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futuremspita
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How long would you wait for proposal?
We have been together for four years and lived together for 1 year.
So we went ring shopping thankgiving weekend. We picked out the prefect ring in the Diamond District. It has been four months and he has yet to Pop the question. He assures me it coming and that we will get engaged. But he wants me to be surprised.
But the anticipation is killing me.. How long do you think is too long?
So we went ring shopping thankgiving weekend. We picked out the prefect ring in the Diamond District. It has been four months and he has yet to Pop the question. He assures me it coming and that we will get engaged. But he wants me to be surprised.
But the anticipation is killing me.. How long do you think is too long?
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Re: How long would you wait for proposal?
Planning Bio! Updated 05.02.12
See my ticker? That's how long I have been with my BF. And we've lived together for a year and 8 months. We have had the marriage discussion(s) and both know we want to marry each other. Knowing that has put my mind at ease and allowed me to not obsess over "when am I going to get a ring???"
You know he has the ring. If he has a ring, he's planning to propose. I will steal this: some of the girls on here say that each time you mention the engagement, it will delay him another month. So, lay off and enjoy your relationship.
And welcome? Maybe you should tell us some about yourself.
ETA: Plus what Dani said.
[QUOTE]If I were Patty from the Millionaire Matchmaker, I would say you need a ring on your finger in 6 months. But that is "reality TV," not reality. See my ticker? That's how long I have been with my BF. And we've lived together for a year and 8 months. We have had the marriage discussion(s) and both know we want to marry each other. Knowing that has put my mind at ease and allowed me to not obsess over "when am I going to get a ring???" You know he has the ring. <strong>If he has a ring, he's planning to propose. </strong>I will steal this: some of the girls on here say that each time you mention the engagement, it will delay him another month. So, lay off and enjoy your relationship. And welcome? Maybe you should tell us some about yourself. ETA: Plus what Dani said.
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</div><div>This.
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When you start tacking on time limits and conditions, you should probably leave.
I was with DH over 5 years before we got engaged. We shopped for rings for over a year. He popped the question within 24 hours of actually purchasing the ring. I have a friend whose husband had the ring in plain sight in their home for about a year before proposing. That whole twilight-zone time between "Okay, we should start looking at rings and talking about marriage" to "Will you marry me?" is really unique to each couple.
You wait as long as you're okay with waiting because forever doesn't begin when you get engaged or married. It's happening right now. Don't waste a minute pining for tomorrow, because not another day is guaranteed. Enjoy this, now, or move on to whatever will make you happy and meet your needs.
Married to my best friend, making our way together through this crazy, mixed-up thing we call life.
I ruined a relationship with a man that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with because of my inability to wait for him to be ready. I kept pressuring him and eventually he couldn't take it any more. I now know that it was for the better, but at the time it tore my heart out and in to a million pieces. Because of that relationship I've tried to acquire more patience, (which sometimes doesn't work, hence why I'm on the NEY board
[QUOTE]<strong>If I were Patty from the Millionaire Matchmaker</strong>, I would say you need a ring on your finger in 6 months. But that is "reality TV," not reality. See my ticker? That's how long I have been with my BF. And we've lived together for a year and 8 months. We have had the marriage discussion(s) and both know we want to marry each other. Knowing that has put my mind at ease and allowed me to not obsess over "when am I going to get a ring???" You know he has the ring. If he has a ring, he's planning to propose. I will steal this: some of the girls on here say that each time you mention the engagement, it will delay him another month. So, lay off and enjoy your relationship. And welcome? Maybe you should tell us some about yourself. ETA: Plus what Dani said.
Posted by SKP82[/QUOTE]
Oooohhh she makes me angry. Am I the only one?
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As PP have said, if he has a ring, then it must be serious. 4 months really isn't that long to wait for him to figure out this proposal and to find the right time for him.
[QUOTE]You wait as long as you're okay with waiting because forever doesn't begin when you get engaged or married. It's happening right now. Don't waste a minute pining for tomorrow, because not another day is guaranteed. Enjoy this, now, or move on to whatever will make you happy and meet your needs.
Posted by SassyFlats[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>Exactly this.</div><div>
</div><div>You are wasting life if you are so concerned with what will happen down the line that you can't enjoy the present moment. </div><div>
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Life is good today.
Just chill
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She's giving women all kinds of crazy ideas about what they should expect/demand from their partner. I guess I shouldn't care because it doesn't personally affect me, but MAN it's pretty annoying to hear generally intelligent (former law school classmates) refer to her books as their dating rules. Some of the rules sound ok (like ones about not putting out right away) but the reasoning for them either sounds off, or they're accompanying totally crazy rules (like, um, the one above). Who wants to be in a relationship where ultimatums of any kind are ok? I know I don't!
Edited to correct my terrible spelling.
Like everyone else is saying.. just try to be patient. Knowing that he has the ring tells me he wants to propose, but he also wants to make it special by catching you offguard. If he knows you're on your toes, he might hold off longer.
That being said...he has the ring, that means he is going to propose eventually. Just enjoy the present for the time being and relax.