In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friday-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:e103c097-bd62-448d-906a-82b8595e99e1Post:34dbcaef-5b16-478a-ba5a-1775daf6ac5a">Re: Friday!</a>: [QUOTE]So sorry for all the sucky things some of you are going through :-( I've been super stressed about work lately, and am probably PMSing, and basically just broke down crying last night when me and BF went to bed. I couldn't even really explain why - work had something to do with it, but that wasn't the whole reason. I think the damn BC pills I'm on are just messing with my hormones way too much. I think I should try changing brands. The other day I finally got to talk to my BFF for a while and got her whole proposal story. It's wierd - I'm don't think I'm *jealous* of her, because I don't want to be engaged right this second. I think I'm just feeling unsettled that someone I know really well feel like she's ready to be at that point with her BF, and they've been together about half the time BF and I have. I know you can't compare relationships like that, but I feel a little frustrated that we haven't even discussed it AT ALL. I know I could bring it up if I really wanted to, but I don't want to feel like I'm pressuring him in any way, especially with all the weddings/engagements that have been happening all around us. If only he could just read my mind and say something like "I think about marrying you someday, you know?" that'd be good enough for me! Sigh. Girl problems. Posted by Hummingbird125[/QUOTE] Hummingbird- Have you talked to him at all about timelines and where you see yourself say a year, two years, five years from now? Those are great questions to bring up the future without any pressure. Hopefully from there you can agree to a rough timeline for the future of the relationship. It's hard when someone gets engaged and they've been together less time than you. It has happened to me. I call it envy not so much jealously. I'm happy for my friends but I always think in my head- "I just want it to be our turn now". Meanwhile patient pants are on, both BF's & my sister ( is that correct grammar... Elle???) are getting married within 3 weeks of each other and two other friends of ours just closed on their houses.
I'm on Loestrin 24 Fe - I've been on it for over a year, but I definitely never PMSed like this before that. Lately it's just been worse than usual, probably due to all my work stress. I really don't like having my emotions being so unpredictable and out of my control.
I've been with BF for a little over a year and a half. Not very long in the grand scheme of things, but it's been the most serious relationship either one of us has been in, and we've been living together for about a year. I think I will find a way to bring it up with him, just because it feels like the elephant in the room right now - with both of us having a bunch of friends getting engaged/married, it feels wierd not to discuss our own relationship in those terms.
Hummingbird - I was on Loestrin 24 Fe for a while, and after 9-12 mos I started getting crazier and more anxious/depressed every month. too much estrogen for me... I'm taking Lo-loestrin now, with only 10 mcg of estrogen, and I'm pretty normal. I still get a little grouchy a couple days before TOTM, but NOTHING like when I was on the regular dose. regular Loestrin has 20 mcg estrogen.
@Danser - thanks for you suggestions too! We've talked about timelines a little. He knows that I'd love to have a baby by the time I'm 30 (he joked- "What if I told you I wanted a baby by the time I'm 30 (he's 28.5 now) - I told him "fat chance".) We've also discussed where we'd like to live in the future. Ultimately, I know there's not a chance of us getting engaged until he's happy where he is career-wise, and I totally understand that. He works for an internet start-up, and makes half as much as I do. He struggles over whether to look for something more secure and lucrative, or to wait it out and see whether this company makes it.
@Coco - that makes me feel a lot better knowing that it really could be the pills that are making me feel like this. The past few days, I really have felt depressed. I went through a period of depression for a few months about 2 years ago, so I know what it's like, and I do not want to feel like that again. Other than the normal work stress, my life is going really well right now - and I have no reason to feel so unhappy and hopeless. I'm definitely. going to give my Dr. a call soon and talk to her about switching.
I don't want to get too into it here - it would be pages - but basically it has gotten to the point where I feel like I have to talk him into caring and making an effort. And I'm just really tired and have no energy left to expend on us. So yea, I think I will give myself some space for a while and stay with my sister (who, incidentally, just moved back into her apartment yesterday when her exFI moved out). If he wants me to stay with him, he'll have to stop talking a big game and actually DO something. I guess we'll see what happens!
I had to do a lot of switching around to find one that didn't make me super crazy and depressed/anxious. and by crazy, I mean really irrational - throwing things and I didn't even know WHY. it was just too much estrogen. it took several tries to find the right thing. I've been on the lo-loestrin since January, and it's been great so far. I hope you find out something!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friday-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e103c097-bd62-448d-906a-82b8595e99e1Post:15203d77-5d38-457d-97ca-dc25dc8dfea9">Re: Friday!</a>: [QUOTE]I had to do a lot of switching around to find one that didn't make me super crazy and depressed/anxious. and by crazy, I mean really irrational - throwing things and I didn't even know WHY. it was just too much estrogen. it took several tries to find the right thing. I've been on the lo-loestrin since January, and it's been great so far. I hope you find out something! Posted by CocoBellaF[/QUOTE]
<div>I was on Avian for a while, and had the same issues. Except apparently I wasn't getting enough estrogen. They put me on estrogen pills to balance it out. Go figure. Too much estrogen = crazy. Not enough = crazy.</div>
her recipes look so good! from what I can tell all/most of her recipes are GF or GF-adaptable... and lately she's been doing some diabetic recipes as well.
oh, and when they put me on 30 mcg of estrogen, I was just nuts. like, H practically broke up with me and I threw shoes and books at the walls, and screamed and cried until I was hoarse. I got off that mess ASAP.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friday-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e103c097-bd62-448d-906a-82b8595e99e1Post:511d8a37-37d4-4fc1-8587-6f05dc60c971">Re: Friday!</a>: [QUOTE]I've been on estrostep since I was 18. I think it's a low estrogen pill and I've never had an issue with it. Posted by danser55[/QUOTE]
I was on estrostep for years before I got my IUD. I loved it. No issues with weight gain, mood swings, etc.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friday-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:e103c097-bd62-448d-906a-82b8595e99e1Post:a3ec494a-56fb-4b75-aaa7-9194d9500dab">Re: Friday!</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday! : I was on estrostep for years before I got my IUD. I loved it. No issues with weight gain, mood swings, etc. Posted by BriSox81[/QUOTE] It really is great. I've never had mood swings or weight gain. I now take the generic which I think is Tri-Legest FE and it works great as well.
I'm a little paranoid that I'm on Loestrin now, not gonna lie
Also, rdr - we just went white water rafting on vacation. I can say that I had a full blown panic attack while waiting to go because apparently instead of BC, I need anti anxiety meds or something...but once we were on the water, I was fine. And it was SO MUCH FUN! But when they tell you they're taking pictures, you should smile because my face is hilarious in all the pictures they took haha. We did class I - V rapids and it was awesome. BF also enjoyed it a TON and was like SO proud of me for picking it (not so proud of me for having a spaz attack beforehand, obviously.)
sous - sorry for all the craziness happening in your relationship. Sometimes you really do just need some time away for yourself. I hope you're able to figure out how to work things out in whatever form that takes.
lunar - I miss her too
I guess, to tell you the truth, I've never had much of a desire to grow facial hair. I think I've managed to play quarterback just fine without a mustache. - Peyton
I hate my BC. I don't even know what i'm on. I need to get it switched, but i spot during most of the month. It's asinine. But I spent a button on the three months, and i have one month left.
I am doing okay today. Currently eating a cantina steak bowl from taco bell with corn salsa. Nom Nom. I'm supposed to do dinner tonight with a friend, but she hasn't gotten in touch with me yet, so not sure if that will actually happen.
I need to call my mom and talk to her. She blew up at my sister apparently because mom's not paying to let sister move on campus. I talked to my grandma last night, and told her about my mom and what I had found out. Not sure if she has/will say anything to my mom about it.
My sister is coming over tomorrow, maybe tonight, and hanging out with me for a while. Hopefully I'll be able to get her to open up a little bit.
Cleaning, laundry, etc is on the agenda for the weekend, as well as grocery shopping.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friday-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e103c097-bd62-448d-906a-82b8595e99e1Post:0a0dfd36-6677-4501-8dcb-7c8d4a0120a4">Re: Friday!</a>: [QUOTE]Pee k- how did your job interview go yesterday??? Any word yet? Posted by danser55[/QUOTE]
<div>I think it went really well. They had one more interview today, and then she wanted to make a decision today/Monday. I'm nervous, but I think that my being really open and honest with her, and letting my personality shine through really helped. I wasn't as stiff as I normally am when I interview.</div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friday-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:e103c097-bd62-448d-906a-82b8595e99e1Post:aefaaa1c-8436-4f7a-aeec-c6a06c53d755">Re: Friday!</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday! : I think it went really well. They had one more interview today, and then she wanted to make a decision today/Monday. I'm nervous, but I think that my being really open and honest with her, and letting my personality shine through really helped. I wasn't as stiff as I normally am when I interview. Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE] Yay, good to hear. Keep me posted!
Good luck Peek! I hope they don't keep you waiting too long!
And squeeee for me, because I just found out that BF and I will definitely get to go on a mini-vacation with his family next week. His older sister and her husband and little kids are renting a beach house near Ocean City, and they invited us. His parents will also be there along with one of his younger sisters and her BF. We'll probably go Thurs. night - Saturday or Sunday. A little nerve-wracking because I've only met them twice before, but I'm excited to get to know them all a little better, and to get out of town for a weekend :-). I was also happy to see that when they sent him the info for the house, they addressed the email to both of us, which is very nice considering I hardly know them.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friday-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:e103c097-bd62-448d-906a-82b8595e99e1Post:b28d4195-1690-4a5d-9c88-318d788131da">Re: Friday!</a>: [QUOTE]I was also happy to see that when they sent him the info for the house, they addressed the email to both of us, which is very nice considering I hardly know them. Posted by Hummingbird125[/QUOTE]
I been with my bf a similar amount of time as you (based on your post further up the thread) and it is things like this that really put a smile on my face. It's so nice to feel accepted by them.
Loestrin 24 Fe was fab for me when I first started taking it but recently (after about 1 year) I've noticed some side-effects that I really wouldn't mind getting rid of. After reading what you've been feeling though, maybe some of my down moments would have been less unpredictable if I was on something else. My insurance sent me a list of ***free*** bcp too, so maybe I can go on one of those.
Re: Friday!
[QUOTE]So sorry for all the sucky things some of you are going through :-( I've been super stressed about work lately, and am probably PMSing, and basically just broke down crying last night when me and BF went to bed. I couldn't even really explain why - work had something to do with it, but that wasn't the whole reason. I think the damn BC pills I'm on are just messing with my hormones way too much. I think I should try changing brands. The other day I finally got to talk to my BFF for a while and got her whole proposal story. It's wierd - I'm don't think I'm *jealous* of her, because I don't want to be engaged right this second. I think I'm just feeling unsettled that someone I know really well feel like she's ready to be at that point with her BF, and they've been together about half the time BF and I have. I know you can't compare relationships like that, but I feel a little frustrated that we haven't even discussed it AT ALL. I know I could bring it up if I really wanted to, but I don't want to feel like I'm pressuring him in any way, especially with all the weddings/engagements that have been happening all around us. If only he could just read my mind and say something like "I think about marrying you someday, you know?" that'd be good enough for me! Sigh. Girl problems.
Posted by Hummingbird125[/QUOTE]
Hummingbird-
Have you talked to him at all about timelines and where you see yourself say a year, two years, five years from now? Those are great questions to bring up the future without any pressure. Hopefully from there you can agree to a rough timeline for the future of the relationship.
It's hard when someone gets engaged and they've been together less time than you. It has happened to me. I call it envy not so much jealously. I'm happy for my friends but I always think in my head- "I just want it to be our turn now". Meanwhile patient pants are on, both BF's & my sister ( is that correct grammar... Elle???) are getting married within 3 weeks of each other and two other friends of ours just closed on their houses.
I don't want to get too into it here - it would be pages - but basically it has gotten to the point where I feel like I have to talk him into caring and making an effort. And I'm just really tired and have no energy left to expend on us. So yea, I think I will give myself some space for a while and stay with my sister (who, incidentally, just moved back into her apartment yesterday when her exFI moved out). If he wants me to stay with him, he'll have to stop talking a big game and actually DO something. I guess we'll see what happens!
[QUOTE]I had to do a lot of switching around to find one that didn't make me super crazy and depressed/anxious. and by crazy, I mean really irrational - throwing things and I didn't even know WHY. it was just too much estrogen. it took several tries to find the right thing. I've been on the lo-loestrin since January, and it's been great so far. I hope you find out something!
Posted by CocoBellaF[/QUOTE]
<div>I was on Avian for a while, and had the same issues. Except apparently I wasn't getting enough estrogen. They put me on estrogen pills to balance it out. Go figure. Too much estrogen = crazy. Not enough = crazy.</div>
http://mommyimhungry.blogspot.com/
her recipes look so good! from what I can tell all/most of her recipes are GF or GF-adaptable... and lately she's been doing some diabetic recipes as well.
oh, and when they put me on 30 mcg of estrogen, I was just nuts. like, H practically broke up with me and I threw shoes and books at the walls, and screamed and cried until I was hoarse. I got off that mess ASAP.
[QUOTE]I've been on estrostep since I was 18. I think it's a low estrogen pill and I've never had an issue with it.
Posted by danser55[/QUOTE]
I was on estrostep for years before I got my IUD. I loved it. No issues with weight gain, mood swings, etc.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday! : I was on estrostep for years before I got my IUD. I loved it. No issues with weight gain, mood swings, etc.
Posted by BriSox81[/QUOTE]
It really is great. I've never had mood swings or weight gain. I now take the generic which I think is Tri-Legest FE and it works great as well.
Also, rdr - we just went white water rafting on vacation. I can say that I had a full blown panic attack while waiting to go because apparently instead of BC, I need anti anxiety meds or something...but once we were on the water, I was fine. And it was SO MUCH FUN! But when they tell you they're taking pictures, you should smile because my face is hilarious in all the pictures they took haha. We did class I - V rapids and it was awesome. BF also enjoyed it a TON and was like SO proud of me for picking it (not so proud of me for having a spaz attack beforehand, obviously.)
sous - sorry for all the craziness happening in your relationship. Sometimes you really do just need some time away for yourself. I hope you're able to figure out how to work things out in whatever form that takes.
lunar - I miss her too
I am doing okay today. Currently eating a cantina steak bowl from taco bell with corn salsa. Nom Nom. I'm supposed to do dinner tonight with a friend, but she hasn't gotten in touch with me yet, so not sure if that will actually happen.
I need to call my mom and talk to her. She blew up at my sister apparently because mom's not paying to let sister move on campus. I talked to my grandma last night, and told her about my mom and what I had found out. Not sure if she has/will say anything to my mom about it.
My sister is coming over tomorrow, maybe tonight, and hanging out with me for a while. Hopefully I'll be able to get her to open up a little bit.
Cleaning, laundry, etc is on the agenda for the weekend, as well as grocery shopping.
[QUOTE]Pee k- how did your job interview go yesterday??? Any word yet?
Posted by danser55[/QUOTE]
<div>I think it went really well. They had one more interview today, and then she wanted to make a decision today/Monday. I'm nervous, but I think that my being really open and honest with her, and letting my personality shine through really helped. I wasn't as stiff as I normally am when I interview.</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday! : I think it went really well. They had one more interview today, and then she wanted to make a decision today/Monday. I'm nervous, but I think that my being really open and honest with her, and letting my personality shine through really helped. I wasn't as stiff as I normally am when I interview.
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]
Yay, good to hear. Keep me posted!
[QUOTE]I was also happy to see that when they sent him the info for the house, they addressed the email to both of us, which is very nice considering I hardly know them.
Posted by Hummingbird125[/QUOTE]
I been with my bf a similar amount of time as you (based on your post further up the thread) and it is things like this that really put a smile on my face. It's so nice to feel accepted by them.
Loestrin 24 Fe was fab for me when I first started taking it but recently (after about 1 year) I've noticed some side-effects that I really wouldn't mind getting rid of. After reading what you've been feeling though, maybe some of my down moments would have been less unpredictable if I was on something else. My insurance sent me a list of ***free*** bcp too, so maybe I can go on one of those.