Great bridesmaid gift idea within a budget!

MiniMadness · March 2010

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stina93446 · March 2010

It's a great gift if your bms like drinking wine. If they don't like wine, as some girls don't, then it's a horrible gift! Not all gifts have to be the same either. Are all your girls the same? No, so why would you get them all the same thing?

trix1223 · March 2010

I have to agree with stina. The glasses are cute. nms, but cute. But unless you KNOW that your BMs would use them, then they become useless dust catchers.

As a BM, I'd prefer something that showed that my friend thought about me as a person, and not about me as a just a part of her wedding party? Do you see the difference?

jenn.daniel · March 2010

I would only be able to use it as a candy dish because I don't drink wine. And I already have plenty of nice candy dishes (thanks, grandma!).

Don't people usually use matching wine glasses anyway?

aerinpegadrak · March 2010

Yeah, I don't really have use for a single glass that doesn't match any of my other stuff. If I got this as a bridesmaid, I'd make polite ooh-aah noises on getting it, then toss it in the recycling bin as soon as I got home.

But if one of your bridesmaids happens to collect monogrammed stuff, or single, non-matching wine glasses, I'm sure she'd adore it.

[Deleted User] · March 2010

Do you seriously think that you're invisible when you post on other boards?

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_wow-talk-snarky

MiniMadness · March 2010

Nope. I was hoping that it would be noticed, but thanks so much for pointing it out...oh, and for making sure I knew.much appreciated.

saxy414 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_great-bridesmaid-gift-idea-within-budget?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:00ec8dfd-bc73-499c-ac45-c308716966d5Post:2d72ab16-fdb4-49b2-83fc-660384ca6a6a">Re: Great bridesmaid gift idea within a budget!</a>:
[QUOTE]Not saying it's not a great BM gift for some BM somewhere. It's just not a great universal gift.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

Totally agree with this. If your girls are ALL going to like this, awesome. It probably wouldn't hurt thought to take another minute and think about it--your BMs would probably be much happier to know you put time in to think of an appropriate gift for each of them individually. FWIW, I would be one of the girls who would like it and use it. I know though that at least one or two of the girls I want to be my BMs would say they loved it so they wouldn't hurt my feelings, but would stick it in a cabinet and never use it (despite the fact that they are wine drinkers--and also fun and appreciative.).

beatlesgirl25 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_great-bridesmaid-gift-idea-within-budget?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:00ec8dfd-bc73-499c-ac45-c308716966d5Post:076cdf96-e281-4bc7-9e29-5ae2439cddc5">Re: Great bridesmaid gift idea within a budget!</a>:
[QUOTE]Well, I take it that I should have wrote for bridesmaids that like wine, which all of mine do AND will love this so much they will be using it at the ceremony because they are each very fun AND APPRECIATIVE girls. <strong>WOW, you girls on here are way too serious, with way too much time to criticize people.</strong>..if it's not a good fit for you or your BM's then just ignore it! Petty miserable brides you are!
Posted by christinaim[/QUOTE]

I'm pretty sure you wouldn't be complaining about how we used our time here if we all agreed that OMG this is the best gift idea ever!!1! But because people are honestly telling you they don't think your idea is great, all of a sudden we're miserable time-wasters for being here. Okay then.

MiniMadness · March 2010

No way, opinions are fine, really. and it means nothing to me if it's not liked by a bunch of people I don't know.

MiniMadness · March 2010

and I don't recall saying time-wasters because obviously I am on here too, but ok.

[Deleted User] · March 2010

Then why the hell did you run to another board to make a whiney thread just to complain about it? That really doesn't give off the "I don't care what you think" vibe, ya know?

goheels05 · March 2010

Waaaaah no one liked my idea so they must all be mean jealous bitches, wha wha wha.

MiniMadness · March 2010

Woah.you truly are crazy, aren't you?
Damn, I'm new to this, is there any way to 'block' psychos?

beatlesgirl25 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_great-bridesmaid-gift-idea-within-budget?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:00ec8dfd-bc73-499c-ac45-c308716966d5Post:631bec68-0b7f-42de-b304-c44355904542">Re: Great bridesmaid gift idea within a budget!</a>:
[QUOTE]Woah.you truly are crazy, aren't you? Damn, I'm new to this, is there any way to 'block' psychos?
Posted by christinaim[/QUOTE]

I'm sure Google has a solution for you.

MiniMadness · March 2010

Haha...let it go already! whew wee!, you are something else!

stina93446 · March 2010

Wow, no one was rude about your gift idea until you complained on snarky brides. Why would you even go over there to complain?! That makes NO sense. If you can't handle our honesty, you might want to just be a lurker.

beatlesgirl25 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_great-bridesmaid-gift-idea-within-budget?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:00ec8dfd-bc73-499c-ac45-c308716966d5Post:5b8e9e9f-ffeb-4bc4-8e7d-ffa14c52a446">Re: Great bridesmaid gift idea within a budget!</a>:
[QUOTE]Haha...let it go already! whew wee!, you are something else!
Posted by christinaim[/QUOTE]

Why thank you. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

MiniMadness · March 2010

Ha! perhaps I should have lurked instead of jumping right in the fire, eh? Doesn't bother me one bit though, found it to be quite comical! ... I really was just using this as an example in the snarky bride post though, I have looked at so many other posts where the girls truly are ripped apart.yeesh!

trix1223 · March 2010

See, if you'd just come back with "My girls and I do love wine and funky glasses, so I know they'll enjoy them. I thought I'd put it out there for other brides, too. Thanks for the suggestions", you'd wouldn't be getting schooled now.

I think it's valuable for responders to toss out reactions for people who may not have thought of all the ramifications of a decision. And sometimes, mature girls come back with "Thanks, I hadn't thought of that." or "I disagree but thanks for pointing it out."

Immature girls come back with defensive and "pointed" comments about posters and/or their significant others.

So which category did you fall into? FWIW: I thought the comments were valid. Straight-forward, perhaps even blunt, but valid.

I'd like to suggest that you stick to local boards that tend to be far more affirming of choices. You're not going to get instant validation on these international boards. I think a local will be more user friendly for you.

MiniMadness · March 2010

I think it's just that I'm a discussion board virgin, so didn't know how to react to so much negativity at once!! haha. And I also thought this was just excited brides to be, like me, and it's so much more than that!, obviously.
But, it's a great experience also!, I have learned just how seriously people take dicussion boards!
Thanks for your advice and suggestions!

stina93446 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_great-bridesmaid-gift-idea-within-budget?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:00ec8dfd-bc73-499c-ac45-c308716966d5Post:2572d903-ee60-46b7-9b63-c5220fa6fc71">Re: Great bridesmaid gift idea within a budget!</a>:
[QUOTE]I think it's just that I'm a discussion board virgin, so didn't know how to react to <strong>so much negativity</strong> at once!! haha.
Posted by christinaim[/QUOTE]

<div>No one was really negative. They were merely pointing out that your gift idea was not the BEST gift idea. I love wine and still, if I got this glass, I would accept it, but it'd be going to goodwill after a couple of months in the cupboard. </div><div>
</div><div>This board is honest and if you stick around, you'll see that we answer questions about "amazing bridesmaid gifts" EVERYDAY....most of the gifts are neither amazing nor good for bms. Everyone wants to get their friends something personal. </div>

MiniMadness · March 2010

Well, I know they will love it and that's what makes it a great idea to me!
And I have something personal for each of them, too. Just thought this would be cute to drink out of at the reception. They will indeed get a kick out of them.

stina93446 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_great-bridesmaid-gift-idea-within-budget?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:00ec8dfd-bc73-499c-ac45-c308716966d5Post:33d13a27-d0f2-421b-8503-1329dccaf90b">Re: Great bridesmaid gift idea within a budget!</a>:
[QUOTE]Well, I know they will love it and that's what makes it a great idea to me! And I have something personal for each of them, too.<strong> Just thought this would be cute to drink out of at the reception.</strong> They will indeed get a kick out of them.
Posted by christinaim[/QUOTE]

<div>Sorry to be "negative" again, but if you give them their gifts at the RD, won't it be a little silly to have them tote this glass with them to the reception? Most bms don't have a huge purse with them on the day of. I just think it's unrealistic to give it to them and expect them to use them at the reception.</div>

trix1223 · March 2010

christina: we wouldn't have known from your OP that your BMs would all be on board with this. We can only respond to what you put out there. So in an effort to help you avoid what could have been a less than optimum choice, people were giving you something to think about.

Stick around for awhile. And I really believe that you'll find that the WP board is one of the best. It has become my "home" board, and that's true many others as well.

And if it helps, it's not unusual for a newb to get schooled on her early posts. That's why we recommend lurking to get a flavor and an idea of what to expect.

GL.

MiniMadness · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_great-bridesmaid-gift-idea-within-budget?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:00ec8dfd-bc73-499c-ac45-c308716966d5Post:e201754a-7580-4962-9461-0d525031d3ee">Re: Great bridesmaid gift idea within a budget!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Great bridesmaid gift idea within a budget! : Sorry to be "negative" again, but if you give them their gifts at the RD, won't it be a little silly to have them tote this glass with them to the reception? Most bms don't have a huge purse with them on the day of. <strong>I just think it's unrealistic to give it to them and expect them to use them at the reception.
</strong>Posted by stina93446[/QUOTE]

My girls are definitely not as uptight as you are thinking they may be! Plus, everything's in one place and they are all staying in the mansion venue with me the night before, so there wouldn't be much toteing to do. I may even just have the W.C. place them on their table for the reception.
Thanks for your thought, though.

MiniMadness · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_great-bridesmaid-gift-idea-within-budget?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:00ec8dfd-bc73-499c-ac45-c308716966d5Post:71232ad2-1760-4907-a910-1b15935d5b8d">Re: Great bridesmaid gift idea within a budget!</a>:
[QUOTE]christina: <strong>we wouldn't have known from your OP that your BMs would all be on board with this. We can only respond to what you put out there. So in an effort to help you avoid what could have been a less than optimum choice, people were giving you something to think about</strong>. Stick around for awhile. And I really believe that you'll find that the WP board is one of the best. It has become my "home" board, and that's true many others as well. And if it helps, it's not unusual for a newb to get schooled on her early posts. That's why we recommend lurking to get a flavor and an idea of what to expect. GL.
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]

Completely understandable! I guess I didn't even explain that this isn't the only thing I am getting them... I just thought it would be something I would throw out there and if someone liked it they could use it. Obviously you all are a lot more experienced in the wedding field than I, but I can say I am having a lot of fun with it!
And yes, I tend to jump right into things.

MomoKubiak · March 2010

Christina, welcome to The Knot. They are definitely a miserable, negative bunch who won't agree with you on anything. But they are good for a laugh, which is why I can't seem to leave... well, until Monday when they have me banned.

beatlesgirl25 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_great-bridesmaid-gift-idea-within-budget?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:00ec8dfd-bc73-499c-ac45-c308716966d5Post:19a33c8e-dad0-48df-8255-e9f929eb6f38">Re: Great bridesmaid gift idea within a budget!</a>:
[QUOTE]Christina, welcome to The Knot. <strong>They are definitely a miserable, negative bunch who won't agree with you on anything.</strong> But they are good for a laugh, which is why I can't seem to leave... well, until Monday when they have me banned.
Posted by MomoKubiak[/QUOTE]

Says the crazy lady following certain posters around to be fake nice to people. Or are you trying to butter up potential new customers? You actually sound quite miserable and negative yourself... I'm surprised we aren't all besties by now.

mbcdefg · March 2010

Those glasses are incredibly fugly.

beatlesgirl25 · March 2010

How dare you attack me personally that way Sucrets! You don't know me and you're TOTALLY PROVING MY POINT.

Brooke, you are wise.

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