bridal party questions...

Re: bridal party questions...

• blackfire5th

  

  March 2010 edited March 2010

  Nope, not weird at all.  It is actually very common to have uneven sides.  You should only have the people you really care about standing up with you and you should not chose people just for "filler."

  
  

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  Repeat this to your self: My Wedding Party is made of my family and friends and I should treat them as such.

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• emilykathleen511

  

  March 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridal-party-questions-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:746b3e11-4e70-48c2-86ca-4246520604d0Post:592663c6-169b-4cc6-8b8e-b87c1c9951fc">bridal party questions...</a>:
  [QUOTE]Does the bride's side & groom's side have to be even? FI has only brothers, I have a brother and sister... I wanted just to have a MOH & BM, but I think FI wants all 3 of his brothers stand up with him...would it be weird if I wanted just my brother and sister to stand up with me? How would you word that in the program?
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  <div>Sounds like a perfect plan. Wedding parties don't need to be even, they are becoming more and more common these days as more people realize that what is important is to have the most important people by your side, not filling up sides with an arbitrary number.</div>

  
  
  

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• CTGirl30

  

  March 2010

  Not weird at all - lurk on this board for a little bit and you'll quickly see that the consensus is that it's better to have the people you love standing by you rather than asking people based on needing to match up sides. Uneven sides are 100% okay!
  
  As fas as the program goes, for people standing on your side you can call them "Bride's Attendants" and for Fi's side, "Groom's Attendants." This is a gender neutral way to recognize the people on each of your sides.

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• emilyinchile member

  

  March 2010

  You can word them as "bride's attendants" and "groom's attendants" if you want something totally gender-neutral, or your brother could be a bridesman.
  
  Uneven numbers and mixed-gender sides are just fine.
  

  

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• lalap69 member

  

  March 2010

  We're planning on having both mixed-gender sides and uneven numbers.  Both things are fine since numbers and gender are much less important than people. 
  
  You should both pick the people who are most important to you to stand up with you.  If you have a different number of people who are important to you, that's absolutely okay. 
  
  You can have bridesmen and groomswomen, a best woman or a man of honour, or you could just call them all attendants or honour attendants.

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• littlepinkturtle

  

  March 2010

  thanks for all the great input i'm def not as stressed about this decision anymore!!!

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