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kmd0501
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Will you be my bridesmaid?
I am typically a very creative individual and want to my wedding to reflect that....every step of the way. I've heard alot about people send small gifts or cute poems/cards to ask their friends to be apart of their special day and that is very ME! When I was asked to be my cousins MOH, i was asked while trying on dresses in the bridal shop, which was very sweet but a bit too impersonal. Any suggestions for unique ideas to make it a special part of my wedding process?
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Re: Will you be my bridesmaid?
And please wait until about 9 months out from your wedding date before you ask anyone. I lot can happen with friendships and financial situations in 2 years.
I'm surprised that you think that being asked in person was less personal than receiving a greeting card in the mail.
And ditto others. If your wedding really is over 2.5 years away, don't ask anyone yet! Relationships change, and that's not a bad thing. If yours don't, then great~you've lost nothing by waiting. But if they do change and you ask now, you can't "unask" someone.
There are a zillion reasons to wait to ask, and not a single good one to ask now. GL
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There is absolutely no good reason to ask now and a billion good reasons to wait. Once you're withing a year of the wedding date, ask either in person or over the phone. I think you misunderstand the meaning of the word "personal" if you think the word applies more to a card that someone else wrote that will not be read in your presence than to a face-to-face conversation.
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Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284
"If you can't think of something nice to say, don't say something nice" - Stephen Colbert
Whatever you do, like PP suggested, wait until you're like 6-9 months away from your wedding date before you ask anybody. It's okay to have people in mind right now, but it's best to wait until you're closer to the wedding to actually ask people. Once you ask somebody, there are "no backsies" ... so if you ask someone now and in a year you don't think she's a good friend anymore, you don't get to kick her out. I'm not saying people who wait until their less than a year away don't run into these problems ... but they are at a much smaller risk of it happening.
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I was fortunate enough to be within ten minutes of our entire bridal party so I was able to ask all of my girls in person.
I did try to make it special in that I had a 9'' round cake for my maid of honor with icing that read: will you be my maid of honor? She was completely freaked out when I pretended that I thought it was her birthday and finally opened the box and saw the cake. It worked and was memorable.
For the others, I made long chocolate candy bars with a candy mold, and individually made pink chocolate letters with an alphabet mold that spelled out the question: will you be my bridesmaid?
Desserts for us are always the way to go
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[QUOTE]It wasnt the fact that she had just asked me in the store, it was the way she said it I guess. It was more or less like she forgot. She just said oh yea, did you wanna be my maid of honor? And it was less than 3 months before the wedding when I had know for almost a year that I would be a BM. Its not that it was impersonal I guess, wrong choice of words. But alot of my friends and thier sisters have done similar poem ideas and cute guestures and thats something I'm interested in doing. And no I dont plan on asking anyone yet...I have a huge family and huge group of friends and havent even begun thinking about who I would want to ask.
Posted by kmd0501[/QUOTE]
Maybe she was "promoting" you? Which would have been wrong on her part. <div>
</div><div>Seriously, could you hand your friends a card with a poem on it with a straight face? I know I couldn't. And really, a crazy gesture like that can sometimes be really awkward. The BM may feel pressured to say yes because you went to so much trouble, like that girl on the Moms and Maids board. Plus, turning everything about the wedding into a production like this can send the impression that you are a bride who's really "into" her wedding, which can be kind of off-putting, like "man, if she makes a big deal out of just ASKING me what have I just signed up for?" It's also the sort of thing that really loses its "cuteness" and "funness" once you hit your mid-20s. An 18 or 20 year old bride, I could see that. A 24 or 25 year old bride? I'd wonder about her. (BTW I'm not some old fogey--I'm 26, and I really would feel weird if I was asked with some big gesture at this stage of our lives.)</div><div>
</div><div>There really is no comparison for asking people without any cutesy things and hearing their genuine excitement and reaction. They don't need some cookie or card or poem you didn't write for it to be a special or memorable moment; I remember every time I've been asked and I have no "momentos"--I still remember where I was, what she said, what I said. Trying to make everything a Memory will only exhaust everyone. Don't let your one bad experience turn you from that. </div><div>
</div><div>I'm not trying to rain on your parade or anything, just telling you to pace yourself when it comes to big wedding stuff. If you turn everything into a big deal, the parts that really are a big deal will seem less special.</div>
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If you want the moment to be personal, think of the PERSON, not their title.
This is a belated married bio, with no reviews yet because I'm lazy.
Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284
[QUOTE]<strong>I think you're kind of romanticizing this moment in your head.</strong> It's not like a proposal. It doesn't need to be all sweet and gushy.
Posted by marissa_claire[/QUOTE]
I think you hit the nail on the head here.
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And I really like the color themed jars with candles...thats a cute idea!
"I think bablingbrooke is the 13 yr old marring her cousin at the town hall. Lets all give her a big hand. And hope her inbred children can live normal lives." -tabs.
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[QUOTE]If you're so creative, why do you need help from strangers?
Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]
Seriously.
This is a belated married bio, with no reviews yet because I'm lazy.
Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284
[QUOTE]<strong>Wow. I read the post simply because I want to do something creative as well, but I have to wonder why many of you are wasting your time making ridiculous comments on this post. She asked for ideas, not a lecture on why she shouldn't do it that way. If that's not your style, it's not your style - it's also not your wedding or your bridesmaids. So, if you have no idea to contribute, the post doesn't need your two cents.</strong> On another note, I've seen some really creative ideas online. I'm asking mine in person, but like you I want to do something creative and fun. So here's a link to this blog with an idea I absolutely fell in love with! <a href="http://eliseblaha.typepad.com/golden/2009/03/envelope-pocket-love.html" rel="nofollow">http://eliseblaha.typepad.com/golden/2009/03/envelope-pocket-love.html</a> You can totally personalize it and make it your own and that's what I love about it!
Posted by jrunnels5[/QUOTE]
Many times brides ask this question and after getting similar responses say, "Oh, see I thought I <strong>had</strong> to do some big crazy gesture, but you're right, it would be great to just ask!" I tend to think it's a sign if you can't come up with your own cutesy idea--if someone else gives you the idea it's not from the heart and it's a sign that it would just be a bit awkward to do it. <div>
</div><div>Also, lecturing others on how to post is really, really rude and completely undermines everything you wanted to get across. HTH!</div>
"I think bablingbrooke is the 13 yr old marring her cousin at the town hall. Lets all give her a big hand. And hope her inbred children can live normal lives." -tabs.
A word of warning from your friends at Cracked.com: Remember that text is going to be how you make your first impression over the internet; if every third word you type is misspelled, people will automatically assume that you're a moron.