Who Paid For Your E-Ring?

palmettogirl924 · September 2010

I had never really thought about this until I had coffee with one of my girl friend's tonight, but who paid for your e-ring?

She said her bf's mom has given him a seperate fund of money for a ring, so he doesn't have to contribute... I never thought that the family pitched in (I guess it never crossed my mind) but just wondering how your men paid for your rings? I know mine will be paying for it himself.

future-mrs · September 2010

FI paid for it. We're paying for our wedding bands together though.

brilibby4 · September 2010

Fiance paid for my engagement ring but we are paying for our wedding bands together.

PandaBurr · September 2010

We've had a joint banking account for a while now, so we both did.

loop0406 · September 2010

He paid for the e ring and both our bands himself (we went together to pick out bands 6 months after engagement)

wheatney22 · September 2010

FI paid for e-ring. I paid for both our bands.

snwilson0416 · September 2010

FI paid for e-ring, I think we will be splitting the bands.

LoveBugBaby · September 2010

FI paid 100% for my engagement and wedding rings.

I paid 100% for his wedding band.

That's just how it worked best for us! I've never heard of the parents giving money towards it, but I guess if they're capable of doing so then that's up to them!

RC17 · September 2010

FI paid 100% for my engagement and wedding rings. at a small local jewler they had a brilliant sale!

I will paid 100% for his band...

megk8oz · September 2010

He paid 100% for my e-ring. Our wedding bands were paid for out of our joint account.

... I'm not going to lie, I find it a little weird that this guy's mom is giving him some sort of "e-ring allowance" ... and I'd most likely be questioning DH's financial stability if I knew his mom was paying for my ring ... but maybe that's just how this guy's family "traditionally" does things?

jagore08 · September 2010

DH paid for my e-ring and we both paid for our bands.

staceytaylor0704 · September 2010

My FI's grandmother gave my ring to him to give to me. (band included)
I purchased his band.

jessienjeremy · September 2010

My FI paid for part of my E ring.. then we got a joint account so we both will be paying the rest of it.. and we are both paying for his band.. mine was his grandmothers so we dont have to buy me one.

Jelenny · September 2010

my fi paid for it

His parents offered to help out but it was something he wanted to do on his own and as he put it "get you the ring you deserve" not that I need/want a huge ring....and he is very proud of it so I guess it was worth the wait (and I love it!)

megjm.614 · September 2010

My FI paid for all of the e-ring and we both paid for the wedding rings. Frankly, an engagement ring is a gift from the person proposing, not their parents or anyone else so (unless it's a family heirloom or the bride wants to help with it) they should be buying something within their own budget.

tiffersnc · September 2010

FI paid for my engagement rings. I think we'll wind up paying for our bands together. Probably depends on the final costs of mine and his put together, which we'll know soon.

skyler1108 · September 2010

FI paid for my e-ring and I will be buying our bands.

palmettogirl924 · September 2010

Good to see that I didn't get "attacked" for thinking that this is NOT normal. I had never heard of parents chipping in for the e-ring, I deffinitly think it's something the FI should buy seeing it's a sentimental gift (from him). Unless it's a heirloom of course.

alecat9 · September 2010

My FI paid for my e-ring and wedding ring and I paid for his wedding band. However, I know that my grandparents bought my dad the ring he proposed to my mother with.

HobokensFury · September 2010

FI paid for the e-ring. We will pay for our wedding bands together.

jsmith7 · September 2010

"He" paid for my engagement ring. However, since it put a big dent in his account for a while and we share expenses I paid for more every day things for a while afterward. Also, as he didn't pay off student loans for a couple months because of it we will technically both be paying it off sometime in the future. It made him feel good to put it on his credit card but it's all coming out of the same pot in the end.

tpender13 · September 2010

FI paid for my rings. He bought the band w/the e-ring, as it's kind of a different shape and he didn't want to worry about finding something later. I paid for his ring.

I would've been fine w/paying for my rings together, since mine costs more.

HKD817 · September 2010

My FI paid for my ring himself. He did such a good job too. He said he was shopping around for a little while and then the major company Fortunoff's was going out of business. He found the perfect ring just by chance. So he got a really great price which was more important to me than the ring because we were saving for a house. Getting engaged was the last thing on my priority list. You can't live in a ring right! So needless to say i was completely shocked. I didnt see it coming and I couldn't be happier. I never realized I would be so happy to get married, it was never a concern. Well now that I rambled for a while...LOL

Congratulations on your engagement girls!!

Wrkn925 · September 2010

jsmith, I like your response.

I feel that it's non-traditional to help, but we've been shacking up for some time.
Either I help with that, or I pay more rent, or I pay for a different night out.
Our finances are not secret, so he couldn't save up the chunk of dough or spend it without me knowing.

eshaufle · September 2010

My FMIL gave my FI the Cartier diamond from her first marriage to use as he pleased. He wanted to get me a new diamond without any "history" so I think the old ring paid for a significant chunk of the new since it was a very nice diamond. I think he went a little over though so he paid for the difference. So I guess it was mostly paid for by his dad (technically) since he bought the old diamond and then the rest was paid for by FI.

I guess it depends. A lot of the girls in my family and some of my friends, their now-husbands definitely got contributions for the e-ring from their parents since they either had just graduated or were still in law school/grad school/med school so couldn't afford a bigger ring when they wanted to propose. Maybe they paid back the "loan" from their parents eventually?? I've seen it both ways on who pays.

misskrysbaby · September 2010

FI paid for the e-ring, we're splitting the bands, I'm paying for his, he's paying for my wedding band.

mattycam · September 2010

FI's father gave him his mother's ring to give me.

We have a joint account so we paid for the bands together.

SamanthaJean528 · September 2010

I actually paid for my own engagement ring, but then he paid for the downpayment on our house. So it worked out evenly!

ogrady88 · September 2010

FI paid for the e-ring and will be buying my band.
I have money in my wedding savings for his band.

leia1979 · September 2010

BF paid for mine (I don't actually have it yet). It's a set. I'll pay for his band when he picks one out.

I wouldn't have minded paying for part, since while I picked something relatively inexpensive, it's still probably 10x more expensive than a band for him.

aliwest_86 · September 2010

FI paid for the E ring , we are paying for our wedding bands.

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