I need some input ladies!
So I just got engaged about 2 weeks ago. My family has pretty much kicked me to the curb (another long story) and therefore, I have no one really to talk to about the organization of weddings, what to do etc. My Fiance's sister who lives in the same town as I do, has been helping me with what to begin with etc. I was over at her house last weekend talking about what I need to do first, asking a bunch of questions etc. She asked me when I think I was going to have the wedding. I said probably 2 years just so we can save up (remember my family kicked me to the curb and not offering any money). She said that was probably too far away and 1 1/2 years would be good. We started to count the months and ended up between March-May 2012. I figured thats a great time to do a destination wedding (what my fiance and I want to do). Then the sister informed me that her and her husband were planning to have another kid at that time. (She was the first sibling and kid to get married and have the first grandkid- and pretty much everyone in the family put her on a throne it seemed like). I asked her saying what should I do, since I do want his family to be at the wedding, and she replied that I don't have to plan around her. Which is fine and all, but why did she even bring it up if she didn't think it was going to be a problem? I asked a few friends that aren't married yet to tell me how I should react and move on and they all told me that my wedding is first, and that if she wants to show up all big and pregnant at the wedding- that's her decision. But I am afraid that I will be overshadowed by her having another kid (remember I said everyone in her and my fiance's family put her on a throne). Am I just crazy for being this "selfish" or concerned? Or do I have a right to be a little upset? How should I react and move on at this point?
Also, today, she even brought up the point about her having a kid AGAIN at that time, to my fiance. So obviously she's making it a big deal right? Since she's brought it up TWICE?
I could really use some input, whether it is just to move on and just plan away or do I need to bring it up to her- my concerns about being overshadowed etc?