Honeymoon Registry

ButtonsPepper · December 2009

If I'm from an empty house and need pots, blenders etc. I'm going to have to pay for them out of my bank account. People getting this crap for me is in the end, just saving me money. Registering for a HM is the same thing. I'm going to have to pay for it out of my bank account, so if someone gets me a massage, or dinner for a night, or wine, it's just saving me money. I love that registering for gifts is any LESS tacky the registering for a honeymoon, when in the end, it's exactly the same thing, just saving you from taking money out of your bank account to buy crap.

squirrly · December 2009

I hate HM registries. I would prefer to give you cash at the wedding, know that you're going to have it in hand on the HM, and let you buy yourself upgrades or whatnot with that. Not the other way around.

lilgina64 · December 2009

umm where do you people get your info?

the whole point of a traditional registry is because for a while couples were receiving 7 toasters. It was to allow people to not purchase duplicates originally.

Now it is still useful that a registry lets you know what has and hasn't been purchased but it also gives you some insight into a couple's taste. Some people may know the bride or groom much better and they have seperate tastes but as a couple they have to agree on things. So now it keeps people from buying a ton of hot pink crap because the bride loves it and instead finding things that the couple will really enjoy together.

DO NOT confuse a traditional registry with a honeymoon/house fund registry. You are simply asking for money, not ensuring that you don't end up with 7 toasters.

salentines · December 2009

There is a great article in the Wall Street Journal about honeymoon registries. I've included the link below and a short snippet.

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB121020123458375115.html

"A honeymoon is a perfectly appropriate gift to request," says Peter Post, president of the Emily Post Institute, a Burlington, Vt., etiquette think tank. "There's no objection to it from an etiquette point of view."

We used Traveler's Joy, www.travelersjoy.com, and our guests loved it! We had three registries (REI, Traveler's Joy, & Crate & Barrel) and everything was bought off of our Traveler's Joy registry before one gift was bought from REI and Crate & Barrell! Give your guests registry choices and let them decide!

Finally, if the honeymoon registry was considered tacky - I highly doubt The Knot and WeddingChannel.com would have partnerships with Traveler's Joy, Sandals, and Starwood honeymoon registries!

daynalyntroy · February 2010

Ours isn't a cash request, but just lists activities as the gifts and the feedback I've gotten from our guests has been very positive. I agree w/Stephie that you are responsible for making sure the checks are actually used for their intended purposes and proper acknowledgement is made in the thank you notes as well. I also feel that it's important not to register for a honeymoon you wouldn't otherwise be able to afford. If I did that, I'd feel like I may as well be charging guests for their dinner and drinks, too.
While I see MyNameIsNot's point regarding buying a couple dishes and finding out they just pocketed the cash, I feel like there's nothing stopping the couple from returning your gift for cash or selling it on craigslist, and you would be none the wiser. In that instance, they'd be pocketing the cash for the honeymoon anyway AND you would have wasted your time and energy, which, let's face it, nobody has an excess of.
At the end of the day, a wedding registry should be taken as nothing more than a "wish list" to give your guests some direction as to what you as a couple would like to receive should they feel so inclined. Any gift is a a gracious gesture of good will and support from your guests, and should not be expected whether the list is made up of a beach dinner or a set of flatware.

daynalyntroy · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registry-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:1cfcf7d3-f9b2-4df0-a535-cb771fb1f333Post:45f76b61-1031-4ee5-896a-d1262586b86b">Re: Honeymoon Registry</a>:
[QUOTE]If I'm from an empty house and need pots, blenders etc. I'm going to have to pay for them out of my bank account. People getting this crap for me is in the end, just saving me money. Registering for a HM is the same thing. I'm going to have to pay for it out of my bank account, so if someone gets me a massage, or dinner for a night, or wine, it's just saving me money. I love that registering for gifts is any LESS tacky the registering for a honeymoon, when in the end, it's exactly the same thing, just saving you from taking money out of your bank account to buy crap.
Posted by ButtonsPepper[/QUOTE]

Amen, sister! BTW, your siggy photo is GORGEOUS!

rebeccalynn75 · May 2010

We just registered on Traveler's Joy for excusrsions: tours, taxis to ports, ferry fares, etc. My immediate friends and family have actually been pushing for me to get our info out that way, because they want some direction on the gift they would like to send. We'll see how it goes. I told all of my guests via our wedsite that their presence, love and support is truly the best gift they can give, and meant that.
I guess "tacky" is truly in the eye of the beholder, and well, let's face it ladies, someone will always take issue with some part of your wedding, be it the *gasp* registry, the "fake flowers," your color scheme, your gown, your attendants, the list goes on forever.

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