Please tell me if I'm being a little b!tch. This all sort of came to fruition last night and it's driving me crazy. I'll give you cliff notes up here because this will be long.
CN: I'm going shopping tomorrow and made the appointments before I knew the day conflicted with French Fest. MOH has never been and wants to go. I've been and it kind of sucks. None of our friends were going to go but as of last night suddenly everyone is. FI and I don't want to go- I'm going shopping and he's going to work on the deck. Everyones plans are all over the place now and it's really frustrating.
FI and I have an almost entirely mutaual friend group. Here's the run down of everyone involved... it may get confusing:
F- His house the one we'd be going to if we went to FF. This festival takes place in a little po-dunk, one bar town and the whole point of FF is the get waster and stumble around in the streets. He's a GM
S- Married to A. They just had a baby seven months ago Him and A are going to go up for the day to FF. S is a GM and A is a BM.
Best Man (BM)- Has a weird complex about being left out. Wants to go to FF just to not be left out. he's driving M (also a GM). M loves to party and when him and F get togeter it's a who can stay up and get the drunkest for the longest competetion.
MOH- is dating BM. Has never been to FF and wants to go. I planned out dress shopping excursion a month and a half in advance because she's always busy and at the time I was unaware it conflicted with FF and that everyone would want to go last minute. We haven't gone in like 3 years and I'm confused as to why suddenly, now, everyone wants to go. It's crowded and gross and impossible to get a drink and we sleep outside in tents and it's just not that much fun.
S, A, and BM are all saying they're just going for the day, but BM is driving M who is going to want to stay and get wasted and then will not have a ride home. BM is only going as to not be left out. He was supposed to come out and help FI with the deck tomorrow while MOH and I are shopping. Now he's not going to and FI and his dad are going to have to do all the heavy framing themselves. FI's dad is in his mid 60's has two bad knees and arthritis.
I'm guessing MOH plans on driving the four hours up to FF after dress shopping tomorrow. Which means she won't get there until like 9 or 10 at night. Her mom is a sleep doctor and she had an 8pm bedtime until the day she left for college and is completely incapable of staying up past 10pm. Plus she'll probbaly be grumpy and and try to rush me into a decision so she can take off to go drinking. No one was planning to go until yesterday and then suddenly everyones going..?
A and S cancelled our annual trip to A's family's private cottage on a private lake in PA. We've gone every year for four years, but she cancelled it this year because of the baby. All we do is swim, cook out, fish, canoe and relax. But they're going to take the baby to FF which is 1000's of drunk people running through the streets..? I don't understand.
I got that really condensed. What I had in my head was a lot more in depth and complicated.
Plus now I'm going to have to cancel my consultation with the make up artist I planned to book. Her website says her on site service minimum is $200 which is what I expected to pay. But she sent me her contract and that's her weekday rate. Her Saturday minimum is $500+tax+tip+$1 per minute of driving as her travel fee ($120 for me). It's going to end up being like $800! I sent all my girls a message asking if they'd like to pay to have their make up done professionally, but only MOH replied. And her reply was kind of snarky, asking if there was some benefit to paying and why they can't just do their own. They can, I don't care either way, I just thought I'd offer it out and she got all offended. So now I don't know what to do about that. I suck at make up and really want that done professionally for the wedding.
It really upsets me that our friends are ditching us to go get drunk. If MOH gives me a hard time or is super cranky tomorrow I'm going to go into serious Bridezilla mode. I'm not going to put up with her being grumpy because she'd rather be drinking than shopping even though she's been asking me for months about going with me to do this. All I want is a ruffley dress and slice of pizza... dammit.
I wish I was just going shopping with my mom now. It was always just me and her shopping for any other time I've needed a formal dress. I wish it was just going to be us now as well. Ugh.
And this morning I chipped one of the diamonds in my engagement ring. I hit it on a towel bar in our bathroom on accident. The diamond that got chipped was one fo the family hierloom diamonds and I nearly had a heart attack when I realized it. This stone is like five times my elder, seriously. It's a smaller stone though and isn't noticable unless you seriously scrutinize it, but still, I can't believe I did that. I'm not going to mention it to FI. It's a sentimentally, irreplaceable diamond anyways, so why bother. We won't replace it anyways. I'm such a clutz though, uhhhh.
Feel free to tell me I'm over reacting and being a major bridezilla right now. But FI is also upset, so I don't know. It's just frustrating.