tattoos and bridesmaids

caseyandlizzie · April 2010

xoxo- you could wear some kind of nude underthingy. it should cover those baby's up.

mizri · April 2010

Thanks, I'm planning on adding a full color background around her, and she needs some touch-ups. I also have plans for more, want some for my kids and stuff. I just need 2 things: money and a good artist. I've only lived in this town for 5 years and haven't been able to make the connections I had in the one year I lived in Corpus Christi. My back piece cost about $100. And she took 3 hours. Being good friends with the owner of a shop has benefits.

CTGirl30 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_tattoos-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:c3c70a2f-0574-4236-bff4-9899ec5c2058Post:105bad5f-1a22-41d2-8142-765accc4cd03">Re: tattoos and bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]) I'm having issues with my tats and my dress. They show through and they definitely should not (i have one on either hip bone and a 'tramp stamp' ugh, hate that term but that is where it is located) I just don't want them showing through the dress. I think it will be trashy, what to do, what to do.
Posted by xoxob[/QUOTE]

Nude Spanx and you should be good to go with preventing the show-through...

OP, your post was incredibly self-centered sounding - I'm sorry but your wedding doesn't mean that other people's lives cease to exist. Just b/c you're getting married doesn't mean someone is barred from getting a new tat and what they do with their bodies is not under your control, like it or not. I suggest you stop worrying about it since this has nothing to do with you and your wedding's end result will still be that you and your FI are married - regardless of which BM has what tattoo showing.

mizri · April 2010

I think we lost the OP.

xoxob · April 2010

Yeah, I'm thinking a high pair of spanx, that way it will hide the flaws too.

aerinpegadrak · April 2010

Spanx are amazing. I'm really hoping that's what's in my package waiting at UPS, since my final fitting is tonight.

A recent issue of Brides magazine had a list of things that brides shouldn't concern themselves with. One of them was tattooed bridesmaids, and featured a lovely picture of bridesmaids going down the stairs, the topmost of whom had a tattoo on her shoulder. If the almighty Wedding-Industrial Complex thinks this isn't a battle worth fighting, you really need to let it go.

ekimberl · April 2010

The world doesn't revolve around your wedding. Your friend's lives don't revolve around your wedding. I'll admit that I sometimes forget this too... but it's true, and we shouldn't expect anything to change just because we have one special day on the calendar. For us, it is the most important day of our lives. For them, it's just another day in the life. And really, that is ok...

However... if it is a naked chick or a swastika, I might agree with you... but I'm guessing that is not the case.

MyNameIsNot · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_tattoos-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:c3c70a2f-0574-4236-bff4-9899ec5c2058Post:dc2581f1-c7f1-4db7-8659-312deb8966e1">Re: tattoos and bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE] However... if it is a naked chick or a swastika, I might agree with you... but I'm guessing that is not the case.
Posted by ekimberl[/QUOTE]

<div>Good call. If it was that chick that hooked up with Sandra Bullock's husband with the nazi tats, you can make her cover it up.</div><div>
</div><div>But then, if you have friends with swastika tats, you've got bigger problems than wedding style. </div>

spinner84 · April 2010

I think tattoos are hideous, and feet tattoos are extra hideous. My MOH and BM both have them and I couldn't care less - it's their bodies.

You are seriously so bridezilla that you think your BMs should have waited to tattoo themselves for your stupid wedding. Will you get mad if they cut their hair without your permission too?

ChunknLaura · April 2010

Get over yourself. YOUR world may revolve around your wedding, but everyone else's doesn't. I'm sorry but you have NO right to ask them to cover them up or suggest that they should have waited until your wedding has passed. You don't like tat's-thats fine, don't get any but don't try to control the ladies who are supposedly your nearest and dearest.

SonaliPop · April 2010

It is really rude for you to expect them to cover things up for your wedding - they are your girls, take them as they are. Inked or not! So, asking them to cover them up or being mind boggled over why they didn't wait after your wedding to get them is beyond belief.

LadySupernova · April 2010

I've got a tattoo on my back, one on my neck and two on my ankles. I'm sure whoever I choose to be in my wedding party will have them as well. Not to re-post what's been said, but pretty much you shouldn't be too bossy about who has what tattoo. You're sounding rude and will ultimately create a uneasiness with your bridal party and yourself. Trust me, you want everyone on your side.

tiffanyraven · April 2010

I completely understand you! My family is very religious and seeing someone with a tattoo is very disrespectful to them. I understand what people are saying about tattoos being individuality, but in a wedding you have A LOT of older family members. Tattoos just became a trend in the last 75 years or so. Expected everyone (old and young) to be completely ok with it is silly. It's your wedding. You asked them to cover them up. It's not a selfish request. There's a few girls who aren't going to be able to be in my wedding just because my dad is offended at their tattoos and my parents wont help pay if they are in. You have to think of the traditions and customs of your family. Do what YOU think is best. It's your day after all.

banana468 · April 2010

[QUOTE]Tattoos just became a trend in the last 75 years or so. Expected everyone (old and young) to be completely ok with it is silly. It's your wedding. You asked them to cover them up. It's not a selfish request. There's a few girls who aren't going to be able to be in my wedding just because my dad is offended at their tattoos and my parents wont help pay if they are in. You have to think of the traditions and customs of your family. Do what YOU think is best. It's your day after all. [/QUOTE]

This advice is inappropriate and frankly, not all that great.

Frankly, I'd cut my friendship with someone short if she said, "I'd ask you to be a BM but you need to change your look."

My grandmother is one of the most Catholic people I know.

She LOVES my tattoo.

Did I mention she just turned 93?

kkropp · April 2010

I do not think it is selfish at all to ask that they cover their tattoos. I have one myself and would not be offended if I was asked to cover mine. It is a part of who you are but it may be a part of who she is to not like them. Her friends, I am sure understand. Luckily my bm's have no tattoos that show in their dress... I don't think my wedding or my wedding pictures is a place I would like to see them!!

LarissaAnn · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_tattoos-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:c3c70a2f-0574-4236-bff4-9899ec5c2058Post:76382a84-7cf6-4a6a-ba9f-b38f30bb9ba6">Re: tattoos and bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]I completely understand you! My family is very religious and seeing someone with a tattoo is very disrespectful to them. [/QUOTE]<div><strong>Seeing</strong> someone with a tattoo is disrespectful to a religious person? So... if they see someone walking down the street with a tattoo, they're disrespected? Really? And do they respect the religions of others, because some of those <strong>require</strong> tattoos.
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</div><div>[QUOTE]There's a few girls who aren't going to be able to be in my wedding just because my dad is offended at their tattoos and my parents wont help pay if they are in. You have to think of the traditions and customs of your family. Do what YOU think is best. It's your day after all. [/QUOTE]</div><div>That's so sad! I'd have told my parents that <strong>I am</strong> the one who gets to choose my friends and they can keep their money unless and until they stop insulting people I care about. Then again, I stick up for my friends. And as self-sufficient adults, H & I paid for our own wedding.</div></div>

cccates · April 2010

I'm getting married in July and all of my Bridesmaid, and me, have tattoos- we're actually going to take a picture that showcases them all. One of my Bridesmaids did have to cover hers for her sisters wedding though.

CA2MT4EveR · April 2010

I know MANY Christian people who have tattoos. Some are religious, some are not. Just because they have chosen to showcase art on their bodies, doesn't mean they are any less of a person or less closer to God.

I honestly think the attitude is not about religion but moreso of the ideals people have about tattoos. Most people automatically associate tattoos as a sort of "bad morals" or "criminal behavior".

If someone told me to cover my tattoos, I would tell them to shove it. And I only have 2. Check out one of my great friends, and how many she has... This picture was at *shock* a Christian wedding last year...

They are all over her body, but not anywhere that cannot be covered by long pants or long sleeve shirts. If you google "Alana LaLure" there are many other pictures of her, and how beautiful she is.

jnurom · April 2010

if you care so strongly about the tattoos, why did you ask them in the first place?...to me, its more offensive to ask them to cover up who they are then to not ask them to be part of your wedding...

my bf, also my maid of honor is covered in tattoos and actualy offended me when she wanted to cover them up. i asked her to stand next to me knowing she had sleeves-i love her just the same...

sjnsjnsjn · April 2010

Tattoos are their skin. It's part of their body, who they are. If you don't like how your BMs look, and you're that shallow, don't ask them to be in your wedding. Your wedding is supposed to be about love and friends and family, not adhering to some b.s. image, jeez!

davis2cruz · April 2010

I am in the same situation as you are, MinnieMouse12 (original poster). I asked my girls to be in the wedding back in July... all of them were "uninked" at that time. All of them are sisters of either myself and the groom, so I felt comfortable enough to politely ask them not to get any tattoos or facial piercings before the wedding -- I kind of did this in a kidding manner, because at the time none of them had mentioned getting one. Well, now one of them has a MASSIVE tattoo on her arm. Now, I don't mind tattoos on a day-to-day basis... but for a wedding, I think it takes away from the event. I feel that we are paying a lot of money for our wedding and I want our guests leaving talking about the wedding... not the tattoo the bridesmaid had. (And I have been to weddings where that is what is talked about afterwards, not what should be talked about.) I am not sure yet how to handle the situation either, so I am in the same boat. I am going to try to ask her to cover it, but it is awkward. It's a hard situation, so I wish you luck!

banana468 · April 2010

davis2cruz, please read what others have said - it's not OK to ask her to cover the tattoo. In fact, you'd be rather rude to do so.

Find a dress for all that covers the tats, or get shawls for all BMs so that the tat is covered for the ceremony and exposed for the reception.

Beyond that, you need to chill.

davis2cruz · April 2010

If she had the tattoo before the wedding and I had asked her to be in it, I would not be upset. I think it's rude for someone to do something so visible, right before. She could have at least mentioned it when she was asked to be a bridesmaid.

I also would like to state that I find it extremely rude and offensive how people answered the poster. She was asking a simple question and was called names and answered in an unkindly manner, overall. These boards are meant to be used as a tool for people to get advise, ideas, and in some situations constructive critisism. The fact that the poster has not said anything since is a good sign that she felt attacked by most of the replies.

... and telling me to "chill" is unnecessary. I am not stressed, angry, or anything of the sort, not to mention I wasn't commenting to you...

Licia&Wayne · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_tattoos-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:c3c70a2f-0574-4236-bff4-9899ec5c2058Post:4fa20053-9203-4bac-a243-c1fa791da34e">Re: tattoos and bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE] The fact that the poster has not said anything since is a good sign that she felt attacked by most of the replies. ...
Posted by davis2cruz[/QUOTE]

Actually, this means it's most likely MUD (Made Up Drama), just to get a rise out of the boards.

Dlutz828 · April 2010

I don't think you should expect your bridesmaids to put their lives on hold for your wedding. There are plenty of tattoo cover ups out on the market that are available. (I think you should offer to pay for) I have several tattoos myself and if my good friend wanted it covered for her wedding I would have no problem.

Over all I think you shouldn't stress over a tattoo... no one is going to notice them, they are all going to have there eyes on you. :-)

banana468 · April 2010

[QUOTE]My friends are much more mature than to stop being someones friend because of such a simple request... I am just saying it is not a big deal... That's all :) [/QUOTE]

And my friends are too mature to ask me to alter my appearance just to please them in the first place. They love me for who I am - not who they want me to be.

CA2MT4EveR · April 2010

This suddenly came to mind:

Go Banana, Go Go Banana!

banana468 · April 2010

Thanks CA2M!

MyNameIsNot · April 2010

Gah, I'm continually shocked at how superficial people can be. It's just disgusting.

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