Does the Maid of Honor dress have to be different

Dlhoney · October 2010

Hello Ladies,

Question I have 5 bridesmaids in total, 2 matrons of honor 1 maid of honor and 2 bridesmaid. The problem is ( well not my problem but my maid of honor's problem) that the 2 matrons of honors are wearing a different dress in a different color and my maid of honor is wearing the same dress and color as the other bridesmaids. Well it has recently come to my attention that my maid of honor feels some kind of way about not being put in a different dress. Let me first tell you that my maid of honor will have a different bouquets, will be listed in the program as my maid of honor and speak at the reception. Should I consider putting her in a different dress so that she can stand out more?

SaraAndrew2010 · October 2010

The MOH doesn't need to be in a different style, especially if you already are planning a different bouquet for her. However, if she's upset at not standing out more, you could also get her something like a sash or big jeweled pin to stand out more. Or just let her pick out a different style dress.

sytom · October 2010

Ditto ! I think an accent might be nice especially if her job was a lot different than your BM's.

soontobemrswarner · October 2010

I agree with the other girls. Accents are nice, and also ask her to see what she wants. If shes a MOH that wants to stand out, let her. If she's one that is shy and wants to look like everyone else, let her do that.

Good luck!

JustKate · October 2010

Why wouldn't you put the maid and matrons of honor in the same dresses and leave the BM's in one dress? Is their any "rank" difference between Maid and Matron of Honor? I would feel a bit weird if my title is a bit more than others but I was wearing the same dress.

[Deleted User] · October 2010

Nope, her dress doesn't have to be different. My MOH's dress was not different, even though the girls all picked their own styles. She did, however, request a flower in her hair so that she could be distinguished as the MOH. Other ideas include: her carrying a slightly bigger bouquet and/or one more similar to yours, a colored sash or ribbon, flower in her hair, a pin or brooch on her dress, and the list could go on and on.

tlbattaglia · October 2010

Her dress does not have to be different. Though, my MOH has requested that hers be different.

soontobeschooley · October 2010

Her dress doesn't have to be different, but it does seem a little odd that you would have your matrons of honor be distinguishable but not the maid of honor. I agree in letting her choose another dress or having her be distinguished from the other bridesmaids.

Gismo123 · October 2010

none of their dress have to be different they can all be the same. The thing that is making my MOH stand out is her boquet is going to be a bit more eligant than the BM's boquets. I agree wit PP's that maybe she can also wear a sash or a wrap to stand out.