So i have been engaged for less than a week and ALREADY am having problems with my fiances mother. His family was at my house literally minutes after he popped the question (my dad was at work and the ring was just burning a whole in his pocket so he couldnt wait any longer). His mom and 2 sisters were really excited but immediately after seeing my ring, the first words about of his mother's mouth was "Well I hope you dont expect me to pay for anything because you know I really can't." And that would be fine...if it were true! She goes out to dinner, to the movies, has the latest and newest cell phone/lap tops/TVs/game systems and basically supports her 26 year old daughter who refuses to get a job and still lives at home, but when it comes to my fiance, she always gives him the cold shoulder and reminds him that "shes about to lose her house" and "is in so much debt that even her cash isnt good at times." We aren't asking for support, and never have but she is already barking orders about the wedding.....who she wants to invite, what we should eat, where we should have it (and her requests certainly are anything but cheap!). My dad has offered to help pay for our wedding (and a very large part of it, at that!) but he is learning to stand on his own feet again following a nasty divorce from my mother (who is also not contributing and is not invited). And most of the people she has expressed interest in inviting are people my fiance and I dont even know!!! So I confronted her about her having to pay for those individuals that she wanted to invite because my father, my fiance and I simply cant afford to invite everyone under the sun, especially when she isnt willing to contribute to anything else. Less than a week and already my head is spinning!!!! My fiance is completely on my side but doesnt know how to communicate with his mother so thats my job....what do I say?
