We got engaged in July and have been together for 3 1/2 years. We both were very excited in the beginning and did most of the big planning together. We have the date October 2010), hall, church and photographer set but the last 2 months have been rough for us. He is afraid to get married because he comes from a broken marriage. We have had daily conversations about this and I have suggested counseling but he doesn't want to go. He says he loves me and doesn't want to lose me but just needs time. I have decided to stop planning and give him some time but am not sure at what point we need to consider calling off the engagement. My heart is broken, I am not sure if he will ever get over this fear or what I can do to help.