>>I see no point in my friends and co-workers having to sit through a 45 minute ceremony when they are only there for the alcohol anyways!
I just wanted to say that in real life, I have never heard of anyone NOT going to the ceremony or biitching about the length of the ceremony or saying they are only there for the alcohol anyways.
You must know some hard partying people who aren't very "friend-like" to you at all. A friend would not have this attitude/mindset.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:f594b29c-3588-4398-b4c0-82f3ff0a878e">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]And....FYI....I got my original venue back...they called and had me confused with another couple the weekend before! You ladies are fun to get riled up! You have no idea how much my FI and I are LOVING reading your replies! Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
Well, then your FI is just as much of a assclown as you are.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:f594b29c-3588-4398-b4c0-82f3ff0a878e">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]You ladies are fun to get riled up! You have no idea how much my FI and I are LOVING reading your replies! Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:f594b29c-3588-4398-b4c0-82f3ff0a878e">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]You ladies are fun to get riled up! You have no idea how much my FI and I are LOVING reading your replies! Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:d70f4f61-fb88-4572-b588-c547fde9e817">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE] />>I see no point in my friends and co-workers having to sit through a 45 minute ceremony when they are only there for the alcohol anyways! I just wanted to say that in real life, I have never heard of anyone NOT going to the ceremony or biitching about the length of the ceremony or saying they are only there for the alcohol anyways. You must know some hard partying people who aren't very "friend-like" to you at all. A friend would not have this attitude/mindset. Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]
Holy fuuck. Kristin#'s just posted a normal response. *dies*
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:56d5e839-c37b-4655-a421-6c9d871dfb30">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]I have never once stated that I didn't have the money to feed all 500 nor did I say that any of you were wrong for your opinion. The problem is, most of you "ladies" are big city brides! You think $3000 dresses, $5000 reception venue, and $4000 flowers! I am NOT that way. I am a DIY bride on a budget of MY choice, because I think there are more important things in life than a wedding to remember. I am having the wedding my FI and I want with who we want. Really, all you would have had to say, is "That's not a good idea, why don't you just invite everyone to avoid hurt feelings". That's simple, to the point, and is does not cause tempers to flair. (BTW..you are sadly mistaken if you believe I am angry..I actually get a kick out of reading all the shiit you "ladies" have to say" Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE] You know what, if your kids were your world and EVERY dime went to them, you wouldn't be having a glorified party. A wedding isn't necessary, all you need is a couple of people to witness you sign the license with a JOP. So shove all of your self pity. Guess what? Some of us also have bad relationships with our parents where we can't invite them because they refuse to be a part of our lives, but we aren't doing something so classless as this. And since you don't have a venue, do as a PP suggested and have a circus for all 500 guests since that is exactly what you want. AND if you really were on such a budget, you would cut your guest list WAY down. That is always the first thing to do if you want to cut down the budget.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:042d6a2e-8842-4257-9175-73712a28d8e2">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]You're crazier than a sack full of ferrets. Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:4f16bc6a-fe85-4987-9ed7-2203810c21db">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone? : Wait. What is this fight about? I'm confused. Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]
I have no idea. I was simply pointing out Callawhatever's oh so classy moves and ohwhynot apparently didn't like that i was calling the OP out on some things.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:56d5e839-c37b-4655-a421-6c9d871dfb30">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]You know what...<strong>THIS IS MY 2nd wedding...and you know what...I am finally doing it right this time! </strong>With the right person! I'm so terribly sorry that you don't believe that women who have made mistakes in the past deserve a great future! You are right as well that I am not inviting my parents. I haven't spoken to my parents since my divorce. To be honest the ONLY time I spoke to my parents in the last 8yrs is for them to tell me I was wrong to get married the first time, wrong to have kids, and wrong to get a divorce. But keep in mind...My father is an abusive alcoholic(as was my first husband)...and my mother puts up with his abuse...therefore I have NO intention of having either of them at my wedding. If you want to go into my profile and into my past posts...go right ahead! If I was ashamed of my past or of my FI or of my engagement or of anything in my life...I wouldn't have posted it across the web for everyone in the world to see. I never asked for anyone to be rude!<strong> I asked for an opinion</strong>..and apparently no one can do that without being rude! CTgirl30~My venue does not care, because my venue is not supplying the food, music, or alcohol. I am! You have to remember, we don't all live in a world where our wedding budget is upwards of 10K. I am simple Texas girl who works my A** off for a living saving peoples lives. My kids are my world, and where every spare dime I have goes. I have never once stated that I didn't have the money to feed all 500 nor did I say that any of you were wrong for your opinion. T<strong style="font-weight:bold;">he problem is, most of you "ladies" are big city brides! </strong><span style="font-weight:bold;">You think $3000 dresses, $5000 reception venue, a</span>nd<span style="font-weight:bold;"> $4000 flowers! I am NOT that way.</span> I am a DIY bride on a budget of MY choice, because I think there are more important things in life than a wedding to remember. I am having the wedding my FI and I want with who we want. Really, all you would have had to say, is "That's not a good idea, why don't you just invite everyone to avoid hurt feelings". That's simple, to the point, and is does not cause tempers to flair. (BTW..you are sadly mistaken if you believe I am angry..<span style="font-weight:bold;">I actually get a kick out of reading all the </span><strong>shiit</strong><span style="font-weight:bold;"><strong> </strong>you "ladies" have to say"</span> Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE] You're not doing it right.
We gave you our opinion.
Nope, I grew up in a small town and my budget is $5,000. Which FI and I are paying for ourselves.
We get a kick out of your idiocy.
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In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:f594b29c-3588-4398-b4c0-82f3ff0a878e">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]You have no idea how much my FI and I are LOVING reading your replies! Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
<div>You guys don't get out much, do you?</div><div>Have a great time at your tack-tastic wedding! I hope people still want to be friends with you afterwards!</div>
OP, there's nothing more unattractive than a mean-spirited, defensive person who makes blanket statements based on stereotypes. Congrats on achieving all of the above.
Have fun at your wedding. Based on what you're sayinig, it sounds like you're the only person who will
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:ada9f14e-6e97-45a6-9759-9ac9890bf0e9">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone? : You guys don't get out much, do you? Have a great time at your tack-tastic wedding! I hope people still want to be friends with you afterwards! Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]
Salt, they aren't really friends with them now - they're only in it for the booze, remember?
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:ac39ac50-5fcd-4776-99d4-603e3478a28b">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone? : Salt, they aren't really friends with them now - they're only in it for the booze, remember? Posted by Kati0105[/QUOTE]
<div>Oh yeah. I should have put "friends" in quotes. Silly me.</div>
Kati~ Wow....you ladies sure know how to take things out of context. I never said that I couldn't afford it...just that I think there are more important things in life!
I am sorry you may not approve of the fact that yes, I do have friends who's husbands are there ONLY for the alcohol. That doesn't mean I'm not going to invite my friend....or invite her and tell her that her husband can't come! That would be rude!
Would it make you all happy if I served ALL of my guests a 5-course meal? Or do you think I should just feed them all BBQ? Cause one of you believes I should serve BBQ...and the rest tell me either feed them all or not invite them.
Lopez~Honey, you really don't affect me! If I was ashamed of the hell I have been through, I wouldn't have made it public knowledge!
Oh, and I never said any of your marriages weren't valid. My proposal story is important to me, because of my FI. You don't know him and you don't know me...so don't think for a second you have the right to judge me. If your FI got down on a knee or not...it doesn't matter...it was perfect to you! Mine...was perfect to me and my FI.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:74529b1e-2de5-4aa2-967d-6db3cf7e3818">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]Would it make you all happy if I served ALL of my guests a 5-course meal? Or do you think I should just feed them all BBQ? Cause one of you believes I should serve BBQ...and the rest tell me either feed them all or not invite them. Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
Sure, if it is within your budget to serve a 5 course meal then go for it! If not, a BBQ sounds great too. Just don't serve a 5 course meal to a quarter of your guests and make the rest fend for themselves for dinner. Invite every guest to every aspect of your wedding, however fancy or simple it may be. That's all we're saying.
I personally would rather be fed BBQ than no food at all.
"I am sorry you may not approve of the fact that yes, I do have friends who's husbands are there ONLY for the alcohol. That doesn't mean I'm not going to invite my friend....or invite her and tell her that her husband can't come! That would be rude! "
Hmmm yes....where is the rudeness in that situation?
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sorry - I was out for a few minutes. Katenumbers, as I indicated to lopezk, the OP is totally and completely wrong about the tiered reception. I stated so very clearly. I don't understand how that could be construed as defending the OP.
However, a 2d wedding and/or bad relationships with the people who birthed you have nothing to do with why the OP sucks and I thought lopezk was trying to "pile on" and was being a diick about it. Her response pretty much confirmed my impression about the being a diick part.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:74529b1e-2de5-4aa2-967d-6db3cf7e3818">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]Kati~ Wow....you ladies sure know how to take things out of context. I never said that I couldn't afford it...just that I think there are more important things in life! I am sorry you may not approve of the fact that yes, I do have friends who's husbands are there ONLY for the alcohol. That doesn't mean I'm not going to invite my friend....or invite her and tell her that her husband can't come! That would be rude! <strong> Would it make you all happy if I served ALL of my guests a 5-course meal? Or do you think I should just feed them all BBQ? Cause one of you believes I should serve BBQ...and the rest tell me either feed them all or not invite them.</strong> Lopez~Honey, you really don't affect me! If I was ashamed of the hell I have been through, I wouldn't have made it public knowledge! Oh, and I never said any of your marriages weren't valid. My proposal story is important to me, because of my FI. You don't know him and you don't know me...so don't think for a second you have the right to judge me. If your FI got down on a knee or not...it doesn't matter...it was perfect to you! Mine...was perfect to me and my FI. Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
I don't think it matters to any of us what you feed them, just that you actually feed them. If your budget allows for a 5 course meal for all your guests (not just 150) do it. If not, and you have to scale back the food to feed everyone, do it. We're not judging what you decide to serve, just that you don't want to feed all of them.
My wedding was under $3000. And I managed to feed all my guests AND give them free booze. I didn't realize this was the rich bride section of the knot.
Christ. One of you coulda said something before I made an ass of myself around here.
"You can take your etiquette and shove it!" ~misscarolb
BBQ is delicious, I'd take it. OP, you would be wise to just stop talking now. Though this has been entertaining.
Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
"cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:46feeef9-324e-4876-97ba-5359e1765d11">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]Well, hell. I've been lost all this time. My wedding was under $3000. And I managed to feed all my guests AND give them free booze. I didn't realize this was the rich bride section of the knot. Christ. One of you coulda said something before I made an ass of myself around here. Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]
Yep, we've been meaning to tell you - get your ass over to Budget Brides!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:c1005b9e-2572-4228-8faa-5c4e16b29588">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]Is there something wrong with BBQ? I love me a good BBQ. Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]
Also, am I the only one who thinks it's hilarious that there are only 2 people laughing at us (the OP and her FI) and a whole lotta us laughing at them?
And she was feeling all awesome that they were laughing at us.
"You can take your etiquette and shove it!" ~misscarolb
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:c1005b9e-2572-4228-8faa-5c4e16b29588">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]Is there something wrong with BBQ? I love me a good BBQ. Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]
No, there's something wrong with the OP.
Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
"cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_schedule-word-not-offend-anyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4eab07c6-a957-4768-bf7f-99759727eb6dPost:74529b1e-2de5-4aa2-967d-6db3cf7e3818">Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone?</a>: [QUOTE]I never said that I couldn't afford it...just that I think there are more important things in life! Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
<div>Like....playing favorites with your loved ones, but only paying for food for some of them?</div>
Re: Just to see how crazy you ladies really are....hahahaha
I just wanted to say that in real life, I have never heard of anyone NOT going to the ceremony or biitching about the length of the ceremony or saying they are only there for the alcohol anyways.
You must know some hard partying people who aren't very "friend-like" to you at all. A friend would not have this attitude/mindset.
[QUOTE]And....FYI....I got my original venue back...they called and had me confused with another couple the weekend before! You ladies are fun to get riled up! You have no idea how much my FI and I are LOVING reading your replies!
Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
Well, then your FI is just as much of a assclown as you are.
[QUOTE]You ladies are fun to get riled up! You have no idea how much my FI and I are LOVING reading your replies!
Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
you are legitimately crazy.
[QUOTE]You ladies are fun to get riled up! You have no idea how much my FI and I are LOVING reading your replies!
Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
I thought you were at work?
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[QUOTE] />>I see no point in my friends and co-workers having to sit through a 45 minute ceremony when they are only there for the alcohol anyways! I just wanted to say that in real life, I have never heard of anyone NOT going to the ceremony or biitching about the length of the ceremony or saying they are only there for the alcohol anyways. You must know some hard partying people who aren't very "friend-like" to you at all. A friend would not have this attitude/mindset.
Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]
Holy fuuck. Kristin#'s just posted a normal response. *dies*
[QUOTE]I have never once stated that I didn't have the money to feed all 500 nor did I say that any of you were wrong for your opinion. The problem is, most of you "ladies" are big city brides! You think $3000 dresses, $5000 reception venue, and $4000 flowers! I am NOT that way. I am a DIY bride on a budget of MY choice, because I think there are more important things in life than a wedding to remember. I am having the wedding my FI and I want with who we want. Really, all you would have had to say, is "That's not a good idea, why don't you just invite everyone to avoid hurt feelings". That's simple, to the point, and is does not cause tempers to flair. (BTW..you are sadly mistaken if you believe I am angry..I actually get a kick out of reading all the shiit you "ladies" have to say"
Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
You know what, if your kids were your world and EVERY dime went to them, you wouldn't be having a glorified party. A wedding isn't necessary, all you need is a couple of people to witness you sign the license with a JOP. So shove all of your self pity. Guess what? Some of us also have bad relationships with our parents where we can't invite them because they refuse to be a part of our lives, but we aren't doing something so classless as this. And since you don't have a venue, do as a PP suggested and have a circus for all 500 guests since that is exactly what you want. AND if you really were on such a budget, you would cut your guest list WAY down. That is always the first thing to do if you want to cut down the budget.
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[QUOTE]You're crazier than a sack full of ferrets.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]
Consider this phrase stolen.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone? : Wait. What is this fight about? I'm confused.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]
I have no idea. I was simply pointing out Callawhatever's oh so classy moves and ohwhynot apparently didn't like that i was calling the OP out on some things.
[QUOTE]You know what...<strong>THIS IS MY 2nd wedding...and you know what...I am finally doing it right this time! </strong>With the right person! I'm so terribly sorry that you don't believe that women who have made mistakes in the past deserve a great future! You are right as well that I am not inviting my parents. I haven't spoken to my parents since my divorce. To be honest the ONLY time I spoke to my parents in the last 8yrs is for them to tell me I was wrong to get married the first time, wrong to have kids, and wrong to get a divorce. But keep in mind...My father is an abusive alcoholic(as was my first husband)...and my mother puts up with his abuse...therefore I have NO intention of having either of them at my wedding. If you want to go into my profile and into my past posts...go right ahead! If I was ashamed of my past or of my FI or of my engagement or of anything in my life...I wouldn't have posted it across the web for everyone in the world to see. I never asked for anyone to be rude!<strong> I asked for an opinion</strong>..and apparently no one can do that without being rude! CTgirl30~My venue does not care, because my venue is not supplying the food, music, or alcohol. I am! You have to remember, we don't all live in a world where our wedding budget is upwards of 10K. I am simple Texas girl who works my A** off for a living saving peoples lives. My kids are my world, and where every spare dime I have goes. I have never once stated that I didn't have the money to feed all 500 nor did I say that any of you were wrong for your opinion. T<strong style="font-weight:bold;">he problem is, most of you "ladies" are big city brides! </strong><span style="font-weight:bold;">You think $3000 dresses, $5000 reception venue, a</span>nd<span style="font-weight:bold;"> $4000 flowers! I am NOT that way.</span> I am a DIY bride on a budget of MY choice, because I think there are more important things in life than a wedding to remember. I am having the wedding my FI and I want with who we want. Really, all you would have had to say, is "That's not a good idea, why don't you just invite everyone to avoid hurt feelings". That's simple, to the point, and is does not cause tempers to flair. (BTW..you are sadly mistaken if you believe I am angry..<span style="font-weight:bold;">I actually get a kick out of reading all the </span><strong>shiit</strong><span style="font-weight:bold;"><strong> </strong>you "ladies" have to say"</span>
Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
You're not doing it right.
We gave you our opinion.
Nope, I grew up in a small town and my budget is $5,000. Which FI and I are paying for ourselves.
We get a kick out of your idiocy.
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Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
<div>You guys don't get out much, do you?</div><div>Have a great time at your tack-tastic wedding! I hope people still want to be friends with you afterwards!</div>
Have fun at your wedding. Based on what you're sayinig, it sounds like you're the only person who will
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone? : You guys don't get out much, do you? Have a great time at your tack-tastic wedding! I hope people still want to be friends with you afterwards!
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]
Salt, they aren't really friends with them now - they're only in it for the booze, remember?
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How do I schedule and word so as not to offend anyone? : Salt, they aren't really friends with them now - they're only in it for the booze, remember?
Posted by Kati0105[/QUOTE]
<div>Oh yeah. I should have put "friends" in quotes. Silly me.</div>
I am sorry you may not approve of the fact that yes, I do have friends who's husbands are there ONLY for the alcohol. That doesn't mean I'm not going to invite my friend....or invite her and tell her that her husband can't come! That would be rude!
Would it make you all happy if I served ALL of my guests a 5-course meal? Or do you think I should just feed them all BBQ? Cause one of you believes I should serve BBQ...and the rest tell me either feed them all or not invite them.
Lopez~Honey, you really don't affect me! If I was ashamed of the hell I have been through, I wouldn't have made it public knowledge!
Oh, and I never said any of your marriages weren't valid. My proposal story is important to me, because of my FI. You don't know him and you don't know me...so don't think for a second you have the right to judge me. If your FI got down on a knee or not...it doesn't matter...it was perfect to you! Mine...was perfect to me and my FI.
[QUOTE]Would it make you all happy if I served ALL of my guests a 5-course meal? Or do you think I should just feed them all BBQ? Cause one of you believes I should serve BBQ...and the rest tell me either feed them all or not invite them.
Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
Sure, if it is within your budget to serve a 5 course meal then go for it! If not, a BBQ sounds great too. Just don't serve a 5 course meal to a quarter of your guests and make the rest fend for themselves for dinner. Invite every guest to every aspect of your wedding, however fancy or simple it may be. That's all we're saying.
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"I am sorry you may not approve of the fact that yes, I do have friends who's husbands are there ONLY for the alcohol. That doesn't mean I'm not going to invite my friend....or invite her and tell her that her husband can't come! That would be rude! "
Hmmm yes....where is the rudeness in that situation?
However, a 2d wedding and/or bad relationships with the people who birthed you have nothing to do with why the OP sucks and I thought lopezk was trying to "pile on" and was being a diick about it. Her response pretty much confirmed my impression about the being a diick part.
[QUOTE]Kati~ Wow....you ladies sure know how to take things out of context. I never said that I couldn't afford it...just that I think there are more important things in life! I am sorry you may not approve of the fact that yes, I do have friends who's husbands are there ONLY for the alcohol. That doesn't mean I'm not going to invite my friend....or invite her and tell her that her husband can't come! That would be rude! <strong> Would it make you all happy if I served ALL of my guests a 5-course meal? Or do you think I should just feed them all BBQ? Cause one of you believes I should serve BBQ...and the rest tell me either feed them all or not invite them.</strong> Lopez~Honey, you really don't affect me! If I was ashamed of the hell I have been through, I wouldn't have made it public knowledge! Oh, and I never said any of your marriages weren't valid. My proposal story is important to me, because of my FI. You don't know him and you don't know me...so don't think for a second you have the right to judge me. If your FI got down on a knee or not...it doesn't matter...it was perfect to you! Mine...was perfect to me and my FI.
Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
I don't think it matters to any of us what you feed them, just that you actually feed them. If your budget allows for a 5 course meal for all your guests (not just 150) do it. If not, and you have to scale back the food to feed everyone, do it. We're not judging what you decide to serve, just that you don't want to feed all of them.
My wedding was under $3000. And I managed to feed all my guests AND give them free booze. I didn't realize this was the rich bride section of the knot.
Christ. One of you coulda said something before I made an ass of myself around here.
"You can take your etiquette and shove it!" ~misscarolb
Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
"cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
[QUOTE]Well, hell. I've been lost all this time. My wedding was under $3000. And I managed to feed all my guests AND give them free booze. I didn't realize this was the rich bride section of the knot. Christ. One of you coulda said something before I made an ass of myself around here.
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Yep, we've been meaning to tell you - get your ass over to Budget Brides!
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[QUOTE]Is there something wrong with BBQ? I love me a good BBQ.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]
I had BBQ on Tuesday. It was amazing.
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And she was feeling all awesome that they were laughing at us.
"You can take your etiquette and shove it!" ~misscarolb
[QUOTE]Is there something wrong with BBQ? I love me a good BBQ.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]
No, there's something wrong with the OP.
Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
"cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
[QUOTE]I never said that I couldn't afford it...just that I think there are more important things in life!
Posted by ccallaway03[/QUOTE]
<div>Like....playing favorites with your loved ones, but only paying for food for some of them?</div>