...every person has a traumatic event that triggers their hoarding? Well, I think my SIL is on her way to becoming a hoarder. She lost her brother two weeks ago, and she is just shopping, shopping, shopping. When the stores are closed, she shops online. And she stays up all night doing this, and reading her suicide survivor books.
She is a huge mess, and I can (try) to understrand why. Suicide is a selfish, selfish thing. BIL thinks she should stop ruminating and talking to everyone about it and her feelings non-stop - he also wants her to stop reading the books. She just tells him since he hasn't been through this, he can't possibly understand. I truly feel for BIL, too. Taking care of her and the kids while she deals with has to be...well.....I can't even imagine.
It is really sad to see someone go through this. And I love her so much and it hurts me that I can't do anything to help her. When you ask, she says, "bring my brother back."