DH's Ring

missy68 · December 2010

He still needs to not wear it working on his car, no matter what kind or metal you get. But there is nothing unsafe about a tungsten ring.

doctabroccoli · December 2010

Looks good to me!

louisvillebride21 · December 2010

H wears his working on his car all the time. The only time he doesn't wear it is when he's playing basketball. He doesnt' want it to hit the rim and shatter.

sep72fendr · December 2010

I would probably kill him if he wore his band while working on his car. His hands look like they have gone through barbed wire every.time. he gets done working on the dumb thing.

J&K10910 · December 2010

The satin finish will not hide scratches better. I have a ring with a shiny finish on one side and a satin finish on the other. The satin finish shows scratches better (and then it looks dirty), plus it's starting to wear smooth so I need to send it in to get it rebrushed. So if he just prefers the satin look, then that makes perfect sense, but if the only reason you'd get satin is to hide the scratches, then don't bother.

Though I do really like the ring you posted. I take it he has no idea what he wants?

emilyinchile · December 2010

H's is white gold with a brushed finish. If we'd been in the US, we probably would have looked at other, harder metals, but I didn't really think of it, we only saw gold and white gold here, and he wanted to try things on anyway. He just takes it off for stuff like working out where it could get damanged, and otherwise the brushed finish means little scratches aren't a big deal.

sep72fendr · December 2010

J&K- he is clueless when it comes to picking things out. He is horrible. I have shown him dozens of designs, metals, finishes, thicknesses (giggle), millgrain patterns, websites, links, and photos.

He hates salespeople so he doesnt want to go into any stores to look at things in person (which makes my task twice as hard). I'm about ready to order something that I like for him and be done with it. RAWR.

And I had no idea that satin finish doesn't hide scratches. Eff that. Can high polished finishes be continualy polished to buff out scratches?

reason00 · December 2010

Tungsten is extremely hard. I would recommend him taking it off when working on the car. A coworker's husband is a mechanical engineer on airplanes, and has dented metal parts with a tungsten ring.

I still like gold and platinum. Platinum is nice because when it scratches, it doesn't lose any of it's material, it just pushes it aside and creates a groove. Easier to polish.

My guy is just sticking with simple gold. He'll remove it when he needs.

J&K10910 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dhs-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a0e93c2c-6a5b-4c25-aaba-fbbd762da936Post:b26b9929-7d83-41e5-9663-7a37d4dbb7e3">Re: DH's Ring</a>:
[QUOTE]J&K- he is clueless when it comes to picking things out. He is horrible. I have shown him dozens of designs, metals, finishes, thicknesses (giggle), millgrain patterns, websites, links, and photos. He hates salespeople so he doesnt want to go into any stores to look at things in person (which makes my task twice as hard). I'm about ready to order something that I like for him and be done with it. RAWR. <strong>And I had no idea that satin finish doesn't hide scratches. Eff that. Can high polished finishes be continualy polished to buff out scratches?</strong>
Posted by sep72fendr[/QUOTE]

With polished white gold, you just get it redipped and/or polished. No big deal. It's one of the easiest metals to maintain from that standpoint. We were thinking platinum until we did our research and found that while platinum is harder and doesn't scratch as easily, when it DOES scratch, it can't just be buffed out like gold.

But, again, if the satin finish is something that you really like, you can get it redipped and rebrushed (which you'd have to do occasionally anyway) so there wouldn't really be any more maintenance to it than a polished finish, so if that's what you like, go with it.

sep72fendr · December 2010

Aww Spanks for all of your input ladies. Mucho Appreciado. I now have a bunch of info that I can wield against Fi in case of stupidity and indecisiveness.

mica178 · December 2010

Most emergency rooms have the tools to remove any common type of ring, so I wouldn't let that fear deter you (also, most men who work with cars do not experience severe crush injuries to their left ring finger over their lifetime).

H has a white gold ring. He wanted the metals of our rings to match. We also bought him a titanium ring to wear for travel because when we first got his ring, he thought the gold was too heavy (thus no platinum), but in the few months since our wedding, he has grown used to the weight of the ring and doesn't like the look of the titanium.

Beachy730 · December 2010

H got white gold because of the whole Titanium/Tungsten not being able to be cut off idea. At one point he didn't care about it, but when I broke my wrist last winter he changed his mind. By the time ski patrol got me to the bottom of the slopes and cut my gloves off, I barely was able to get my ring off. I needed to use soap on it and it hurt like a bitch to take it off, but had I waited any longer it would have needed to be cut off. I'm still bitter that they cut off my under armour and my north face shirt in the ER.

As PPs have already made clear, it is a myth. It can be shattered or cut somehow, but the difference with those metals is that they can be repaired after. So if it needs to be shattered or cut off you just have to buy a new one. Most of them are cheaper than white gold anyways so it would still be cheaper to buy 2 of them.

H wanted white gold, and he wanted diamonds since he said it wasn't fair that I got all the diamonds. This is his ring:

Nevermind, it won't copy the pic. Here's a link if you really want to see it. http://www.kay.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product1%7C10101%7C10001%7C-1%7C50868102%7C15051%7C15051.15058.15114

ElleestJenn · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dhs-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a0e93c2c-6a5b-4c25-aaba-fbbd762da936Post:0e128608-42bf-46ba-a163-4a672e19783a">Re: DH's Ring</a>:
[QUOTE]I'll believe the finger severing thing when I see it. I don't buy it.
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]

<div>My FI is an EMT and we have a lot of friends that are paramedics that work for AMR. They said that none of their tools will be able to cut off the ring. So the ER might have a tool but the paramedics don't. So if they're the one to response to you, you're screwed. </div>

J&K10910 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dhs-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a0e93c2c-6a5b-4c25-aaba-fbbd762da936Post:8ac0126a-c65e-4c18-ac42-8a34bd63b4a5">Re: DH's Ring</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: DH's Ring : My FI is an EMT and we have a lot of friends that are paramedics that work for AMR. They said that none of their tools will be able to cut off the ring. So the ER might have a tool but the paramedics don't. So if they're the one to response to you, you're screwed.
Posted by ElleestJenn[/QUOTE]

They don't have the tools to cut off a ring, but they'll cut off your finger right there in the ambulance? Really?

ElleestJenn · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dhs-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a0e93c2c-6a5b-4c25-aaba-fbbd762da936Post:32e7609a-6dac-4b9c-abf9-a7b392c51e52">Re: DH's Ring</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: DH's Ring : They don't have the tools to cut off a ring, but they'll cut off your finger right there in the ambulance? Really?
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm not saying they'll cut off your finger right there. They'll have to let it keep swelling till they get you to the ER but by then it could be too late depending on fast they get you to an ER.</div>

[Deleted User] · December 2010

I like the pic of the ring you posted for your FH. My husband's ring is 14kt white gold, it cost more than my band, but not by much. It is really thick and meaty (that is how I like to describe it) and it has a line going around the center of the band.

Both H and I love the ring, but they only issue is that soap and other gunk gets caught in it so he has to clean it often. He can't wear it to work bc he works in a paper mill which is some serious heavy industry and they have a strict policy where no jewelry can be worn. So pretty much he just wears it on the weekends. Yes, it sucks, but I would rather have him safe.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dhs-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a0e93c2c-6a5b-4c25-aaba-fbbd762da936Post:8ac0126a-c65e-4c18-ac42-8a34bd63b4a5">Re: DH's Ring</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: DH's Ring : My FI is an EMT and we have a lot of friends that are paramedics that work for AMR. They said that none of their tools will be able to cut off the ring. So the ER might have a tool but the paramedics don't. So if they're the one to response to you, you're screwed.
Posted by ElleestJenn[/QUOTE]

Vice grip pliers are not like, some super secret expensive tool that no one owns.

smokeybailey · December 2010

Mark got platinum. There is no way he would get tungsten. He works all day with materials made of Tungsten and he said it would diminish the value whenever he had to dispose of Tungsten (or know the true price).

He ordered what he wanted and he liked the weight of the platinum ring.

Oh and he would NEVER wear a ring to work. I've got horror stories for days...tungsten or not.

ElleestJenn · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dhs-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a0e93c2c-6a5b-4c25-aaba-fbbd762da936Post:bb16e8e9-9759-4353-b8c3-ec27a181e42a">Re: DH's Ring</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: DH's Ring : Vice grip pliers are not like, some super secret expensive tool that no one owns.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

<div>They said that even those wouldn't work on that metal. I'm just saying what I was told by people who have experience with things like that, so unless you have some other information for me, please by all means, present.</div>

kayakrunhike · December 2010

You do not need to have your fingers cut off with tungsten rings. Seriously.

Anyway, my DH is really into cars as well. I think he generally takes off his ring when working on them, but he has a tungsten ring, and it has no scratches on it. I just looked at it the other day- we've been married for six months, and lets just put it this way. His ring is in a lot better shape than my white gold ones are.

missy68 · December 2010

Vice Grip Pliers, Rotary Drills, Dremels - all can work, according to what we read.

However, it isn't worn to work, to avoid conductivity and catching on equipment, just the same as his work badge, when he's required to wear it, is tucked in his shirt and the string is out of his sweatshirt.

sapphirebaby926 · December 2010

My DH is a FF/EMT and he says that they definitely have the tools to cut off any type of ring. Tungsten rings have a shatter point so they can use a vise grip to break it off easily. Amputation is absolutely not necessary. He has a tungsten ring as well but doesn't wear it to work since they aren't allowed to wear any jewelery while at work.

Also we have another friend that has a tungsten ring and his shattered from dropping it on the floor. It's really not this super duper indestructible metal that everyone seems to think it is.

Y I Oughta · December 2010

I found this website where I got FI's ring. They have some pretty good prices, some of the best I have found, for men's rings,

http://www.mensjewelryclub.com/meweba.html

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