Grand exits...are they really necessary?

ourwedding111111 · March 2012

"But if you think people don't notice or they "don't miss it", sorry but they do, and clearly people here have only been to cheaper weddings

Posted by LauraLarry" Wow LauraLarry, that's quite an obnoxious and bold statement you've made! We did not have a grand exit, we were at the reception till the very end...celebrating with our guests. Not a single person asked when we were leaving, not a single person even thought about it...they were all having too much fun. And, our wedding was *anything but cheap.* If a bride and groom want to have one, then they should, and if the don't...then don't - but to make the claim that if a couple doesn't do a grand exit then their wedding was/is going to be cheap is really out of line.

2012FutureMrsB · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_grand-exitsare-they-really-necessary?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:78149889-9d9b-4a8d-910d-f205ae6e7f35Post:6bb28c08-17f6-46c6-a80b-25927d4a2b1d">Re: Grand exits...are they really necessary?</a>:
[QUOTE]Not necessary. And kind of silly, if you'll all be afterpartying! As a general rule, <strong>any aspect of a wedding that requires the bride and groom to bask in the spotlight while the guests are subjugated into being an audience can be cut.</strong>
Posted by AFP07[/QUOTE]

Um, you mean like the actual <em>wedding</em>? Because that's kinda what it's all about - two people making a public committment to each other while everyone watches.

[Deleted User] · March 2012

I don't think that it's necessary, but it sure is a great idea to do one. You only get one wedding exit, and it makes for an awesome photo op. However, if all you're doing is blowing some bubbles or throwing rice, it can be skipped. It really only has an effect if it's something 'cool' like sparklers or something like that. Hope that doesn't sound rude, just my opinion. I don't think that you have to actually exit either, you can just create a mock one for the photographer, and then go back into the reception. Or you can intice people to stay until the end of the reception by letting them know that you'll have a special exit that you'd like for them to be involved in (like holding the sparklers, rose petals, etc. ) and keep it for the VERY end of your reception. Like right after you leave, the guests follow. In doing this though, make sure that you don't do this in a way that makes guests feel obligated or pressured to stay until the end. Many have other things to do after your wedding reception. Another option is to not even do an exit, but intstead have guests go outside (if not already) and have a mini fireworks show for everyone. Just do what works in your budget. No need to break the bank. Plus it's your wedding, I'm sure that 20 years from now you won't look back and regret not having a grand exit, but if you did have one, it would make for a nice memory and picture in your living room,lol.

musicalcanadianbride · March 2012

The last three wedding receptions I played at did not have grand exits. The bride and groom were the last people to leave! The one before that wanted to do one and had planned for their last dance of the evening to go right before, and then they put the kybosh on the whole thing because they were having such a good time. :-)

neisserboone · August 2012

Grand exits are a que for the remaining guests that it's over, and one last chance to wish the B & G well. The whole point is to celebrate WITH you. Of course some guests won't last, but as a 50 + yr old, I've never been to a wedding without one, and have never left before one. Of course I live in Texas, and we believe in parties and traditions.

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