Different Shoes for Each Bridesmaid?

daniellemarie13 · May 2010

I was just wondering how important it is for each bridesmaid to wear the same shoes? Half of my ladies can't stand wearing heals, while others live in heals! Are their shoes really even that important of a detail? Do I have to get them all in the same color shoe at least? It's a detail that I've totally overlooked!

ScissortailFlycatcher · May 2010

You don't have to do anything. If you want to keep it in the same color family, let them chose the style so they are comfortable.
Most people will not be looking at the bridesmaids feet, they will be looking at you!

MollyW318 · May 2010

I agree that nobody will really notice their shoes. I was just going to let them pick whatever shoe they think looks best and they are most comfortable in. I have a bridesmaid who's 5'2, one who's 5'5, and one who's around 5'9 or 5'10 so it wouldn't make sense to have the same shoe and heel height.

ring_pop · May 2010

Don't make them wear the same shoes if they don't want to. It's hell to spend a day in shoes that aren't comfortable.

I do think it's reasonable to ask them to agree on a colour if you want them to coordinate, but if you don't care, then just let them wear whatever they want!

janedoe1113a · May 2010

Not important at all. I told my BMs I just wanted them to wear gold shoes and they all picked out their own.

aerinpegadrak · May 2010

Not remotely important. I told my girls to just pick something that went with their (black) dresses and the wedding colors (all neutrals). Most wore plain black shoes, except my two sisters; one wore spectator-style flats, and the other wore zebra-striped flats, which were both awesome.

If you're worried about the shoes being totally crazy, just give some basic guidelines (i.e. silver strappy, black closed toe, etc) and ask them to run them by you before choosing. That way you can nip anything you're not okay with in the bud.

But if you truly don't care, don't worry about it, just trust them all to choose shoes that look good.

lauralaur · May 2010

I just asked my bridesmaids to wear silver shoes and to be honest, I didn't even look at their shoes (I saw one's shoes, but that's because I was present when she bought them). Nobody noticed their shoes because they were in long dresses, and even if they weren't, I doubt people would have noticed their shoes.

[Deleted User] · May 2010

It will be fine for them to be in different shoes. I, too, am all about my BM's being comfortable, so I just told them silver shoes and whatever style & heel they pick out is fine. I also have one girl who doesn't like open toed shoes and the pair she found were just fine.

wcvsb3b5 · May 2010

I didn't even tell my BMs a color for their shoes. I just told them to wear whatever they want. Nobody is going to be paying attention to their shoes anyway.

jeanna85 · May 2010

I think it looks too matchy-matchy to have everyone in the same shoe. If you want them to look more cohesive, you can consider giving them a color- like tell them to wear any silver sandal, or black strappy shoe, or whatever.

angiems97 · May 2010

Mine are wearing long dresses and I just told them to get silver shoes to go with their royal blue BMs dresses. One picked flats b.c. she is so tall. With long dresses, the shoes barely show.

HEATHERM10 · May 2010

I agree with PP MY BM are wearing whatever shoes they want

desrosiersl · May 2010

I let my BM choose their own style and heel, but asked that they be dyable. I collected them all and had them dyed together so they matched. It's fun to see what they chose, and they're all different, just like their personalities.

I figured they had to walk in them all day, they could have some say in them. They have tea length dresses, so they'll show. For the beach, I have matching beaded blue flip flops for them. So I have both.

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Jeni35 · May 2010

I am only having my MOH (my sis) and my bridesmaid (FI's sis). My sister needs flats and FI's sis is very tall and doesn't walk too well in heels. I want them to both be comfortable and I agree- I don't think anyone will notice. I also agree with OP if you would like a certain color or something.

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