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June 2012 Weddings
Cash for Gifts? How do we say what we want?!
So how do we tell our guests NOT to give checks we want cash. We need that money for our honeymoon!! We won't be able to cash the checks over the weekend so checks do us no good - we need cash!
Also if they write a check to Mr. & Mrs. FI's last name they will be useless because FI is changing to MY last name! He doesn't need to give up his identity - my name is much more powerful and respected in our community.
Cake!
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Re: Cash for Gifts? How do we say what we want?!
[QUOTE]So how do we tell our guests NOT to give checks we want cash. We need that money for our honeymoon!! We won't be able to cash the checks over the weekend so checks do us no good - we need cash! Also if they write a check to Mr. & Mrs. FI's last name they will be useless because FI is changing to MY last name! He doesn't need to give up his identity - my name is much more powerful and respected in our community.
Posted by Hulkster2012[/QUOTE]
You should put it in your invites...you haven't sent those yet, right? Otherwise, you could call up everyone on your list and let them know. Even NO's...I mean, just b/c they can't come, doesn't mean they can't send you a couple hundred $s.
[QUOTE]So how do we tell our guests NOT to give checks we want cash. We need that money for our honeymoon!! We won't be able to cash the checks over the weekend so checks do us no good - we need cash! <strong>Also if they write a check to Mr. & Mrs. FI's last name they will be useless because FI is changing to MY last name! He doesn't need to give up his identity - my name is much more powerful and respected in our community. </strong>
Posted by Hulkster2012[/QUOTE]
This is ridiculous. Men are superior to women. When you marry him, you become his property....so you really should take his name. Additionally, you need to make sure you do whatever he wants you to do and not express opinions. This article may help:
<a href="http://j-walk.com/other/goodwife/index.htm" rel="nofollow">http://j-walk.com/other/goodwife/index.htm</a>
[QUOTE]In Response to Cash for Gifts? How do we say what we want?! : This is ridiculous. Men are superior to women. When you marry him, you become his property....so you really should take his name. Additionally, you need to make sure you do whatever he wants you to do and not express opinions. This article may help: <a href="http://j-walk.com/other/goodwife/index.htm" rel="nofollow">http://j-walk.com/other/goodwife/index.htm</a>
Posted by MiksChick23[/QUOTE]
<div>That's from 1955! NOT HAPPENING! He is taking my NAME! I refuse to lose myself to some man</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Cash for Gifts? How do we say what we want?! : That's from 1955! NOT HAPPENING! He is taking my NAME! I refuse to lose myself to some man
Posted by Hulkster2012[/QUOTE]
MEN ARE SUPERIOR. Isn't "submit and obey" a part of your vows? Don't you know that when you get married EVERYTHING changes and you are responsible for keeping dinner served, the house clean and anything else your husband wishes?
[QUOTE]I do like Daria's advice, but if you feel like there isn't enough time in the reception to make such an announcement I would make guests pay a cover before they enter the reception. Charge them however much you are paying for their plate. If they refuse, just tell them it's just a precaution and that it will be returned......and "forget" to return it.
Posted by spiffycoolbeans[/QUOTE]
This is a fabulous idea. But I would charge them a little more than per/plate. Got to make a profit.
[QUOTE]I do like Daria's advice, but if you feel like there isn't enough time in the reception to make such an announcement I would make guests pay a cover before they enter the reception. Charge them however much you are paying for their plate. If they refuse, just tell them it's just a precaution and that it will be returned......and "forget" to return it.
Posted by spiffycoolbeans[/QUOTE]
<div>Oooh I like this - so if we factor in the cost of everything we need to charge people $250 a head. Now is this PLUS a gift? And how do we make sure people show up with CASH?</div>
[QUOTE]Hulkster Don't take this personally, but do you turn green when you're pissed? That alone would be enough to make me fork over cash.
Posted by spiffycoolbeans[/QUOTE]
:) nice.
Ehhh 250 is a little steep personally. And aren't you having a cash bar? People should have cash for that anyways. If they love you enough they'll fork over their alcohol money for the cover charge and refrain from drinking at the reception.
Also, some banks will let you set up a "bank registry" or "matrimoney" that way they can just deposit straight to you account. I would also suggest a money dance in addition to the wishing well.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Cash for Gifts? How do we say what we want?! : MEN ARE SUPERIOR. Isn't "submit and obey" a part of your vows? Don't you know that when you get married EVERYTHING changes and you are responsible for keeping dinner served, the house clean and anything else your husband wishes?
Posted by MiksChick23[/QUOTE]
<div>Umm I feel sorry for you - you obviously live in a VERY skewed world. And submit has NEVER been in vows and obey was REMOVED</div>
It's like The Hulk of cakes.
[QUOTE]OOO we are actually having an open bar but I could tell them to charge and we can just pocket anything from the bar! And my actual cake will actually be much more beautiful than the one in my sig. And yes we will be using real Swarovski
Posted by Hulkster2012[/QUOTE]
Hold up lady. I call bull! You're having real swarovski crystal on your cake....but you can't afford/need people's cash for your honeymoon? Your priorities are effed up.
What are you REALLY doing with this money? This is a safe place, you can tell us.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Cash for Gifts? How do we say what we want?! : Hold up lady. I call bull! You're having real swarovski crystal on your cake....but you can't afford/need people's cash for your honeymoon? Your priorities are effed up. What are you REALLY doing with this money? This is a safe place, you can tell us.
Posted by spiffycoolbeans[/QUOTE]
Real Swarovski & and open bar...
[QUOTE]PS, the fact that your little picture icon has changed THREE TIMES already in the length of this conversation proves my point that you need a man making your decisions, fickle woman.
Posted by MiksChick23[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>Hahaha Fickle. I agree with this Hulksy, you need to have a man help you make all your decisions. </div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Cash for Gifts? How do we say what we want?! : Hold up lady. I call bull! You're having real swarovski crystal on your cake....but you can't afford/need people's cash for your honeymoon? Your priorities are effed up. What are you REALLY doing with this money? This is a safe place, you can tell us.
Posted by spiffycoolbeans[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>Plain and simple - Daddy's checkbook and Amex =) buuuuut we are on our own for the honeymoon and he's being really mean and cutting me off cold turkey once I say I do. Until I get my trust fund anyway!</div>