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Garter/Bouquet Toss?

Heath404Heath404
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Do most people still do this at weddings around here? What are your thoughts? Originally, I didn't want to do it, but now I am wondering if I should do it because it might be fun.  I am 24 and FI is 25, so there will be enough single people there to participate.....

What did you do are what do you plan on doing?

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  • jkeprosjkepros member
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    edited December 2011
    We aren't going to do either.  We're 30 & 31, and very few of our guests are single (like, <10), so it's not really worth it.
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  • snoangel79snoangel79
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    edited December 2011
    I'm not doing it, alot of my guests are married (I'm 31, he's 33). Also, I'm doing something different and dedicating and giving my mom my bouquet.
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  • mjessie84mjessie84 member
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    edited December 2011

    We are 25 and doing the bouquet toss....all of my friends/cousins aren't married yet so it works out. I think its a fun tradition, although I have met a lot of people with opinions against it (its cheesy, outdated, etc.) I don't buy that though. However, I've never been a fan of the garter so we arent doing that.  I think it depends on your specific style and taste and how you want your wedding to be.

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  • jonchrissyjonchrissy
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    edited December 2011
    We'll both be 26 and we are not doing the garter. I'm on the fence about doing the bouquet. Most of my friends are single, but are quite content on being single for the next 5 years...we'll see.
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  • Shazzie116Shazzie116 member
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    edited December 2011
    We did both, and it was hilarious and fun. We're 25 and 26 and most of our friends are single and really got into it. It worked for our crowd :)
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  • allisong23allisong23 member
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    edited December 2011
    We are not doing it. IMHO, I don't like spotlighting women because they aren't married yet (and making sure everyone else at the wedding knows it). I think it is demeaning.
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  • jaguarjenjaguarjen
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    edited December 2011
    I'm in my late thirties and currently am planning on doing a bouquet toss (we'll see if I change my mind over the next few months) -- but inviting everyone, male or female, married or single, to try to catch the bouquet "for luck."  
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  • Karen's MOHKaren's MOH member
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    edited December 2011
    We are not and most of the weddings I've been to recently did not do either. We will both be 29 and most of our friends are married, getting married, or single but not so in love with being single, so I wouldn't want to point it out to them again.

    It's funny though, I noticed that right around the time that I started wanting to be "next" is around the time that people seemed to stop doing it. I don't think there is a wrong or right, just if you want it or not-- and if there are enough single people who want it. I'm picturing Jennifer Aniston in Picture Perfect.
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  • jacquikevjacquikev
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    edited December 2011
    We'll be 23 and 27 and we are so doing it!!! Ive been to weddings and always had a blast fighting for that bouquet! tho when i did catch it i happened to not shave my legs due to the horridly apple red giant bridesmaid dress i was wearing and lets just say the poor guy who got the garter!! lol 
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  • noodle_oonoodle_oo member
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    edited December 2011
    i love the bouquet toss, but not doing it since most of my friends are married and I don't want to single out the single women (at our age, 30, they don't like it anymore!)

    I would never do the garter toss.  I've seent it at a few weddings and it is always so inappropriate.  I actually hate watching it at other people's weddings, but to each their own I guess.
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  • JBs_BrideJBs_Bride
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    edited December 2011
    We're not doing either. To give away my toss bouquet we'll do an Anniversary Dance instead.
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  • lnareylnarey
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    edited December 2011
    We didn't do either.  I cringe at the garter toss.  It just wasn't for me.  I debating the bouquet toss, but ultimately decided against it.  I gave my gram my bouquet at the end of the night.
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  • Galaxy8227Galaxy8227
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    edited December 2011
    I think it depends on your crowd.  If you think you have people who get into it and make it really fun, then go for it.  If no one will really get up and it's going to be boring, don't bother.  We're not doing it, I know our friends appreciate us not making them do it.  But I went to a wedding last year, one of FI's friends, and they did it and it was so fun to watch, everyone really made it a blast, so base it off of your people and what you think they'll do. 
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  • jquirke9881jquirke9881
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    edited December 2011
    We did not do either.  Most of our friends are married or engaged.  I didn't want my poor sister out there by herself for the bouquet toss.
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  • iwalkthelineiwalktheline
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    edited December 2011
    we did both.  we're 23 and 24 and we're both the oldest of our families, so we were the first of our groups to get married.  DH was very against doing the garter toss (only because he hates being the center of attention), but he did it anyway and it was fun.  i'm glad we did it.  my MOH caught the bouquet and one of his best friends got the garter and they really probably will be the next ones... i like the tradition and i think if you have the right group of guests it's really a fun thing to have at your reception.

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  • Heath404Heath404
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    edited December 2011
    thanks for the responses!
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  • tarat123tarat123 member
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    edited December 2011

    We are doing it at our wedding but all the wedding we have been to lately have not been! Oh well its still fun!

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  • junelleyjunelley
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    edited December 2011
    We aren't doing either.FI and I never liked them.. 
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  • TeebagyAndNorthTeebagyAndNorth member
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    edited December 2011
    We are not foing the garter toss. No offense to anyone here but I think it can be a little tacky. We are, however, tossing the bouquet. My venue was built in the 20s and has a "grandmothers" window where chaperons used to sit to monitor the debutantes. I am tossing from there. I have a lot of younger cousins that will get a kick out of it.


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  • megandjaymegandjay member
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    edited December 2011
    We are not doing either.
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  • kmt_caskmt_cas
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    edited December 2011
    No.  I hate being centered out of a group for a bouquet toss so I'm not going to do that to any of my guests.  Plus, having FI get the garter in front of my grandparents and his parents, no thank you.
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  • nrsemcbnrsemcb member
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    edited December 2011
    No toss, no garter.
    I am giving bouquet to one of my bridesmaids and the garter to her man.
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  • BluValkyrieBluValkyrie
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    edited December 2011
    I don't know what we're doing yet, we still have time.

    If we do do either or both of them, I know how I'd do it.  It wouldn't be for "singles"  It'd be for all women and all men.  In my head, I see it being a "whoever catches it will recieve good luck in the coming year" rather than the traditional approach.

    Might just be me, but I think that works better than singling out the unmarried friends and family.
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