tattoos and bridesmaids

MinnieMouse12 · April 2010

one of my bridesmaids had a tattoo when i asked her to be in the wedding party and i told her she had to cover it up and she agreed. i have told all my BM's that i do not like tattoos and did not want to have them in the wedding. well now one other got a hideous one on her foot and the one who already had one got more!!! what do i do? im so upset that they could not wait to have their bodies tattooed

stina93446 · April 2010

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[QUOTE]one of my bridesmaids had a tattoo when i asked her to be in the wedding party and i told her she had to cover it up and she agreed. i have told all my BM's that i do not like tattoos and did not want to have them in the wedding. well now one other got a hideous one on her foot and the one who already had one got more!!! what do i do? im so upset that they could not wait to have their bodies tattooed
Posted by MinnieMouse12[/QUOTE]

<div>Asking them to cover up the tattoos is pretty rude. The tattoos are a part of them and they picked them for very personal reasons. Asking them to cover them up is asking them to cover up a piece of them. And tattoo cover kits always look bad. Are you sure it's such a big deal? Unless the images are of naked girls or have cuss words in them, they're totally respectful. And a tattoo on a foot?! Get over that one at least. A foot is not even remotely close to your faces.</div>

gottahavashorti · April 2010

They shoudln't have to hold off on tattoos for a wedding. The tattoos will be fine, if you want them covered up have them all wear something that will cover it up without singling one out, like a bolero or wrap.

tidetravel · April 2010

Did you also inject them with birth control so that they don't get preggo until after your wedding? Because everyone knows that fatso BMs ruin pretty pictures.

The lives of your BMs do not revolve around your wedding.

LarissaAnn · April 2010

Might I suggest post-wedding photoshop?

jaimed99 · April 2010

I agree with PPs...while you may not personally like tattoos, they chose to have them...and like it or not, they're a bit attached to them.

If you're really having an issue, do what shorti said...have them wear a wrap or something.

I myself have a tattoo...and may have more by the time I get married...I couldn't imagine being told to cover it/them up simply for aesthetic purposes, and I wouldn't think to ask my BM to do so either.

banana468 · April 2010

If this is real and I hope it isn't:

Your BM isn't a doll that you get to dress up. If she has a tattoo in a place that can be covered by a dress then fine: each BM wears the same dress and no one is singled out as the tattoo is covered by clothing.

But it's unreasonable for you to expect that your BMs will put their lives on hold for your wedding.

What is the length of the dress that they're wearing? Even if it's short, most people won't notice but if it's longer, this is REALLY not something to stress over.

Remember, your BMs are your nearest and dearest friends. Presumably you asked them because of their uniqueness. Don't ask them to hide that even for your wedding.

emilyinchile · April 2010

First post, hot button topic...MUD?

skippylouwho · April 2010

I really dislike tatoos but = in my opinion and that's all it is - you should let this go. Just focus on the day and what it is about, marrying the person you love. In the grander scheme of things this is not even a blip on the radar.

xoxob · April 2010

I would only start worrying about it when they start to tattoo their faces.

LarissaAnn · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_tattoos-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:c3c70a2f-0574-4236-bff4-9899ec5c2058Post:3af85879-8da6-4c82-8fad-39f65912708c">Re: tattoos and bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]I would only start worrying about it when they start to tattoo their faces.
Posted by xoxob[/QUOTE]
I've seen that. THAT is commitment!

xoxob · April 2010

Hahaha, I was also kind of joking. But, truth, I have seen it.

jagore08 · April 2010

It won't kill your photos, I promise. Look in my married bio. One of my BM has a ton of tattoos and no one has said anything about it looking bad.

MyNameIsNot · April 2010

What is it about weddings that makes women think that they get to control what other people do with their bodies? WTF?

You can't tell them not to get tattoos and you sure can't tell them to cover it up. If you are real, you are a really superficial friend.

If someone asked me to be a BM and then told me I needed to cover my tattoo, I'd tell her where she could shove her cover-up.

Of course, there's no way this is real. Real people don't treat their friends this way.

LarissaAnn · April 2010

Oh, I knew you were kidding. But it made me think of people I've seen with it (besides that twit on vacation who got the zillion stars on her face & then claimed it wasn't her choice) and think, at that point, you're telling the world, "I plan to be a tattoo artist or telemarketer!"

LarissaAnn · April 2010

Actually, that would've been funny. If that chick with all the stars was supposed to be a bridesmaid, and a bride came on here and said, "My idiot bridesmaid went on vacation, got drunk, and got 50-something stars tattooed all over her face! Now what?!"

suz62984 · April 2010

Wow - Why are you friends with these peeople? If you don't like tattoos why aren't you friends with girls that don't have tattoos?

Seriously? You aren't being a good friend and you are being super selfish...and that was in the nicest way possible.

MyNameIsNot · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_tattoos-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:c3c70a2f-0574-4236-bff4-9899ec5c2058Post:b167912b-699c-4bd7-b479-b9e059252e06">Re: tattoos and bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: tattoos and bridesmaids : While I agree that this is most assuredly MUD, I have known people to treat their friends exactly this way. Sad but true.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<div>I refuse to believe it. Otherwise I will lose all faith in humanity. </div><div>
</div><div>:Puts hands over ears: LALALALALALALALA</div>

mizri · April 2010

As someone who is tattooed, I kinda find that offensive. I was in a Catholic wedding, and have a large tattoo on my back that, IMO, was framed beautifully by the back of my BM dress. The bride showed some concern for it at first, since the wedding was in a Catholic church, but then she stopped and thought about it, and came to the decision that if anyone was offended by it, oh well. It's part of me, and she wasn't going to ask me to cover something that was a part of who I am. And my back piece is an angel in flight, being attacked. And, yes, as my mother loves to point out, you can see her boobs through her transparent shirt.

jaimed99 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_tattoos-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:c3c70a2f-0574-4236-bff4-9899ec5c2058Post:7ef20346-2a9a-487b-8770-519fdcfc1821">Re: tattoos and bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]As someone who is tattooed, I kinda find that offensive. I was in a Catholic wedding, and have a large tattoo on my back that, IMO, was framed beautifully by the back of my BM dress. The bride showed some concern for it at first, since the wedding was in a Catholic church, but then she stopped and thought about it, and came to the decision that if anyone was offended by it, oh well. It's part of me, and she wasn't going to ask me to cover something that was a part of who I am. And my back piece is an angel in flight, being attacked. And, yes, as my mother loves to point out, you can see her boobs through her transparent shirt.
Posted by mizri[/QUOTE]

<div>That sounds like an absolutely BEAUTIFUL tat! Do you have pics???</div>

shamaingtz · April 2010

Selfish Bridezilla,

Let your bridesmaids be themselves!

You asked them to be in your wedding cause you love them.

So, you take them how they come.

mizri · April 2010

Of course! This is me in my mother's wedding dress a few weeks ago. The second pic was taken a few minutes ago.

shamaingtz · April 2010

Sorry if I came on too strong, but I myself have a huge tattoo on the back of my neck. I'm wearing a beautiful strapless gown. For sometime, I've been worried about what people are going to say. But, it's me. Why am I going to cover a part of me? to please someone else.... NO!!

baystateapple · April 2010

The only case where I MIGHT say this is okay is if you have something completely obscene tattooed on yourself where it's visible, and it's a church ceremony. Like...two people having sex or something. The majority of people don't have a tattoo like that, though. In every other case, keep your mouth shut. Their tattoos aren't going to ruin your pictures. Also, maybe they didn't wait to get tattooed because they have other things on their mind besides how they're going to look on your pretty pretty princess day?

jaimed99 · April 2010

mizri...that is an AWESOME tat!

it!

CA2MT4EveR · April 2010

Mizri- I like.

I like tattoos, have 2 myself and will get another soon. That will probably be all. BF does not like them and I respect that, but I would never remove or cover them because they are me.

Take me as I am!

caseyandlizzie · April 2010

One of my bridesmaids has large sparrows tattooed on her collar bones and I would never think of asking her to cover them up. They are a part of her and I think that she will look rad in her bridemaid dress with her tats showing.

caseyandlizzie · April 2010

miz- I hadn't seen the close-up...love it!

duckie1905 · April 2010

Maybe I'm naive but my tattoo (and the tattoos of my friends) have signifcance to us and our personalities. They aren't offensive and they weren't some drunk romp on a college campus. A lot of us chose our tats to express ourselves and took our time to find the right artist and spent good money to get something that we love.

Good for you that you don't like them. But, they are a part of who your friends are it is horrifying that you would treat them so badly.

mizri · April 2010

Thanks. My mom isn't crazy about them, and is trying to get me to cover it for my wedding. But she has also (finally) accepted that I like them, and it's who I am. I would like to get more, but they tend to cost money, and that's something we don't have a lot of right now... lol.

But back to the point, don't ask your BMs to hide part of who they are for your "pretty princess day." A lot of people get tattoos for very signifigant reasons, and you are telling them that the life events that may be reflected in those tattoos mean nothing to you.

xoxob · April 2010

Mizri, that is a sweet tattoo.

My Bestie for life has an amazing dagger tattooed between her shoulders. It is going to look sick in a BM dress. The pseudo cheesey cross on her shoulder? Oh well, if she can live with it, so can I (she also thinks that cheesy and wishes the sweet dagger were on her shoulder and the cross was where no one could see it, heh)

I'm having issues with my tats and my dress. They show through and they definitely should not (i have one on either hip bone and a 'tramp stamp' ugh, hate that term but that is where it is located) I just don't want them showing through the dress. I think it will be trashy, what to do, what to do.

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