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Wedding Etiquette Forum
What Is Wrong With People
My wedding is October 16th, 2010 yes a couple of week. Well my brother and his brother decide that since my fi and I just built a home, that they should not have to stay in a hotel but with us. Number one it's our wedding weekend, two we only have a living room furniture and master beadroom. They offered to bring a air mattress. We said No!!! it's our wedding/honey moon weekend.
We have sixteen rooms booked for that weekend however they feel that since they are driving over 15 hundred miles and I qoute "You have that big house why should we stat in a hotel. I don't understand this. I never say this comming.
I am hurt that they would do this. My brother is also a groomsmen. I feel that our relationship will be damage over this. They feel that we are not understanding the cost factor. We travel to their wedding two years ago and spent over two thousdand dollars and stayed in a hotel at $160.00 per night times 4. Their hotel cost is $64.00 times 3nights, his tux is free. But he is telling everyone we are treating them like they are nt welcome.
I love my brother but this is wrong.... At this point i wish that I had never invited them....... I am the one who is hurt...... I am not having people sleeping on my floor
or staying with us on my wedding night...... They are wrong for expecting us to
put them up for the weekend.
I needed to vent.
We have sixteen rooms booked for that weekend however they feel that since they are driving over 15 hundred miles and I qoute "You have that big house why should we stat in a hotel. I don't understand this. I never say this comming.
I am hurt that they would do this. My brother is also a groomsmen. I feel that our relationship will be damage over this. They feel that we are not understanding the cost factor. We travel to their wedding two years ago and spent over two thousdand dollars and stayed in a hotel at $160.00 per night times 4. Their hotel cost is $64.00 times 3nights, his tux is free. But he is telling everyone we are treating them like they are nt welcome.
I love my brother but this is wrong.... At this point i wish that I had never invited them....... I am the one who is hurt...... I am not having people sleeping on my floor
or staying with us on my wedding night...... They are wrong for expecting us to
put them up for the weekend.
I needed to vent.
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Re: What Is Wrong With People
Are you planning on staying at your new house on your wedding night? Not that it really matters but if you are that is double the reason for them to go to a hotel. I do think they are being a bit rude here just assuming it would be okay and for even suggesting it themselves. This is the kind of thing that people offer. This is not something that you ask people to do.
and the ask about renting a bed for the three nights. I told them that hotels are there for a reason, my parents are staying in the hotel
Joyce
If they get pissed and decide not to come because of this, that's their problem.
Married!
Or compromise. Say, "You can stay with us the night before the wedding but once I'm married you're out."
They're being quite rude.
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On a side note my BIL tried to hook up with one of my girlfriends at my reception. His bright (and drunken) idea at 2 am when the party was breaking up was to take the bus into town with us and for them to stay in our spare bedroom. He didn't want to take her back to his Mom's place. That was funny.
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Dresses may be easier to take in than let out, but guest lists are not. -- kate51485
1) We are going home to our house after the wedding
2) We are crazy-busy planning the wedding, and I will not have time to be cooking/entertaining
3) Our living area is filled with wedding gifts and boxes
In the end, both my parents, separately (they're divorced) offered to pay for my brother's hotel room and my mom is paying for his plane ticket. FI and I are covering his tux.
Hell, I have a friend who lives with me temporarily and even SHE is finding another place to stay for a few days around the wedding.
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We were in the same house as our kids, but only because we had a DW so we rented a beachouse for everyone. But hell even they moved to another bedroom on a different floor the night we married. These people are just rude.I'm with PP's see if they can stay with other family, or pay for their hotel.
He is definitely out of line as I said before. As far as paying for the hotel (or a part of it) I believe that is totally up to you. You certainly are not obligated to offer any such thing but it may be worth it just to end the battle. In the end you absolutely must put your foot down. Do not give in on this. As another PP said, if you let the brothers stay, where does it end. Do aunts and cousins get to stay as well then. Hell, on your wedding night you could have one big slumber party on your living room floor. (that was meant to be sarcastic obviously) I'm sorry you have to deal with this. It would seem like common sense not to ask to stay in the same house as the bride and groom. However I guess some people don't have the same common sense as others.