ok I think the bridezilla just came out...

dvohnout · May 2010

My brother just mentioned he is proposing while we are in Vegas --2 days before my wedding. My first reaction was "but it is my wedding weekend!" I feel guilty, but I feel like it is selfish timing.

Am I being crazy?

stinkerbell6879 · May 2010

Hummm?? As long as it's not 1) During your ceremony 2) During your reception....I think it will be ok

But.....Don't feel bad I would have had a moment as well

ETA: Did he say when he wanted to??

dvohnout · May 2010

He wants to propose on the 20th. Our wedding is the 22nd at 7pm. He said he wanted to do it while they were alone, so I know it won't be during any wedding related activity.

My FI keeps saying this is good news & the 22nd will still be about me. I just feel guilty for wanting all the attention.

Edit: He just called and offered to pay for the alcohol at our wedding. When I said that wasn't neccessary, he said he would go w/ my dad to make sure what I wanted was bought. Now I really feel guilty!

stinkerbell6879 · May 2010

Awww!! It's ok girlie! You can have your moment and feel like you do! But he seems like he is trying to propose while out there but not in such away to make a big fuse during your wedding time. It will get some attention, but don't let it get to you, because no matter what you will be the BRIDE for the weekend

MNVegas · May 2010

Well it may be your day or I guess weekend in your case, but people don't stop living their lives. I think you are overacting, It is not like he is going to pop the question during your reception and he was courtesy enough to let you know he is proposing 2 days before. Now you should be courtesy and be happy for him, not thinking "how dare someone propose to their girlfriend 2 days before my wedding.

Sloane99 · May 2010

I would have had a similar reaction right off the bat, and part of me wonders why he maybe couldn't propose after your wedding, but I'm sure he has reasons for his own timing. I am sure your guests and your family will be making the 22nd about you regardless. I would hope they have enough class to leave their excitement about an engagement out of someone else's wedding day to an inappropriate degree.

Olivea12 · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_ok-think-bridezilla-just-came-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:91Discussion:56e1228c-b6bf-4a42-bd9f-2561f98d5781Post:e5d7e3a3-3538-484c-b78e-41bf84450a62">Re: ok I think the bridezilla just came out...</a>:
[QUOTE]I would have had a similar reaction right off the bat, and part of me wonders why he maybe couldn't propose after your wedding, but I'm sure he has reasons for his own timing. I am sure your guests and your family will be making the 22nd about you regardless. I would hope they have enough class to leave their excitement about an engagement out of someone else's wedding day to an inappropriate degree.
Posted by Sloane99[/QUOTE]

I couldn't have said it any better!

ebonyivory10 · May 2010

The timing is inconvenient, but he did give you a heads up and I'm sure he's not doing it intentionally to steal your thunder or take the attention away from you.

dvohnout · May 2010

Thanks for the honest imput. I think I was just surprised at my reaction. I wanted to be happy for him, but my first thought was about me.

Btw my brother didn't come to me to tell me he was proposing. I just guessed while we were texting back and forth and questioned him about it. BTW our whole conversation was through text, so maybe if he called me to let me know, I would have been surprised/excited but reading it in black and white was different.

I definitely don't think anyone should stop living their lives. That is one reason I didn't plan a lot of Vegas activities bc I want people to enjoy their time there however they want: gambling, drinking, going to shows, clubing, shoppoing, whatever they want. I guess I didn't think proposing was one of those activities hah

missy68 · May 2010

A proposal 2 days before is better than a surprise wedding the day before, just remember that!

I speak from experience.

Be happy for your brother, and know that you'll be able to help them through the process now!

mloeks · May 2010

Just maybe ask him to consider keeping it on the down low for the weekend...I think that is a nice compromise. Sounds like he is being generous and he isn't out to ruin your wedding, just take advantage of an opportunity.

RachNRich · May 2010

I think you have the right to feel sad that it's happening when it is happening. Should you let it get you down? No. Sure, they might get some attention from your family while out there--but, I have a feeling your wedding will be all about you and your new husband, not about their engagement. Perhaps he's choosing this trip to pop the question because they will be on a vacation of sorts---I definitely don't think it's a good idea to ask them to keep it quite if they do get engaged while their; that's not fair.

Think of it this way---your wedding weekend has inspired another marriage! And that's a beautiful thing

cinegrad · May 2010

I agree with PPs that people don't (and shouldn't) stop living their lives, but I almost feel like he's even robbing the fiancee-to-be of her moment. I mean, I don't think I'd want to be flashing the bling drawing attention to myself at someone else's wedding, but at the same time I'd be so excited that I'd want to. I'm sure you'll handle it beautifully, but I think you have the right to at least feel a little put off for a quick second.

ok I think the bridezilla just came out...

Re: ok I think the bridezilla just came out...

Choose Another Board

Search Boards