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ugh!!!!! NOW DEBATING DEST WEDDING

ericalynn2008ericalynn2008
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my fiances mother wants us to do a trad wedding, so that everyone can make it and see us get married. if we do a dest wedding. which is what i really want to do , not everyone will be able to go.!! but i am fine with that, i could care less if it was just me and him!! i dont want to do all of the planning and stressing and everything,,,.. ugh.... my fiance was hooked on the dest wedding, but now she has talked himinto a trad wedding, sooo frustrating!!!!!!!!!!  WHAT DO I DO!!???? HELP!
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  • natalie115natalie115 member
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    Simply put you need to do what makes you guys happy. If you both wanted a DW then you will regret not doing it. I have never heard anyone regret a DW. Sit down w/ you FI and have a chat about why he's changed his mind. Remind him of why you two wanted a DW to begin with. You can always do a reception when you get back to celebrate w/ everyone. Don't let people pressure you into something you don't want b/c you'll end up being miserable. GL!


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  • ericalynn2008ericalynn2008
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    THANK YOU !!!
    YOU HELP SOO MUCH!!!!
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  • natalie115natalie115 member
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    We got married in Hawaii last November. Neither one of us would have traded our wedding for anything. We still talk on a regular basis about how amazing it was and how glad we are that we did a DW. So hang in there if it's something you really want!


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  • ToBeMrs.O2011ToBeMrs.O2011
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    LIke Natalie said, you have to do what's right for YOU BOTH! Its your day, nobody elses (no matter what some ppl like to think)

    Talk it out and you'll come up with the decision that's best for you!  Good luck!
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  • caymans_christycaymans_christy
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    You definitely need to talk with your FI.  It would worry me that his mother has that much pull over him and his decisions.  Your wedding needs to be about what the two of you want, not the three of you.  You need to let him know that, while you should take into consideration others' opinions, ultimately, the decision is up to the two of you.  This is a great opportunity to work on communication skills and compromising.  I would find out from him what has changed his mind - is it the idea that certain people will not come to a DW, or is it that he doesn't want to upset his mother.  Then, work the issues from there...

    GL!
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  • chosen175chosen175 member
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    Ditto pp's - you need to decide JUST YOU AND YOUR FI what YOU want for YOUR wedding.  His mom had her chance, it's not her turn anymore.

    Maybe a nice compromise would be to find a place that does live broadcasting of your wedding via the internet as it's happening -that way you can have your DW and those back home can still see it as it's happening.  Then when you get home, you can have a full-blown reception if you want to placate his mother.  (Personally, I wouldn't give in to her - otherwise it's going to be the first of a LONG string of her demands about how you should live your life, where you should live, how to raise kids, etc.  Stand up to her now and set the precedence.)

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