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Inviting the Wedding Planner to the RD?

Blondy214Blondy214 member
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I'm trying to decide. My wedding is destination-ish wedding (its in the same state, but its about 2 hours from where we live and about 3 hours from where our in state family lives). My wedding planner is a family friend, and she is sweetest person! She gave us a really good deal. Since it is an OOT wedding, her husband and son are coming OOT with her and they are making it into a little vacation. It is also her son's 16th birthday on the wedding day. 

I was planning to invite her and her family to the RD, since she will be at the rehearsal and she traveled from out of town to help with the wedding. However, she is hired and will be working at the wedding, she's not a guest. We are not inviting her husband and son to the wedding either. 

I had all three of them on the list for the RD, but my mom told me that she doesn't think that it will be appropriate since the WP is working. But I thought it would be a nice gesture since she (WP) has done so much for us. Plus, just because I invite her doesn't mean that she's obligated to come with her family in tow, she could just decline if she didn't think that it was appropriate. 

Opinions?

EDIT: I forgot to say that the WP was invited to the shower, and she came. So, I don't understand how that is appropriate but inviting her and her family to the RD is not approrpiate?
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Re: Inviting the Wedding Planner to the RD?

  • LuckyGirl1713LuckyGirl1713
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    Since she is a family friend I would invite her to the rehearsal dinner since she has helped you out in so many ways.  I would tell her that after the actual rehearsal is over that during the dinner part she is no longer working and you want her to relax and enjoy the dinner part of the rehearsal.  I doubt there is much work for her to do during the dinner anyways!
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  • tiny specktiny speck member
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    I'd invite her since she's a friend.
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  • orangehillsorangehills
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    Hmm... that's tricky. Techincally etiquette wise, the men shouldn't go since they aren't invited to the wedding. I don't know.. I would definitely invite her, I think that is only appropriate- many people have the pastor go to the rehearsal dinner. Maybe just ask her and say hey, would they like to come? She can figure that out for them, because maybe the men may be doing their own thing that night. Don't make it a formal invite though.
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