your wedding date though...

OY!

Stef&Bobby0612 · October 2010

We just picked a random date. It will be special because it will be your wedding date it doesn't need any symbolism to go along with it.

Testerman1 · October 2010

I am sorry about the three postings! It keep saying error and said I couldn't post. I did not mean to post three times. I am so very sorry! On my side its having tons of TECH issues, My profile, bio, or siggy isn't working.

Im very sorry

Jay&Marissa · October 2010

I got married in the last month I would have picked (June), but it really doesn't matter. To me, sooner is better anyway

TexanTreasure08 · October 2010

I don't see any personal reasons to have it in November. Are you just considering it because of the 11/11/11? I wouldn't pick it just because of that. Also, it will be very popular just like 10/10/10 was so I would expect things to be a little more expensive.

I picked April because it's NOT hot then. And as for the rain, have you even picked your venue yet? You might end up picking an indoor venue.

Also, I have thought about pushing our wedding back to save more money, but FIs brother is getting married the next year and I wouldn't want to have mine close to theirs. I know it sounds silly, but I think the family's should have more time between weddings and I want them to have their own time like I do now of everyone paying them attention. I guess I don't want to "steal their thunder."

I ended up picking my date based on my favorite vendors' availability (my venue & DJ). Maybe that would be a good idea for you? A lot of people may already be booked for April, so if there's someone/some place you have your heart set on I would start there. I wouldn't use some formula to come up with a date, unless you need a special auspicious date like in the Chinese culture. But that's just me.

brooke.anne · October 2010

If you are scared of rain and it is a weather issue, I would say to go with November. But weather is a hard thing to predict. I don't really get the number symbolism but hey, if it means something to y'all, more power to ya! I think you should go with whichever date feels right to both of you. I did vote for November though, just because I'm cheesy and I think it would be pretty cool to get married on 11.11.11. Good luck in picking your date, though! (:

MLandCJ · October 2010

I agree with PP's

I racked my brain trying to get a cutesy date and do the number things. It came to the point where FI said to stop because it will be our day and it will be special because it is our day.

MarieSD · October 2010

I agree with Texan Treasure - maybe you could see what dates the venue you want is available, and pick based on that? I would imagine a lot of popular vendors are booked up through the summer, save for a few random dates, so that might help you pick quickly if you really love a particular venue/DJ/photographer!

I personally picked my date based on how long I wanted to be engaged. I had the unusual circumstance of needing to move cross-country and find a new job to be with my FI, so I gave us 1.5 years to settle in, get new jobs, and plan the wedding. If we'd already been established here, I probably would've picked a shorter engagement period. Would you rather choose your vendors quickly, or have a bit more time? That might help you decide whether to have a spring 2011 or late fall 2011 wedding.

Also from your post you said you liked it better cooler ... honestly, if I'd been more of a cold-weather person (I'm not) I would have loved to have picked a date in January-March. Some reception halls give discounts because that is the off-season, so that's the main reason (to save $$$). Perhaps other vendors do too.

juliebug1997 · October 2010

I've lived in Texas most of my life and you still have a very good opportunity for rain and heat in November. Thanksgiving Day 1978 it was 98 here. It has iced on my birthday (the day before 11-11). Pick the date that YOU want.

MsLaura31 · October 2010

Pick based on your venue. It will make things MUCH easier. Also, can you afford to get married in April, or will waiting (and saving) until November mean you won't have a bunch of debt? And which date is better for your close friends and family? I'm guessing April...

Those were the 3 things that went into choosing our date. You're getting caught in details - look at the big picture. Good luck!

fallbride1109 · October 2010

I personally would not want to get married 5 months from now having not even picked a venue. I think you need to look at it from the practical side of things rather than getting hung up on a date. I personally loved getting married in November, the weather was perfect and having around 10 months to plan was perfect for me. That being said, do what is best for you and your FI.

bsn1752 · October 2010

I agree with Stephie and the previous posters...

Something else to keep in mind... 11/11/11 is going to be a popular date... and things will probably be more expensive because of that. (Just like 10/10/10 or 7/7/07)... keep that in mind as well.

Tiffany618 · October 2010

I don't have anything to add over what PP said, but I just wanted to add that I think you might be WAY overthinking this.

The date doesn't really have to be significant prior to you getting married.... because it will become significant in your lives on that day.

BanannaP · October 2010

Here's a thought, and I'm not sure if this would be possible for you or not. What if your daughter started the school year next year with her new last name, and just legally make it official after the wedding? Then you can have your fall wedding, plenty of time to plan and still not have to change your daughter's in the middle of the school year. I've had teacher friends do this and it worked well for them. Just an idea.

meghanttu08 · October 2010

Sometimes it is cool-cold in April. For me personaly I would go with November, only because it will give you more time to plan. But, I agree with what others say. Look at venues. Pick your date according to your venue.

DFWIndian · October 2010

I think weather doesn't really factor into much with Texas.. My sister had her wedding on Jan 14th and it was a beautiful warm day. It was not cold at all.
My other friend did March and it was beautiful cool day... I was a little cold.
I think you need to just go with a date and decide what works for y'all. we picked our date because it was our anniversary date.

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