Commenting on "Asking for money is rude"

KellyBrian2013 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_commenting-asking-money-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:db803a86-703a-4edf-b887-8be6e816aa11Post:a2ea26a9-2cd0-4739-81fd-f7fbc432a467">Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude"</a>:
[QUOTE]A friend who had lived with her fiance for a few years before marrying used them poems and passed them onto me and my fiance. We are using them and have had no negative response yet. I see no reason to ask for things we simply do not need so we are going ahead with this idea. Poem for Invite We hope that you will join us on this our special day To celebrate our union in a very special way To make it easy for you and avoid a shopping spree We thought that we would have instead a little money tree Because we've been together, for a little while now We have collected all our household things before we took our vows An envelope will be provided for you to bless our tree no name is required for each gift as anonymity is the key! So please don't be offended at our new type of request Just telling everyone our wish has really put us to the test! Poem for Money Tree Table, place next to envelope's I'm just a little money tree With lots of branches bare as can be! But you can make my branches bloom with good things for the bride and groom! Please take your gift and give me leaves To make my branches full and green! For the newlyweds Ill be a blessing Ill give them all their nest is missing!
Posted by Fritchsp[/QUOTE]

Ugh. Tacky doesn't sound any better just because it rhymes.

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_commenting-asking-money-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:db803a86-703a-4edf-b887-8be6e816aa11Post:773f642e-bcaf-4700-9050-eb3558147bde">Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude"</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude" : I disagree 100% with this idea. Not everyone "just knows" that money will be appreciated, and not everyone would appreciate money as much as a gift. Where on earth people get the idea that "well our COURSE everyone knows people would love money" is beyond me. ~Katy
Posted by chickcasa[/QUOTE]

What rock is your family/friends living under that they wouldn't understand that money is appreciated.

Who honestly out there thinks along the lines of: "Gee. I bet the new couple <em>can't</em> use any money we give. What a crappy present. There's <em>no way</em> they'll find something to do with it if we give them money."

I'm sorry, but what an idiotic thing to say.

I understand if people feel that giving money is impersonal. But impractical or not appreciated? Are you freaking serious?

Simply Fated · January 2012

"So please don't be offended at our new type of request" Well, since you asked your guests not to be offended, then it's okay because they totally won't be offended. I mean, who would be offended after reading that cutesy poem that rhymes?

tldh · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_commenting-asking-money-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:db803a86-703a-4edf-b887-8be6e816aa11Post:a2ea26a9-2cd0-4739-81fd-f7fbc432a467">Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude"</a>:
[QUOTE]A friend who had lived with her fiance for a few years before marrying used them poems and passed them onto me and my fiance. We are using them and have had no negative response yet. I see no reason to ask for things we simply do not need so we are going ahead with this idea. Poem for Invite We hope that you will join us on this our special day To celebrate our union in a very special way To make it easy for you and avoid a shopping spree We thought that we would have instead a little money tree Because we've been together, for a little while now We have collected all our household things before we took our vows An envelope will be provided for you to bless our tree no name is required for each gift as anonymity is the key! So please don't be offended at our new type of request Just telling everyone our wish has really put us to the test! Poem for Money Tree Table, place next to envelope's I'm just a little money tree With lots of branches bare as can be! But you can make my branches bloom with good things for the bride and groom! Please take your gift and give me leaves To make my branches full and green! For the newlyweds Ill be a blessing Ill give them all their nest is missing!
Posted by Fritchsp[/QUOTE]

Again, it doesn't matter how you wrap it or what bow you put on it, this is still rude as all hell. And of course you haven't heard any negative feedback. That is done behind your back.

JJJ625 · January 2012

@katy... I for one, agree with you on most points. You've said it better than I could. I've always wondered why it's largely deemed ok on TK to make it known you'd like a $50 item, but a $50 experience or just cash to start your lives out of debt is such a terrible breach of etiquette. Makes NO sense to me. You're letting people know what you want. Blender, massage, phone bill paid... what's the difference? People want their gift to make you happy.

finesse910 · January 2012

An acquaintance of mine requested gift cards- no one cared. A little different from cash but not really.

finesse910 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_commenting-asking-money-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:db803a86-703a-4edf-b887-8be6e816aa11Post:d9dd903c-7837-43f3-a0ec-730cd3b140cd">Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude"</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude" : Again, it doesn't matter how you wrap it or what bow you put on it, this is still rude as all hell. And of course you haven't heard any negative feedback. That is done behind your back.
Posted by tldh[/QUOTE]

That would make sense if it was her who used it.... it was her friend. So the poster obviously could have heard some of the negative feedback. If you're doing to talk about etiquette, at least read someone's post so your response at least makes sense.

MNVegas · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_commenting-asking-money-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:db803a86-703a-4edf-b887-8be6e816aa11Post:a2ea26a9-2cd0-4739-81fd-f7fbc432a467">Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude"</a>:
[QUOTE]A friend who had lived with her fiance for a few years before marrying used them poems and passed them onto me and my fiance. We are using them and have had no negative response yet. I see no reason to ask for things we simply do not need so we are going ahead with this idea. Poem for Invite We hope that you will join us on this our special day To celebrate our union in a very special way To make it easy for you and avoid a shopping spree We thought that we would have instead a little money tree Because we've been together, for a little while now We have collected all our household things before we took our vows An envelope will be provided for you to bless our tree no name is required for each gift as anonymity is the key! So please don't be offended at our new type of request Just telling everyone our wish has really put us to the test! Poem for Money Tree Table, place next to envelope's I'm just a little money tree With lots of branches bare as can be! But you can make my branches bloom with good things for the bride and groom! Please take your gift and give me leaves To make my branches full and green! For the newlyweds Ill be a blessing Ill give them all their nest is missing!
Posted by Fritchsp[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh, these poems are so bad! A cutesy poem is not covering up bad manners. It is still rude to ask for cash. I would definitely cringe if I received an invitation with this dribble included and would NOT give a cash gift. </div><div>
</div><div>Like I said before, I refuse to reward people for their horrible manners. </div>

RunsWithBears · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_commenting-asking-money-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:db803a86-703a-4edf-b887-8be6e816aa11Post:880c0797-3960-4b25-9c08-b2afbf4ec2df">Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude"</a>:
[QUOTE]@katy... I for one, agree with you on most points. You've said it better than I could. I've always wondered why it's largely deemed ok on TK to make it known you'd like a $50 item, but a $50 experience or just cash <strong>to start your lives out of debt</strong> is such a terrible breach of etiquette. Makes NO sense to me. You're letting people know what you want. Blender, massage, <strong>phone bill paid</strong>... what's the difference? People want their gift to make you happy.
Posted by JJJ625[/QUOTE]

Except those things are your responsibility. I'll give you cash to help you start your home (or a fun excursion on your HM because I <em>personally</em> don't mind buying you an experience) but I'm not going to give you cash so you can pay your phone bill or student loans. I pay my own bills - I'm not going to pay yours too.

A lot of people believe that gifts given at weddings and showers should be something that helps the couple start their new life/home together. While money is practical and can be used to help start your new life, there is no guarantee for the guest that you're using that money to buy a new toaster instead of, say, new shoes or pay bills. I think this is also why asking for cash is kinda rude. It's not about the actual amount of money spent, it's more the fact that if I get you a gift, I get a say in how the money is spent. If I give cash, I don't. That's also the issue with HM registries - as discussed before. I don't actually buy you dinner, I give you money for a dinner and hope that's what you actually use it for.

MNVegas · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_commenting-asking-money-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:db803a86-703a-4edf-b887-8be6e816aa11Post:8fb922b1-98ee-4e7e-9e68-c43195295688">Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude"</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude" : That would make sense if it was her who used it.... it was her friend. So the poster obviously could have heard some of the negative feedback. If you're doing to talk about etiquette, at least read someone's post so your response at least makes sense.
Posted by finesse910[/QUOTE]

<div>Actually the poster said the friend used these crap poems and then passed them on to her. She said she is using them. Disgusting!</div>

JJJ625 · January 2012

Also, for those people saying "I pay for my own ____________, you should too!"- How does that even make sense since most people pay for their own toasters, lamps, sheets, silverware, etc?

I'm really not trying to be argumentative (and thanks for the people who see that), but most of the arguments for why it's rude just make no sense to me. I didn't ask this question to ignore answers, but I'm rolling my eyes at the people who think that because I'm questioning the answers I'm being oppositional.

I guess it's just one of those things that you either think is ok or you don't.

Stina2012 · January 2012

I think people don't realize how rude asking for cash is....until it happens to them. Imagine receiving that poem! Or feeling hustled by a dollar dance. After the awkward exchange of a request for cash gone wrong your image/feeling of the friend will definitely be changed/different. And why ruin your social circle in that way? And THAT is why asking for cash is rude, it affects your social standing and your social connections in a possible negative manner. Who would ever knowingly do something that one would think may be bad for a friendship?

RunsWithBears · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_commenting-asking-money-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:db803a86-703a-4edf-b887-8be6e816aa11Post:4e913b6b-716d-4e83-ae4e-8dce0c218b8b">Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude"</a>:
[QUOTE]Also, for those people saying "I pay for my own ____________, you should too!"- How does that even make sense since most people pay for their own toasters, lamps, sheets, silverware, etc? I'm really not trying to be argumentative (and thanks for the people who see that), but most of the arguments for why it's rude just make no sense to me. I didn't ask this question to ignore answers, but I'm rolling my eyes at the people who think that because I'm questioning the answers I'm being oppositional. I guess it's just one of those things that you either think is ok or you don't.
Posted by JJJ625[/QUOTE]

I wish I could explain it better. I think there's a difference in asking for money to pay bills or for a house and asking for a toaster or fine china. Maybe because I get the impression that you aren't responsible enough to pay your bills so you have to rely on others. I know this isn't always the case and some people just need some breathing room but do you understand what I'm saying? I think it's acceptable if people ask what you want and you (or other family members) to tell them "We are registered at X, but are saving up for Y." If you flat out register or ask for cash then it kinda makes your wedding looking like a revenue stream which in turn makes you look greedy. Once again, I know that isn't always the case, but I think that's a common reaction.

The other big thing with asking for cash, and I'm sure this has been mentioned, is that the recipient knows EXACTLY how much was spent. And this can make many people very uncomfortable. And making people uncomfortable is rude. Does that make sense?

chickcasa · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_commenting-asking-money-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:db803a86-703a-4edf-b887-8be6e816aa11Post:50b88126-37dd-46fb-ba4a-2db42f62a45a">Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude"</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude" : Except you will be lying to the guest who thinks they are buying you that massage. They aren't. They are giving the website $50 and the website in turn is giving you a check for $45. It's a bad situation all the way around.
Posted by tldh[/QUOTE]

<div>And for the ten millionth time, this isn't necessarily true. Some honeymoon registries go completely through the resort or cruise line, and thus what money DOES go towards what is intended most of the time. As far as the registry taking a cut, this is also not always true. It gets really old hearing the same FALSE information being relayed as reasons honeymoon registries are bad. over and over and over.</div><div>
</div><div>~Katy</div>

chickcasa · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_commenting-asking-money-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:db803a86-703a-4edf-b887-8be6e816aa11Post:5f4b1279-c4d2-404b-ab8a-59f69b43cac6">Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude"</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude" : Except those things are your responsibility. I'll give you cash to help you start your home (or a fun excursion on your HM because I personally don't mind buying you an experience) but I'm not going to give you cash so you can pay your phone bill or student loans. I pay my own bills - I'm not going to pay yours too. A lot of people believe that gifts given at weddings and showers should be something that helps the couple start their new life/home together. While money is practical and can be used to help start your new life, there is no guarantee for the guest that you're using that money to buy a new toaster instead of, say, new shoes or pay bills. I think this is also why asking for cash is kinda rude. It's not about the actual amount of money spent, it's more the fact that if I get you a gift, I get a say in how the money is spent. If I give cash, I don't. That's also the issue with HM registries - as discussed before. I don't actually buy you dinner, I give you money for a dinner and hope that's what you actually use it for.
Posted by RunsWithBears[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>How is it NOT also our responsibility to make sure we have the household items we need? Oh thats right- it is! It's not our guests responsibility to get us a blender, or fine china, or ANYTHING. Period. It's just a nice thing people do.
</div><div>Saying "it's not your guests responsibility to pay for _____" but it's ok to register for gifts implies that is IS the guests responsibility to get gifts. um, no.</div><div>Getting a couple a gift vs giving money are both simply nice things to do. Letting guests know which you prefer isn't the same as expecting them to get you anything at all.</div><div>
</div><div>~Katy</div>

Simply Fated · January 2012

You think it's okay to ask people to pay for your cellphone bill? That would be awesome. My bill is $75 a month. I can ask for 12 of those gifts. Is it all right to add in my oil bill? It gets really high around the winter time. I like to be all warm and snuggley at night. To hit varying price points, I'll add in my water bill and library fine. It's like I'm in Never Neverland and I never have to grow up! Everyone else can just pay my bills for me.

chickcasa · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_commenting-asking-money-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:db803a86-703a-4edf-b887-8be6e816aa11Post:a6e8227f-12e6-4b9d-89b8-e42922ae030f">Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude"</a>:
[QUOTE]You think it's okay to ask people to pay for your cellphone bill? That would be awesome. My bill is $75 a month. I can ask for 12 of those gifts. Is it all right to add in my oil bill? It gets really high around the winter time. I like to be all warm and snuggley at night. To hit varying price points, I'll add in my water bill and library fine. It's like I'm in Never Neverland and I never have to grow up! Everyone else can just pay my bills for me.
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]

<div>This is just nuts.</div><div>
</div><div>First it's rude to ask for money for things you don't need (but fine to ask for THINGS you don't need), now it's even ruder to ask for things a person DOES need (money for bills)</div><div>
</div><div>Isn't the whole point of wedding gifts to help the couple become established or more established? Which do you think is more helpful, money towards bills or fine china most people won't even use often if ever?</div><div>
~Katy</div>

Simply Fated · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_commenting-asking-money-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:db803a86-703a-4edf-b887-8be6e816aa11Post:b64e7ed7-8a3c-4d28-b049-63f6bafc7bc7">Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude"</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude" : This is just nuts. First it's rude to ask for money for things you don't need (but fine to ask for THINGS you don't need), now it's even ruder to ask for things a person DOES need (money for bills) Isn't the whole point of wedding gifts to help the couple become established or more established? Which do you think is more helpful, money towards bills or fine china most people won't even use often if ever? ~Katy
Posted by chickcasa[/QUOTE]

Option C. Skip the ppd and use the money to pay your own bills, since you're obviously hard-up for cash.

You're not a charity case. Pay your own bills and consider applying for welfare.

KellyBrian2013 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_commenting-asking-money-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:db803a86-703a-4edf-b887-8be6e816aa11Post:b64e7ed7-8a3c-4d28-b049-63f6bafc7bc7">Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude"</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude" : This is just nuts. First it's rude to ask for money for things you don't need (but fine to ask for THINGS you don't need), now it's even ruder to ask for things a person DOES need (money for bills) Isn't the whole point of wedding gifts to help the couple become established or more established? Which do you think is more helpful, money towards bills or fine china most people won't even use often if ever? ~Katy
Posted by chickcasa[/QUOTE]

Because the difference is that if you register for things, you are providing a wish list of items <em>that would be nice </em>to start off your life with. When you "register for cash", you are pretty much saying that the <em>only </em>thing you'll appreciate from your guests is cash. When you register in <em>most</em> honeymoon registries you are leading your guests to believe that they are buying you an excursion, massage, dinner, whatever - and they aren't. They're either sending you a check or sending you "resort/cruise dollars". There are very few honeymoon registries that <em>actually</em> gift the couple exactly what guests are paying for without taking out any fees.

I'm also in the camp as a guest that, I don't want you to know how much I spend. I <em>also</em> want some say in how my money is spent - that's why I never give cash. If a couple needs the money from guests to pay their bills, they probably shouldn't be getting married until they are more financially stable. Or, at the very least, they should be choosing to have the most budget-friendly wedding possible and either elope or JOP with a small group of people in attendance. Yes, I find it rude when I am expected to give cash that I myself need to pay my bills... if you don't want a blender, don't register for one. But don't back guests into a corner by saying you will <em>only</em> appreciate a cash gift. You are not a charity case.

blumoo · January 2012

i just looked at the emily post web site, and she is using etiquette and tradition interchangeably. fyi. and Chicasa, I totally agree with you!

neene112 · January 2012

A wedding is still just a party and you are the host. No one would ever expect to hand the host a fiver after a wonderful dinner party. It is just odd to ask for money. You are not a club promoter with a cover charge.

chickcasa · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_commenting-asking-money-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:db803a86-703a-4edf-b887-8be6e816aa11Post:862f77e7-c22e-440d-abac-ac63c62dbd9d">Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude"</a>:
[QUOTE]Emily Post is dead, and her estate is now a "foundation" with strong ties to the industry. The foundation endorses behavior that would have made that elegant and classy lady faint dead away. katy, were you born and raised in Virginia? That state has always been a bastion of good breeding and exemplary deportment. I can't believe a native of the state would endorse this.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>ROFL "good breeding"???????????</div><div>
</div><div>you have GOT to be kidding me.</div><div>
</div><div>Also on the etiquette board last night someone was pointing me to the emilypost website as where to look for good etiquette advice. It's either good or not, you don't all get to pick and choose based on what you want to agree with or not.</div><div>
</div><div>~Katy</div>

hoffse · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_commenting-asking-money-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:db803a86-703a-4edf-b887-8be6e816aa11Post:2bc2cb96-ebc8-446e-bcc7-3e060c23164f">Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude"</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude" : Because the difference is that if you register for things, you are providing a wish list of items that would be nice to start off your life with. When you "register for cash", you are pretty much saying that the only thing you'll appreciate from your guests is cash. When you register in most honeymoon registries you are leading your guests to believe that they are buying you an excursion, massage, dinner, whatever - and they aren't. They're either sending you a check or sending you "resort/cruise dollars". There are very few honeymoon registries that actually gift the couple exactly what guests are paying for without taking out any fees. I'm also in the camp as a guest that, I don't want you to know how much I spend. I also want some say in how my money is spent - that's why I never give cash. If a couple needs the money from guests to pay their bills, they probably shouldn't be getting married until they are more financially stable. Or, at the very least, they should be choosing to have the most budget-friendly wedding possible and either elope or JOP with a small group of people in attendance. Yes, I find it rude when I am expected to give cash that I myself need to pay my bills... if you don't want a blender, don't register for one. But don't back guests into a corner by saying you will only appreciate a cash gift. You are not a charity case.
Posted by KellyBrian2013[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I couldn't have said it better myself. This is exactly how I feel. I'm the person paying, so I should get some say in how my money is used. If a registry is long enough I'll probably find something I like from it. If it's not, I'll shop off registry to avoid giving cash. I hate giving cash, and I won't do it. It's rude to make me feel like I'm supposed to because it's the only thing appreciated.

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hoffse · January 2012

And I'd also like to second what LucyHC just pointed out... It doesn't matter one BIT what you think of this argument (that crops up multiple times a day). It only matters what your guests think - if they think you are being rude they probably aren't going to tell you, but they also aren't going to change their minds. Since this whole thing has to do with dictating what your GUESTS give you, it doesn't really matter what the bride thinks at all. It's fine to ask the question if you're unsure of how people will take it, but to ask the question and then scream that it's not rude over and over doesn't change the fact that other people WILL think it's rude. And a number of your guests are likely to think so too. As for the being from Virginia thing, I don't know about the whole "good breeding" comment. But I do know that being from a small town in Georgia means that people are up in your business and women down here spend their lives talking about other women and their children. My wedding will be in my hometown, and I KNOW it will get talked about because of the people we are going to invite. I don't want to be called rude because of how I treated my guests.

ElleB87 · January 2012

Gifts are NEVER to be expected, EVER. Gifts are graciously given and the recipient should always be very grateful, whether it's a pair of socks or a five star vacation. You also don't get to dictate how other people spend their money.

OP, I think you have some seriously disturbing entitlement issues.

chickcasa · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_commenting-asking-money-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:db803a86-703a-4edf-b887-8be6e816aa11Post:8d70da74-061e-4d55-aefe-8feb29d228d1">Re: Commenting on "Asking for money is rude"</a>:
[QUOTE]Chickcasa, you've been arguing your point unsuccessfully for what...over two days now? Has it occurred to you that this community is made up of ordinary, normal people, presumably just like your wedding guest list is? If this many people find the idea of a cash registry abhorrent, your guests are likely to as well. The difference is that your guests won't mention it to you. They'll just talk about you behind your back.
Posted by LucyHC[/QUOTE]

<div>I know my guests, and trust me they don't think like the women on this board. </div><div>
</div><div>Also I haven't been arguing unsuccessfully, it's just that the people who agree with me aren't replying in the thread. </div><div>
</div><div>theknot community attracts like-minded people, and chases off those who aren't of the same mindset. So it being a popular or widely held opinion amongst people just here doesn't really say much.</div><div>
</div><div>~Katy</div>

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