I'm sorry that I haven't update lately, but I've seriously been crazy busy. I can't believe it's Wednesday already, and I haven't even hardly been on a computer. It's one of the things I'm trying to cut down (that, and texting) after H complained about it.
Things are not 100% better. We're still working on things, and he went to counseling last night. We had a huge, two hour long talk on Friday night (before I was KUI

) that cleared a lot of things up for me. Without going into a huge amount of detail, H sucks at communication, and it's one of the things he discussed with our pastor.
I haven't read the I Judge thread, and I won't since I only have a few minutes left of my lunch break, but I understand if I'm getting judged for the photo album or whatever else I've said on FB. We're not better, but we're working on it. And I don't want to continue to be a negative nancy, so doing little things like a bowling date with friends is just to help us move on and try to be more positive with our relationship. Also, most of my IRL friends and family have no idea what's been going on between H and I, so we're trying to maintain a strong front for those that aren't aware.
I'm sorry, I'm not really sure how to word it any better than that. It's just that we're working on it, and trying to move on from it at the same time, if that makes any sense at all. I'll try to come back and respond to this, but I"m not sure I'll have time. Since yesterday, I'm running the summer reading program at the library and training 4 summer time employees, so it's a little crazy right now

Thanks for everything guys, I honestly do appreciate everything.

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Edit: And I am happy for you that things are moving in a positive direction, but I know that was the BIG thing last week, and I just wondered if that was one of the disputes that had been discussed.
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He's still going to do it occasionally, and I can handle that.
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[QUOTE]No georgia, he's not. Thank goodness. Posted by mwhitson14[/QUOTE]
He better not, if he wants to keep that moustache.
[QUOTE]No georgia, he's not. Thank goodness. He explained Friday night that he had been having a really bad few days at work, and instead of just going, I hate my job, it sucks, he goes, I'm just going to quit and ride bulls. And when I got freaked and panicked about it, instead of just explaining what he really meant, he got defensive. He's still going to do it occasionally, and I can handle that.
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I'm really glad to hear that, Whit. I hope you two can work things out, but you have both GOT to communicate.
kate, I just don't know. That's a hard one. We've talked a lot about him going back to school, but his parents are such asshats and they discourage him everytime he talks about it, and he gets frustrated and stops thinking about doing it. They say school is a waste of time and money and he's not going to be able to get a job anyway (they point to me, the fuuckers). So right now, jobwise things aren't going to change. If I get hired to teach though, I'll drop sylvan and the hotel.
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Next topic on the counseling list: dealing with the parents and learning to support one's wife.
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I really am SO glad to hear that he went to counseling - it sounds like that was a huge huge step for him. I can't tell you how impressed I am by the way you stood your ground and handled yourself under all the pressure. Keep on with your bad self, Whit. Brighter days are ahead.
I hope he doesn't give you ridiculous ultimatums forcing you to leave every time he has a few stressful days at work. That's emotional abuse Whit and it's not good for you. You'll be walking on egg shells before you know it.
[QUOTE]Next topic on the counseling list: dealing with the parents and learning to support one's wife.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]
I'm just going to hire a hitman.
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Whit, just read what's going on. As PPs said, I hope you're able to find happiness in any way that it works out for you.
Wow, his parents just won't quit. I hope that in your discussions with your pastor or other health professionals, you can approach their influence on him and ways for him to learn how to politely tell them to STFU.
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[QUOTE]No georgia, he's not. Thank goodness. He explained Friday night that he had been having a really bad few days at work, and instead of just going, I hate my job, it sucks, he goes, I'm just going to quit and ride bulls. <strong>And when I got freaked and panicked about it, instead of just explaining what he really meant, he got defensive.</strong> He's still going to do it occasionally, and I can handle that.
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Well I think he needs to work on his communication. That's just ridiculous. He let that "fight" get pretty out of hand. He went as far as left to sleep at his parents' house. What a baby.
Sorry, I still hate him.
I want you to be happy. And I hope that you guys get to where you need to be. I just hope you guys don't go to counseling for a month and go, "okay, things are good! we don't need to go anymore!" I still go to therapy for my mom's death and that was over 4 years ago. Death = / = marraige problems, but things are not fixed over night.
Thanks for the update. And I hope for your sake he really does change.
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