Hello Knotties-
I want to invite some of my friends from my marathon team and a few aquaintences that I hope become friends to celebrate with us, however, all available seats for dinner have been given to our HUGE families.
How can I politely invite these people to the dance without inviting them to dinner?
FYI
Ceremony - 5:30 PM
Dinner - 6:30 PM
First dance - 8:00 PM
Re: Invitations: Come to dance, but don't show up for dinner...
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[QUOTE]Hello Knotties- I want to invite some of my friends from my marathon team and a few aquaintences that I hope become friends to celebrate with us, however, all available seats for dinner have been given to our HUGE families. How can I politely invite these people to the dance without inviting them to dinner? FYI Ceremony - 5:30 PM Dinner - 6:30 PM First dance - 8:00 PM
Posted by LaceyMK[/QUOTE]
The reasons you're having trouble coming up with a polite way to say it is that it's a very rude thing to do. Tiered guest lists make people feel like crap. Either invite them to the whole thing or don't invite them at all.
Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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[QUOTE]can I politely invite these people to the dance without inviting them to dinner? FYI Ceremony - 5:30 PM Dinner - 6:30 PM First dance - 8:00 PM
Posted by LaceyMK[/QUOTE]
You cannot politely ask this. It is incredibly rude.
[QUOTE]Hello Knotties- I want to invite some of my friends from my marathon team and a few aquaintences that I hope become friends to celebrate with us, however, all available seats for dinner have been given to our HUGE families. How can I politely invite these people to the dance without inviting them to dinner? FYI Ceremony - 5:30 PM Dinner - 6:30 PM First dance - 8:00 PM
Posted by LaceyMK[/QUOTE]
You can't do that. How would you feel showing up to a reception while everyone else is finishing up their dinner? Rude, rude, rude.
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They won't be your friends if you do this.
[QUOTE]Hello Knotties- I want to invite some of my friends from my marathon team and a few aquaintences that I hope become friends to celebrate with us, however, all available seats for dinner have been given to our HUGE families. How can I politely invite these people to the dance without inviting them to dinner? FYI Ceremony - 5:30 PM Dinner - 6:30 PM First dance - 8:00 PM
Posted by LaceyMK[/QUOTE]
Please, please, please don't do this. It is BEYOND insulting as a guest to receive an invite that's missing the dinner portion. It's quite common in my area, and to be completely and utterly honest, I would rather not be invited. H and I don't go to weddings when we're not invited to dinner. It's rude and gift grabby. And there isn't a better way to tell someone they're a friend, but just not that good a friend.
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Fi also asked me if this was okay to do with regard to some of his friendly acquaintances in the music world.
Neither of these people were raised by wolves, so I just don't get it.
Don't do this, at all. You don't need to have everyone and anyone at your reception.
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[QUOTE]Hello Knotties- I want to invite some of my friends from my marathon team and a <strong>few aquaintences that I hope become friends to celebrate with us,</strong> however, all available seats for dinner have been given to our HUGE families. How can I politely invite these people to the dance without inviting them to dinner? FYI Ceremony - 5:30 PM Dinner - 6:30 PM First dance - 8:00 PM
Posted by LaceyMK[/QUOTE]
Anybody else find this odd??? Its a wedding, not a party or a popularity contest.
[QUOTE] we had multiple guests ask us why we were late.
Posted by Clare13[/QUOTE]
That's a really good point. The rest of your guests will assume these people are incredibly rude by showing up that late. Also, how would you have seats for them?
Is that what you meant to say? It's kinda how your headline translates to me.
Really though - this is a bad idea and you WILL upset people.
Dresses may be easier to take in than let out, but guest lists are not. -- kate51485
Why would you even want to invite (and insult) people that you aren't friends with?
[QUOTE]In Response to Invitations: Come to dance, but don't show up for dinner... : Anybody else find this odd??? Its a wedding, not a party or a popularity contest.
Posted by *BeachBride0410*[/QUOTE]
Nah, I paid bums and prostitutes to attend my wedding. I mean I'm such a miserable bitch no one wanted to attend. I had to fill seats somehow.
Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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[QUOTE]<span style="font-weight:bold;" class="Apple-style-span">I once was that guest. We received a formal invite for just the dance and was told it was a small intimate ceremony and dinner. As we walked in we found out the intimate ceremony was for over 200 people and we had multiple guests ask us why we were late. Needless to say, we stayed for about 20 minutes and have not talked to the bride and groom again. My only regret is that I didn't take the present off the gift table as we left!!! If they are not important enough to be invited to the ceremony and dinner they do not belong coming. It is very rude and will ruin any friendship you have with these people.
Posted by Clare13</span>[/QUOTE]
<div>My parents also experienced this and by far rudest thing to do to a guest. Luckily for them they came earlier than the time on the paper that was posted on the Fire Department board so they got lucky because it was buffet and were coming in on the last tables going up. Moral of Clare story, <span style="font-weight:bold;" class="Apple-style-span">please do not do this.</span> If you can't afford to feed them, don't bother inviting them. It looks to be the biggest gift grabby mind set even if that isn't your intention. </div>
As Nancy Reagan would say, "Just Say No (to tiered invites) kids"
Dresses may be easier to take in than let out, but guest lists are not. -- kate51485
FI & I have a few acquaintances who we cannot invite to the wedding. Several of them are people I am friends with on a baseball blog group that meets in person every month or 2. We booked 40 tickets for a baseball game the weekend after the wedding and having a fun day at the ballpark. We are paying for all of the tickets. We are not marketing it as a wedding celebration, just that we want to have a relaxing fun day at the ballpark with friends after all the hoopla.